I can't hope for Ninomiya Kazunari's happiness

I am now 20 years old and have dedicated everything to Kazunari Ninomiya ever since I was in elementary 2. One day, Ninomiya Kazunari got married. Normally, I'm happy, but since my partner has a lot of blogs, it was someone (Ito Ayako) who made me smell it, so it's unbelievably painful for me to get married to that person. Even when I look at Kazunari Ninomiya, I think “Ayako anyway,” and it's painful to watch Ninomiya Kazunari becoming more and more cool and cute. However, since he has been a fan for a long time and is someone I love and respect both as an idol and as a human being, there is no reason why I don't like it, and even though I want to quit being a fan, I can't quit. It became difficult just watching Arashi, so there was a period where I stopped watching Arashi for a while, but when I tried to quit, the presence of Ninomiya Kazunari was ingrained in my head and heart, so the act of quitting became painful.

And yesterday, it was reported in the weekly magazine that they had a child. I haven't heard it from the person himself yet, so I don't know if it's true, but after hearing it and I got home, I couldn't stop crying no matter what I did.

I really love Kazunari Ninomiya so much that I love him the most in the world. But that's really painful. When I think that I have to live with such painful feelings from now on, I even think that I don't want to live. I don't have the confidence that I won't like Kazunari Ninomiya anymore.

Should I quit being a fan of Kazunari Ninomiya after all? How can I quit? What on earth do I think from now on and what is the best way to live my life?
I'm waiting for your reply. Thank you for your support.

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Take “likes” one step ahead

Hello.

The text painfully conveys the feeling that you “really love” “Ninomiya Kazunari.”

I'm asking, “Should I quit being a fan of Kazunari Ninomiya?” However, your reality is that “let's quit when you try to quit, the presence of Ninomiya Kazunari is ingrained in your head and heart, so the act of quitting became painful.” Therefore, the question itself about whether or not to “quit” right away is not realistic. Why don't you think about it according to your actual situation?

Feelings are probably high within you, and “confidence that you won't like you” is currently impossible. However, what I want you to think about is what a “like” is.

As one person said, it seems that humans become less likely to “like” people as they get older.
This is especially true in elementary and middle school, but the fact that boys are cool, can study, and play sports are so-called popular elements, and girls are popular elements such as being cute, well-groomed, and kind.

But that's just one facet of a human being. My feelings are furiously heightened when I see only that small cut out part, and that is what “likes.”

However, as we get older, we begin to look at humans in a multifaceted way.
You can take a look, but it's cold.
It's cute, but people have different attitudes.
You will be able to see humans in total.
Also, there are good things that you notice later, and there are bad points.
You'll be able to look at things with that kind of calm.

Rather than saying that intense emotion “likes” decline, it means that “likes” become difficult to develop easily because you can see things fairly and calmly. The state of human heart that doesn't fit into that “like” is probably called love or bond.

I also saw Ninomiya-san in the movie.
That's cool.

But that's just one part of the whole “Ninomiya-san,” cut out as an actor as an “idol.” As a matter of fact, he is still a living person who gets married and has children.

It might be a good opportunity to graduate from being a “Ninomiya-san” fan of “Idol,” accept “Ninomiya-san” as a human being, and become a fan who has taken “likes” one step further. Instead of forcibly forgetting it, you may be able to enjoy it in a new way by changing your mind.

[Henjin Nikanryu Rete Kakumenu] Meie Shonin

“Should I quit being a fan of Kazunari Ninomiya after all?”
If you've lost your motivation to cheer, why don't you quit?
No matter how much she values her fans, if you know that you feel unhappy by making yourself happy, that is extremely unwilling, and I think it will seem annoying because it makes it difficult to work.

“How can I quit?”
“What on earth do I think about the future and how am I going to live”
Aren't you already aware that you've woken up from a dream called a sense of ecstasy?

Ninomiya has already completed the update as a single person. Shouldn't you renew your life too?

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What is happiness for you?

Until now
I was in a pseudo-romance with Ninomiya-san.
That's enough for now
Since he got married
That didn't come true either.
Who are you now
I'm just heartbroken and full of jealousy.

Because idols are jobs that make you see dreams (pseudo-romance)
Other than having a relationship or marriage
Because he's also such a talented actor
They probably don't stick to normal idol images.

If you quit being a fan after getting married
I can't say I like it the most in the world.
Is that OK?

If you want to quit, stop

　Relere-san, it's amazing that you've been a fan of your favorite entertainers for so long. I think they have patience in a sense.
I want to quit being a fan because my favorite entertainer got married. If that's the case, please quit.
Thinking in reverse, if you're an entertainer, even if you have someone you like and want to get married, depending on the office, fans and images... etc., and it seems that there are cases where you give up. As long as performing arts activities are concerned, it is difficult to protect the image that has been created. If you don't like an entertainer who got married after changing that, quit being a fan. You can also change trains separately. The group's activities are about to be suspended, so this is a great opportunity.
I'm in my 20s, so why don't you understand the circumstances of adulthood soon?
It's up to you whether you take my opinion as a reference or not.

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