Is it OK to leave the temple and parents and get married

Even if you get married, you will eventually have to take care of your parents in their old age as a daughter. You're worried about that, aren't you?
It would be safe if someone were to marry you at the temple that is your home.
There are also women who continue to work for the old age of their parents at their parents' house,
Conclusion 1: Whether it's okay to work or not, you should ask him to promise financial support for your parents' old age so that after your parents leave the temple, you can take responsibility for watching financial support (deal with them on an equal footing).
My parents, too, want to do the best they can.
You should let your partner have the feeling of getting married, abandoning the feeling of getting married, and getting married on an equal footing.
I think you should leave the temple at your parents' house and hand it over to someone when your parents retire, but that's up to your father, so don't worry.
There are also positive stories, such as having 2 grandchildren and making them candidates for succession when they grow up.
Love means taking responsibility up to that point, and of course I am prepared to support my partner's parents in their old age when I get married.
When he marries you too, it means he takes responsibility for everything that comes with you. That confirmation should be taken. The number of helicopters hasn't increased at all.
You should also be prepared to prioritize his parents' old age over their children.
As long as there is a feeling of mutual support to fill those weak points, wisdom is something we can do without being connected.
In the first place, temples belong to a corporation, and are not personal property.
Therefore, when inheriting a temple, I think it is necessary to be prepared to let go of things that are borrowed, not to make them personal property, and that they will eventually let go.
In any case, they are two people who have been living within restrictions by killing each other individually since they were born in a temple.
I wish you happiness. (^mu^)

　I thought it was something I would inherit from when I was able to remember, so I don't think it's unreasonable that I can't make up my mind. Her mother has passed away, so she is probably already working in that role as well. Temple duties may be delayed as soon as you leave the temple. By the way, is your sister's family at the temple?

However, it is unlikely that the temple or your parents will be happy without you being happy yourself. Even if you prioritize that and give up on marrying your boyfriend, your sense of regret will only continue.

As an ideal one, I think it would be good for your child or nephew to take over the temple.

Nice to meet you, Hikari.
If you are concerned about your temple, why not discuss it with your family, especially with the parishioners and executives such as caretakers and gujikai. Temples are not just for the temple family. It is a worship facility jointly owned by a parishioner.
If the parishioners and members of the temple family have strong feelings for the temple, they may be sheltered from marriage.
It's about how Hikari's feelings move at that time.
Ultimately, it's up to you to make decisions you won't regret!
After that, there may also be various cases of what to do with Gojibou's future, such as enrolling yourself or your sister's child into the temple, considering abandoning the temple or integration with other temples, giving up marriage and remaining in the temple.
If you're serious about your relationship with your current man, let's take it seriously with your own temple.
Of course, please have a serious conversation with him too!

　(Exemplary answers)
This is not Hikari's problem; it's a matter of her mentor (chief priest) and the president. The temple is not yours. It belongs to a religious corporation. At first glance, it seems that the will of one person works, but it is decided by discussions between the chief priest and the executive (general representative). Here, the reality is that even if Hikari, who is a woman, tries to become one, if the executives are against it, she won't be able to become one, even if she wants to take over the temple. It's different if Hikari is qualified as a monk, but if not, you should be with a man you've fallen in love with. You should get married with peace of mind because you think about the rest of the day.
(eagle answer)
Everyone might say that, but if you think you might not be able to rely on something in the family left behind, I think it's possible to become a chief priest in the form of concurrently serving as a male companion. There are also monks like that here and there. I know monks who also serve at 2 or more temples across different prefectures. If Hikari's temple is surprisingly spacious (there are few temple duties, temple duties), wouldn't it be a good idea to also work concurrently? Hikari should be able to follow up. One way is for you to qualify as a monk. Recently, believers have also left their religion, and it is a reality that the number of people who have left their religion little by little is increasing. It's also a reality that we can't stop it, so one way is to take this kind of shape now. It may be a good chance to keep going from one child to another. What do you think?

Hikari-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Temple succession issues...

Originally, Buddhism is something that should be handled in order to address lost and suffering sentient beings everywhere... but somewhere, as the times have changed, secularization has also gone through significant secularization, and now it is being treated as something selfish and conservative for specific people such as temples, religious believers, traders, and sectarian religious groups, or in bad terms, as some preferential thing... in a society where informatization and diversification are progressing... in a society where informatization and diversification are progressing, temples, monks, and sectarian religious groups are being treated more and more While we are entering an age where various strict eyes are being placed on the surrounding situation, I also know that the difficulty of operating and managing temples and maintaining believers is increasing year by year...

Under such circumstances, for example, efforts by “Future Chief Priest School” (http://www.oteranomirai.or.jp/juku/, General Incorporated Association Oji Future, Representative Director, Matsumoto Jokei) have recently attracted a great deal of attention in order for temples to survive and aim to overcome this critical blockage situation in a cross-sectarian manner.

Now, regarding the temple succession issue, I have recently been able to answer the following questions, but anyway, I know that “ambition,” which deals with Buddhism, will be more important than anything else when it comes to succession to temples. By all means, I'm looking forward to the future of both temples, and I also know that area would be left in the corner of my head.

Also, I know that Hikari's life is Hikari's life, and that it is also important that you walk steadily with your own will so that you don't have any regrets. I wish you happiness.

Question “There is no successor to the temple.”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/478

“... Anyway, in dealing with Buddhism, I know that ambition is more important than anything else. If we don't nourish that aspiration, in the end, we will reluctantly and unavoidably take it as appropriate, it won't benefit the parishioners and believers very much, and I don't think it will be OK in the future. ・・”

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho