I want to be needed by someone

Nice to meet you, I'm Ohashi in Donanbo. Minto-san is selfish, isn't she? (lol)
They don't want to be needed; aren't they imposing it because they need it?
What seems really necessary is to be asked when the other person thinks they need it
A person who is willing to take requests and can handle everything they are asked to do. I think so.
Don't assume they aren't needed. Wouldn't it be good to smile and laugh when asked to?
If I couldn't do it, I'm sorry! I think this natural response is good.
That was my opinion.

Nice to meet you, Minto-san, my name is Akazawa from Ichimyoji Temple.

I want to be needed by someone... it's a very important feeling. Very well put forward. Please don't say you're mentally young.

This is because it is very important for humans to “open up their hearts and interact with people” in their lives. Everyone loses energy if they don't socialize with people.

However, today's Japanese society is becoming more and more isolated, and that is not unavoidably isolated; the bad thing is, everyone is voluntarily isolated. The Personal Information Protection Act is the most important of them.

Minto-san's “Kamatte-chan spirit” is an important element in creating a circle of people, the idea that “we all help each other to live,” which we are lacking now. I think it's very admirable.

Just by breathing, I have value in my existence. I think so. Please acknowledge yourself so loosely.

When a sales call saying “Isn't there any use for 00 (^<^)” enters the temple, they say, “Thank you. We'll contact you if necessary, so that's fine.” I'm Tange and I'm refusing.
You're not just a spoiled bastard or anything like that.
What you're looking for is “approval.”
It's about satisfying the desire for approval.
I recommend that you be directly spoiled by your husband.
I want you to praise, acknowledge, and evaluate your hard work.
I recommend that you state that it's no good if you don't have them do it.
I'm sure the reason for this was how they were loved by their parents.
It's a good idea to look back on those circumstances and find out why you're always trying to fill that gaping feeling.
Depending on who you interact with, you should complete each role, but that doesn't necessarily mean you have to do something every time.
From a husband's point of view, a wife.
From a parent's point of view, a daughter.
From a friend's point of view, it's a friend.
But when we say friends, we can't see each other every day if we're both over 30 because it's convenient for both of us. It's not because you need or don't need it, so there's no need to dent it.
I was able to do this today, I tried this too, so let's keep a diary praising myself.
By doing so, cells will naturally flow into the brain.
With recipient cells, happiness can be found there even if they are not recognized by people, so it's fine even if they are not evaluated or needed. (^▽^) Thank you for your wonderful questions.
Thank you for helping people who have the same problems as you.

Minto-sama
Nice to meet you, my name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an.

I think humans have fundamental desires (appetite, desire to sleep, sexual desire...) as animals and higher desires unique to humans. “I want to be needed by someone” probably falls into the latter category.

When I analyze myself, I think there is very little desire to live a good life or wear branded products. Instead, I think there is a strong desire to be useful, recognized, and praised by others.

So I understand Minto-san's feeling of “wanting to be needed by someone.” To exaggerate a bit, I think it means that you can acknowledge the value of your existence when someone needs you.

If we work in a direction that feels good, I think “let's become a person needed by others, and let's refine ourselves for that.”
If you work in a bad direction, you might end up becoming the “Kamatte-chan” you say yourself.

Minto-san, let's work hard every day so that we can both be the former.

Minto-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

I know that the desire to “be needed by someone” is certainly an important idea for living in a world made up of this auspicious dependency of helping, supporting, and sharing.

Also, I think there are times when we work hard in various ways because we “want to be needed.”

Minto-sama has that feeling twice as strong as anyone else's, so if you are denied or rejected, you'll still feel somewhat lonely...

Anyway, that thought is also something that comes true when there is a partner, so if you are not in a state where they can accept you, it will still be difficult. I think that's something we shouldn't be self-indulging in and complacency. It may also be necessary to make an effort to capture the other person's thoughts, thoughts, feelings, and convenience.

However, I'm worried that “being rejected” = “feeling that I'm not needed” is a bit extreme...

Also, “I can't help but worry about emails and SNS when I sleep because I'm so worried about emails and SNS that I wonder if someone will call me.” ... There may be a risk of internet addiction in a sense... If it is severe, it is also conceivable that adverse effects will occur, such as interfering with life or leading to a significant decline in communication ability. If necessary, an examination or counseling at an appropriate medical institution or psychosomatic medicine may be necessary, so I think caution is necessary.

Anyway, when the feeling of “wanting to be needed” is getting stronger, I think it would be a good idea to stop for a moment and calmly think once again about whether the other person really needs it so that you can think about the other person.

I pray for good deeds.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho