Questions to the monk

I've asked for an answer to resolve the issue, but I'm deleting it.

Hello Masa-san. Thank you for writing. It's been a while.

I also feel like I've talked about things other than those 3 before, but Masa-san is paying attention to those three words.

Yes, that's right. I also don't think it's good to run a temple at someone else's expense. I sympathize with Masa's thoughts on that.

Also, I think it's strange about the 3 words that Masa-san is paying attention to.

After all, I feel like ① is being blamed for me, and I think I'm writing ② on hasunoha because I can't cherish it. I think ③ is replacing questions with ascetic and study questions.

In that sense, I'm not saying that everything Masa says is wrong.

I think there are many ideas, but I'm happy that Masa-san conveys words of dissatisfaction here. Masa-san, please let me hear your voice again.

[I will add a reply to the words of thanks]
Yes, that's right. It's hard to say, but it's probably going to be handled as if Masa's switch on this trolling mode has been turned on. It's not being ignored; I think the management side is dealing with it.

Sorry, I don't like praying for anything. I'm sorry, but I can't pray for Masa's or your child's last name.

Not limited to temples, there are probably cases where helping your spouse's parents' house feels like a “sacrifice.”
There is probably no need to focus criticism on temples or Buddhism anymore.
I feel like it's a “sacrifice” for people who don't like having their spouse's parents' house help harvest rice at the farmhouse or helping their spouse's relatives with ceremonial occasions.
You don't need to be a “sacrifice” if you don't like it.
Note that the person who answered Hasunoha is a monk.
As a monk, speaking from a Buddhist standpoint,
I would like to say that the anguish of anger causes worry, suffering, and stress.
If you, your husband, and your husband's parents all let go of your anger, smile and be kind to each other, and help each other when needed, your worries, suffering, and stress will decrease.
“I don't like it” is the affliction of anger.
In Buddhism, there are techniques to control and eliminate worries such as anger.
For the time being, I will be advertising Buddhism.
What do you think in Christianity at a time like this?
Like when my parents' house is a church...

It's natural that people have different values depending on their position.

If you stand on the temple side
I also understand my parents-in-law's thoughts
If I stand by your side
I can understand that problem too.

“Self-interest, altruism, and happiness”
Sacrifice yourself
You can't make others happy.

If I were you
I'm leaving the temple.
I actually clashed with the former chief priest
Stay away from the temple for about 3 years
I was doing other work.
During that time, they got married and had children.

I entered the temple from my home
I didn't change my last name; I changed the temple rules.
If you want to leave your last name
Your child or grandchild (a story far ahead)
I think it would be a good idea to adopt a child from my biological parents.

Kids are small now
Because my parents-in-law are doing well too
I think you can put your family first.

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Q: Why was it limited to when my son was small and my husband's parents were doing well?

A: If that's the case
That's because I thought it would be recognized even if you were free.
The situation changed and my mind changed
even if your family goes back to the temple in the future
I don't think any of the followers would criticize it.

if you don't even want to think about that possibility anymore
If my husband doesn't want to take over the temple
Let's ask my husband to leave the temple.
The chief priests of other temples will act as successors.
That kind of situation has become normal.

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“Going back” is from the standpoint of a disciple.
The “husband” and “bride” are clearly men superior to women
Is “parents-in-law” antonym of “biological parents”
I don't think it includes the meaning of men being superior to women.
Apart from your feelings
Who are your “husband's biological parents”
Because it's your “parents-in-law.”