What can you do after refining your soul?

I read it.
It makes me think about what I'm going to improve myself for. I understand the feeling that bothers you even when dealing with people.
I also feel that it is quite difficult to continue studying.
Buddhism, the Buddha's teachings, are teachings that aim for everything to attain Buddhism, that is, become a Buddha.
To put it simply, everything becomes a Buddha means to eliminate greed, erase anger and hatred, never think or act foolishly, keep your mind clean and calm, and always feel safe, stable, and happy. And it's about knowing the truth and gaining wisdom, in other words, gaining enlightenment.
If you do that, you will accept everything as it is, and you will be able to have an amicable relationship with everyone.
There, there will be no more hesitation, worries, or painful feelings.
It is the Buddha's teaching to strive for oneself in this way, and by studying, it means refining oneself.

I think you have that feeling firmly in your heart.
It's not easy to think I'm living my life, but everything is part of stopping training and refining myself.
Please don't be in a hurry, be honest about what is right in front of you, and be honest in your relationships with people.

I sincerely pray to the Buddha and your ancestors that you will continue to do your best with an honest feeling, live well with everyone, and have a rich heart.

I read your consultation.

People were probably not born to polish or grow their souls.

No, more specifically, they are not born with the purpose of “for 00” given in advance.

The reason we were born is simply “because there was a cause for being born.” So the meaning of life “for ○○” is “how do we live after we are born?” I think it belongs to that kind of problem.

Now, what caused you to be born as you? People don't understand that because of human knowledge.

I don't know, but as far as I can imagine, I can only say for sure that the endless conditions that go back from when your parents met until the birth of life and the universe miraculously came to fruition here and now.

How are you going to live your life even if you don't get born?

No matter how hard you try to live, death is inevitable. No matter how much they grow, people get old, get sick, and die.

Then do we need to grow?

It wouldn't be surprising if you thought that.

Alright, as far as I've read your sentences, I don't think you're not logical. In order for you and your boyfriend to get along well, maybe your boyfriend also needs to grow up. It's not about which one is inferior or superior, and there are cases where personality differences are difficult in order to get along well. If that's the case, it's probably not something that can be managed by growing up.

In other words, what do you and your boyfriend want to do after all? That's it.

If you want to be with the person in front of you, you will have to make the necessary effort to do so. You could call it growth.

So it doesn't mean we have to grow up, and we can even decide to break up. And it can also be viewed as growth where people proactively make choices in an encounter.

Instead of fighting with your boyfriend about which one is right or which is logical, etc., it would be nice if you could go back to the origin of what you originally wanted to be with this person.

Hello, nice to meet you

Buddhism does not assume an immutable existence called the “soul,” so here I will write the answer as a question about what lies beyond personality development and life itself.

Speaking of my own conclusion, I think that after the effort described above, I will encounter the real thing for me.

It's a vague way of saying it's real, but that's simply because there's probably a difference between the real thing I'm looking for and what you're really looking for, and your boyfriend and what you're looking for may also be different.

The pioneers of the past, present, east, and west have each been asked for their own authentic works. However, what was difficult for each was their own unique path. That's why Buddha is not Confucius, and Judaism and Islam are not equal.

In Buddhism, there are roughly two directions
One is that humans are gemstones, and if you polish them, they shine, which means you can become a Buddha. The other direction is to think that humans cannot polish jewels, and that there is a fundamental problem with that ability.

Both of these aim for the real thing of becoming a Buddha, but the theoretical logic of each is different. And, of course, it doesn't mean which one is winning and which one is inferior. Each has its own theory.

You're probably worried because you haven't followed your boyfriend's theory.
However, isn't it just a story where there is a reality that your boyfriend's theory and your own theory are different? You have your own reality, and you have your own logic. Valuing that will also be necessary when building equal relationships in the future.

The logic of a boyfriend's own growth
The logic of your own growth

Both are definitely different, so please take good care of them.

It is for the growth of the soul, but originally, the soul is equivalent to Buddha (an entity that has attained enlightenment).
Therefore, the soul does not grow, and the existence called “me” wants to experience that, so I think I was born into this world and have had various experiences.

Who am I through everything in my current environment, all the people I meet, up until today, and future events. I just want to experience it.