I just changed jobs, but I want to quit

I got a job in retail after college.
After working for a year and a half, there were more days off on Saturdays and Sundays, and the number of days off increased, and I was inexperienced and changed to a technical job because I wanted to somehow acquire skills from now. (currently 3 months)
But I already feel like I want to quit.

reasons
① The technical things learned in the training are not used in the field, and other techniques are used

It's mentally painful to start with only a few technical terms applied to what I've learned, and suddenly it's full of things I don't understand.

② The gap between 2 months of training, the field, and previous job

The training is training, so even when I asked something I didn't understand, they taught me from the beginning, so I managed to overcome it.

They follow this procedure at the site, and the stance is that if there's something you don't understand, do your own research, and if you still don't understand, ask.

I don't think that stance is bad at all; rather, I think it's natural.

However, what is written in the procedure is all technical, and even when I look up that technical term, I can't understand the meaning,
Even if I ask, they can't tell me clearly if I read this properly or because it's written on this page.

As a result, asking questions has become a hassle, and we have fallen into a state where we don't know what we don't understand.

In my previous job, I was doing my own research, and basically if I asked, they would tell me, but in the midst of so many things I didn't understand, I felt mentally difficult to do it with this stance.

As a result of the above, sleep disorders, loss of appetite, abdominal pain, etc. have occurred, and it is a mentally difficult state, such as not feeling like playing games that I usually play, etc., and not feeling like I have to study.

Even if I haven't done anything, work comes up in my head and I feel uneasy, and I regret changing jobs.

My parents tell me that I don't need to work until I break my body, but in reality, leaving my job twice for a short period of time would be a pretty tough situation,
I feel sorry for myself that I got a job in a place that didn't fit my height and ended up in this situation.

I am seriously aware that you are saying something indecent, but I would be happy if you could give me any advice, etc.

Sorry for the long sentence. Thank you for your support.

3 Zen Responses

Let's set goals and make it through...

　Unfortunately, I think it's true that “two short-term job turnovers would realistically be a pretty tough situation.” In that sense, I would say that you are at a crossroads in your life.
However, if you can't continue with your current job... or if you are in a state that has an adverse effect on your mind and body, it may be unavoidable that you will retire.
But when it's time for your next job... I think a pretty tough situation awaits you after that, even if you are job hunting or happy to get a job.
Here's one thing: let's acquire skills.
There are various qualifications for technical jobs, retail businesses, etc. Let's get them. Let's study hard for that.
If you “live somehow,” “your life will end somehow.” all that's left is regret... I don't like that kind of life.
If so, let's make up our minds, set our own goals to work on, and try it out. Let's get through with it.
The problems you have are the ones you can solve, and no, you are the only ones who can solve them.
The Buddha won't leave you alone when you work so hard. He will continue to support and guide you.
So, let's start now...

Life usually doesn't go the way you want it to.

I'm sure you're also seriously aware of that
The current situation must be really difficult.
You probably don't think this was supposed to be the case
After all, I have no choice but to get hungry.

The decision is
Are you quitting
Do you do your best
It's a choice between the two.
Which one
Isn't that harder for you?

I also took a look at your profile. I have a restless personality, but I had no major problems during my childhood. Seen from people around me, I think I was living a very smooth life until I graduated from college.

Unfortunately, however, I feel that your own successful experiences are scarce. I think there are circumstances at that time, but if you think about a long life, it may have been important to save the first stage in aikido as one successful experience. Among them, studying hard and getting a “designated school recommendation” is one of the important successful experiences with great significance.
I don't have many successful experiences, so I don't have confidence in myself and I'm worried about the eyes around me, so is this OK? is that bad? They may be swayed by the way they are viewed from the outside.

The reason I quit my previous job is that it is written that I can expect to improve my skills by changing jobs, so I think that's fine for now.
If I had 3 months in place of my current job, would it be OK if 2 months were a training period? If that's the case, I think it's 1 month since the training is over, but I think it's natural that what you've learned in the training won't be used in the field. In training, I think they often learn about the total necessary company systems and proper grooming, etc., such as techniques, senses, manners, etc. that they would like to acquire in the long run. Also, I think there is an aspect of being able to look at individual personalities and ways of thinking during the training period.
There is a saying that my boss doesn't answer questions, but this is my opinion when I don't really understand IT-related matters, but isn't it difficult to answer due to the person's skill state etc.? That person was also told “it's written there...” by a senior, and maybe they read it carefully and solved it in their own way. As a result, they may have overcome barriers with their own strength and experienced “small successful experiences.” When I think that kind of experience is important to you, I think it will lead me in the same way as my boss.

It's better not to think about why you want to quit ②. It doesn't make sense. It is necessary if you want to return to your previous job, but in that case, please often look at your own feelings and emotions when you quit your previous job and decide to change jobs to your current job. The grass next door looks very blue.
I don't think there's a problem if you have a solid reason to convince people even if you leave your job twice for a short period of time.

I don't think it's necessary to continue until you get sick, but I think it's a good opportunity to face your own life carefully from multiple angles.

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