Fear of death won't go away

People don't like getting old, and they don't want to die.

Getting old means you can take it because you're alive. No, I can get old only because I've been kept alive. This is despite the fact that the only way to avoid getting old is to die.

Then, they say they don't want to die, but there's only one way to avoid dying: not being born. However, both you reading this sentence and me writing it have already been born, so it's impossible.

Death is inevitable. No one knows when that moment will come.

One step ahead is darkness, a phrase I often hear, but this is what it means “I am living in the present where I may have a relationship with my own death (an encounter beyond imagination) one inch ahead.”

In other words, we don't know what is in the dark or what relationships await us.

The only thing that's clear is now that I'm being kept alive. First, let's face that fact head-on. That's where it starts.

Your ancestors and those close to you who died are Buddha who teach you that firsthand. Then, it is Amida Nyorai who notices the Buddha's teachings and asks them to do their best to take care of the lives they have received and live without wasting them.

The form of listening to those teachings and wishes and receiving them is the word Nanmu Amida Buddha.

Please take good care of the present that you are being kept alive, cherish your relationships with the people around you, take care of your life that has been passed down from your ancestors, and live your life without regrets even if you die one minute away.

Whether it's an answer or not, I don't know how it can be taken, but I take life and death that way, and if asked, I can't answer that.

Also, it means that people are foolish because they don't want to die and can't get away from their obsession that thinks so, and since they are such foolish people, I'm joining hands with Amida.

Gassho

It seems that Ikkyu Sojun muttered “I won't die” when he died.

Everyone who has life is afraid of death. I don't want to die.
(The exceptions are Arhats who have attained complete enlightenment and lives that have too strong opinions)

However, whether you are afraid of death or not, that time will surely come.

There is a Buddhist practice called “death with death.”
It's an ascetic practice that strongly remembers “I'm going to die,” but when we go out of our way to do this, it's nothing but because we've forgotten that simple fact.

Me, that person, and anyone else are bound to die.
If you can understand that from the bottom of your heart, there should be no boring conflicts, worries, and wasted time.
What is really important is to notice something, do what needs to be done, and live desperately for a limited time.

I think you were able to take the test this time and really think about a lot of things about your life. I want you to remember and cherish that thought.

People who take their fears and weaknesses head on can develop compassion for other lives.
“Everyone is afraid of violence; everyone fears death. Don't kill yourself, and don't let them kill you.” (Dharma Sutra)

The length of life cannot be chosen depending on the person's work.
However, you can choose how you live and how you feel. You can make changes right now.

Even for me, I may not be able to let go of my fears at the last moment.
Even so, I made the most of the time I was given in this world. I hope they will pass away satisfied that it was worth being born as a human being.

May Haru's heart be at peace.

No matter how much you think about death until you die, you will never die while you are alive.
You probably didn't remember sleeping when you went to bed yesterday.
It's the same when you die.
Please think thoroughly about dying as a test today too.
It was simply thinking about death while I was alive, and you should be able to understand that this body is still alive.
Even if you can watch and hear the deaths of others while you're alive, you can't just experience your own death.
You're not afraid of death.
You're just torturing yourself with the negative image that accompanies when you think about death.
This is because there is no clear perception or image of death.
If you are in Saitama, please come to a zazen session.
Overcoming the fear of death makes people much stronger.
Let it be something valuable to you.
Those that have something to lose are weak.
You can eliminate what you lose. We look forward to seeing you.

Haru-sama
Nice to meet you, my name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an.

People fighting illnesses you see on the internet and people who don't seem to be afraid of death are actually not like that. It's just that I haven't been afraid because I haven't shown that figure, or that I've never experienced death.
Fear of death is an instinct for life. I feel pain when I hold my breath, and when I touch fire, I feel hot. You may be able to get used to it somewhat through training, but you won't be able to get rid of it.

So, I think Haru's “obsession with life” is natural.
If you live for your family rather than yourself, you'll be sad and afraid of breaking up with your family.
Conversely, even if you live for yourself rather than your family, you'll be afraid of your own death.

If you think of death as “nothing,” you'll struggle and suffer because you don't want to be nothing.
Even if you think there is a world after death, you will become obsessed if you don't want to leave this world.

The story changes, but it's not a bad thing to think or be afraid of death. Thinking about “that day” that will surely come illuminates the meaning of life.

The workshop “Death Experience Trip” that I am hosting was originally aimed at medical personnel, but it far exceeded my expectations and the general public is accepting it.
In sharing after the workshop, it seems that they have gained deep awareness about what they felt when imagining their own death, what is really important to them, and why it is important.
http://753an.blog.so-net.ne.jp/archive/c2304172527-1

Haru spent her days actually imagining death, not in a workshop. I'm sure that experience will turn positive later.

・See thank you and follow up
Thank you for your excessive words.
Nagomi Hermitage is in Kanagawa Prefecture. When it comes to trains, Higashihakuraku on the Toyoko Line is the closest, and Higashikanagawa and Nakakido are also nearby.
Even in Saitama, it's an easy place to visit depending on the location. We do various things such as puja and shakai. Please feel free to drop by.

Haru

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

How are you after the surgery? I sincerely pray for your recovery. Please don't overdo it, don't be impatient, and take your time to nourish yourself.

That's right... it's also difficult to say that it's pretty easy to understand...

First, it's not about dying and becoming “nothing.” I've dealt with this a little bit in the questions and answers below.

Question “I want to enjoy waking up in the morning and have an unavoidable, fulfilling day”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/169

Question “What is the meaning of life?”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/300

As I proceeded to learn about “sky and fortune” in Buddhism, I was able to understand a little bit about the state of mental inheritance that does not die little by little and becomes “nothing,” and continues even after death. Of course, it's still a bit of understanding by an immature person who is still a bit savvy, but... I've also dealt with this a little bit in the question below.

Question “I think about death”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/318

Also, regarding fear of death, we have answered the following questions so far.

Question “The meaning of life, I'm afraid of dying”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/292

At the level of ultimate truth (Katsu Yoshitaka) that Buddhism thinks, there is no “life” and “death” as an entity, and as a secular level (secular), it comes down to understanding what is called “emptiness and luck,” where you think there are “life” and “death” for the time being, but... hmm... it's still difficult...

Anyway, that's right... it doesn't end with death; I think it's important to adjust the state of mind now by not doing evil deeds, and keeping the state of mind (inheritance) clean with good “relationships” such as Buddha relationships if possible, so that the inheritance of a better heart towards enlightenment will continue from now on, so that the inheritance of a better mind will continue from now on, leading to enlightenment. In other words, it comes down to “all kinds of Buddhism” as the basis of Buddhism, that is the basis of Buddhism.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho