Are memorial services bad for ancestors?

The other day, I wanted to know about my “ancestors,” so I started making a family tree.

Then my maternal grandfather's mother (my great-grandmother) was unenrolled. My great-grandmother had a torii gate at her home, and I heard from my real mother that she was close to a so-called psychic. I heard that it was Inari-san who enshrined it.

I've never met that great-grandmother, but I was worried about her existence and had no choice but to create a family tree (I don't know why). I know the facts and it's vague, but I wanted to do a memorial service for my ancestors.

You can tell the full name from the family tree. I don't know the anniversary of his death or birthday. Definitely my great grandma though!

My great-grandmother may have been unenrolled due to some circumstances, but if my great-grandmother hadn't given birth to my grandfather, my mother wouldn't exist, and of course I don't exist here now. In addition to her grandfather, she had also given birth to several other children.

Naturally, my last name is also different from my mother's last name. Still, my great-grandmother hasn't changed.

In such cases, is there a problem with holding memorial services for ancestors? To be honest, I've seen sentences that say it's better not to do it, so I'm at a loss.

Please give me some advice.

5 Zen Responses

Ozen memorial service

Rina-sama

When it comes to ancestral memorial services, it is important to think and appreciate the kindness of parents, grandmothers, and even their ancestors, and perform memorial services.

Naturally, they are ancestors with whom we have a deep relationship and connection, and I don't think there is any particular problem with the memorial service.

As a form of memorial service, especially as a form of chasing good deeds, chasing good deeds means delivering and reporting merit.

In sects that perform memorial services, Sega demons serve as memorial services for ancestors, and that means delivering and reporting good deeds that saved their suffering and good deeds that saved those people's suffering and good deeds that made offerings for good destinations to their ancestors.

Well, it's important to do something good and deliver and report on that merit.

Therefore, even if you don't do a formal memorial service like this, you can also use it as a memorial service by reporting to your ancestors and those who have passed away that you have done such a good thing.

Well, of course, it is official to perform it according to sutras and turns by the monks, but...

As the original meaning, it is important to do good things and then deliver them (if possible, through sutras and the power of conversion).

Please do something good and report it to your great-grandmother. For example, just calling your name in your heart and remembering that you did a good thing today is enough for a memorial service.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

　Hello. When I was researching my ancestors, I found out that my maternal grandfather's mother (great-grandmother) was unenrolled. I was wondering if holding a memorial service for this person was a good thing or a bad thing.

In my denomination (I think other denominations too), from the standpoint of protecting human rights, we are not cooperating with ancestry searches or family tree preparation that have nothing to do with memorial services. Perhaps this incident about your great-grandmother was also a fact that you didn't want to know, and that you didn't want others to know. Listening to your story, I felt that I must continue to properly protect this position (not cooperating with ancestry searches or family tree preparation etc. unrelated to memorial services).

Well, people have various circumstances. There are probably ancestors who aren't registered, and ancestors who are not related by blood even if they are enrolled due to adoption etc. They are “ancestors,” including such facts, so I think it would be good if you held a memorial service with your own feelings. I think it's a very good thing to make a memorial service for your ancestors. Let's talk to the temple of the family.

That's great!

I read your question.
Even if the name is different,
No matter how different graves are,
My great-grandmother is my great-grandmother,
It's there.

To my great-grandmother
Think back to it,
Put your hands together, put your hands together,
Great-grandmother,
Thanks to my great-grandmother,
Let me live like this
I received it.
Thank you very much.
I appreciate it.

I wonder if this is enough for the memorial service
Once a month,
Offer tea and Japanese sweets,
I don't need a Buddhist altar.
Even on top of a chest of drawers
Put it down and put your hands together.
Thank you so much!

You from the Pure Land
Watch over gently
Thank you for protecting me.

Please be happy

Don't discriminate based on your ancestors

　Hello, Rina. It's Otetsu. I understand your thoughts very well.
Well, first of all, it's an ancestral memorial service, but please do it. When it is the anniversary of your death, such as a license plate or past book, please set it up and make an offering. Please put your hands together and offer prayers such as sutras. Please do not differentiate or discriminate based on your ancestors. However, it is better to report and consult with the family.
When tracing a genealogy, it's better to step up from yourself to the past, but never show it to others. This is just to protect personal information.
Once upon a time, when family members had criminals or leprosy, etc., there was a time when relationships were cut off by family members. I think families should do memorial services equally.
I think you're someone who can make decisions with a sense of conscience even if something like that happens in the future. Also, if you have any problems with being told by your family, please contact us.

Whether they were related rather than whether they were related or not.

Please do a memorial service.

The same surname is not the only ancestor.

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