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I'm worried about what I can do about the job. I'm worried that something isn't being said

I said thank you before.
It really supports my heart.

Let's get right to the question,
In order to change myself in a new way just recently
I was wondering if I could do something, and I've never done it before
I started a part-time job in customer service.

But when it comes to the day before work after the holidays
Can we do it tomorrow? I wonder if they'll get mad at me? It makes me anxious.

It's only been about a week since I started
There are so many things I don't understand, and I'm thankful that people around me tell me to listen to more and more things they don't understand...

Things that make me angry and anxious only come first.

Also, it became a story about the previous shift, and the people around me carried on day and night
There are times when I go in, but I only go in during the day
Don't people around you go in the morning either? Can't you go in at night? It was said
When I said I couldn't get in, I was pretty quick to say that's enough.

I wonder if they haven't worked that much in places where I haven't been since I was told that
I'm worried that it might be being said.
It's also bad for me not being able to properly say why I can only eat lunch, etc., and I'm not the only one who only has lunch...

Are you worrying too much about me? Also, it's like I'll be able to get courage from tomorrow
Please give me your words.

4 Zen Responses

Make choices that won't make you suffer...

 For now, I think I should make choices that won't make me suffer. This is because people who say a lot of things are also thinking about how difficult it is for them to spend their time without getting used to it. If you want to do this first and then take a step forward, it might take a little longer. You're not breaking the rules, so stay strong. It's also important to endure for a while and be forgiving. Make an effort to remember your current job and think about who you're working for. (It's for the customer, right?) It's also important to calm down without getting too emotional. Someday, let's be able to show smiles to our colleagues, customers, and ourselves at work.

I'm just starting out, so it's natural to feel uneasy.

 If it's only been about a week since you started, it's natural that there are a lot of things you don't understand. People around you are telling you to listen to more and more things you don't understand, so you can just take it as it is and ask questions.

However, it is better to properly state the reason why only lunch is included. Aki isn't the only one who only has lunch, so if there's a proper reason, I don't think anyone will blame her.

You won't run out of unfamiliar jobs and worries you've started to change yourself, but it's only when you overcome them that you'll be able to meet your new self.

It's just your thought, thinking that.

I will respond with quotes.
“Can we do it tomorrow? I wonder if they'll get mad at me? It makes me anxious”
→You can make it a problem when you can't do it tomorrow. It's a waste of time to worry about not being able to do it before you can do it.
→You should only take it seriously when they are scolded. Being scolded isn't the end of the world.

“Only things that make you angry or anxious come first”
→Wise men know they are not offended until they are scolded. Even if they get scolded, they immediately correct their trajectory.

“It makes me anxious that people say they don't work that much where I'm not.”
→Isn't it “your feeling” that people think they care about? ('・ω・`)

“Are you worrying too much about me?”
→Has anything ever happened that was good for you because you care? It's a smart way to live by not doing anything bad.

“Please give me words that will give me courage starting tomorrow.”
→Even if you think about tomorrow, it won't be tomorrow until tomorrow, so don't worry.
Think of it as receiving, studying, and gaining what you think of as a loss.
Limit excessive self-consciousness to the extent of correcting one's own collar.
Be determined that I'm not going to work for money, but that I'm going to work to overcome my negative image.
What is more valuable than money is to stop bullying yourself with your own thoughts and ways of looking at things.

How to deal with an anxious mind

Aki

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

How about a new job? I wonder if you've gotten used to it a little bit already..

Since there are various circumstances for each shift issue, I think it would be sufficient to have prior explanation and approval from the supervisor/recruiter. You probably won't have to worry about working the night shift until you're not used to it yet. Once you start getting used to it again and have some mental and physical leeway, I think you should think about it.

Recently, we have been answering questions about “anxiety” and “fear” with the following questions.

Question “I'm terribly afraid to do anything, and I can't step ahead”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/497

Question “I just got a job, but I can't help but feel uneasy.”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/460

Question “I can't change my mind”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/479

Actually, most of the “anxiety” and “fear” are due to delusions, and there is a high possibility that they have greatly inflated themselves and suffered even more.

The question “If this heart doesn't exist, will that heart move?”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/380

Therefore, first, I recommend that you calmly and thoroughly analyze things, observe, and verify what exactly makes you uneasy.

Then, next, if we can set priorities and gradually increase what we can do one by one, I think we will eventually be able to eliminate such anxiety little by little.

Of course, as you progress, even more uneasy things will come up, but similarly, it is important to respond in line with reality.

There also seems to be help and encouragement from everyone around you, so don't worry too much, spoil yourself where you are spoiled, and try progressing steadily one by one. I pray for good deeds.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho