Pregnant due to infidelity

Both infidelity and abortion are strange ways of saying it, but there are quite a few stories. It's not a wall you can't walk through alone.

No matter which path you choose, “wouldn't a different path be better?” You may think, and the regret that “I should have stopped at an earlier stage” may continue. However, I hope I will eventually be able to acknowledge that I was an unstoppable self in the previous stage, albeit disappointing yet frightening.

You can't have an affair or get pregnant alone. It's not just your fault that you're bothered. There are deficiencies in social structures and social norms. A man who puts women's bodies and minds at risk without contraception. Moreover, it was discovered. It doesn't make anyone happy...

I'm sorry for being ahead of schedule, but if you choose an abortion, it seems that “suction” rather than “dilated curettage” is less burdensome to your body. Try to take it into consideration. Also, it seems that the method of using medicine is the least burdensome, but it is not officially recognized in Japan. This is also strange.

Also, if you can talk to an older woman who is suffering from similar problems, I think they will give you more specific and effective advice than me.

There is a revolutionary book on abortion, women, and men by Kumi Tsukahara called “Abortion Technology and Reproductive Rights” (Keiso Shobō). (Learn about the “Aspiration Method” etc. from here.) It's a bit pricey, but if you can, read it. It was a blessing in my eyes.

The life you live in isn't important, but your life is most important.

If you try to turn difficult things into something other than difficult things, it becomes extra painful.
Trust your instincts when times are tough

Being driven by torches lit by oneself in a dark prairie is called “freedom.”

Good evening.
Being an online consultation from a standpoint where you don't know the deep circumstances
I'm sorry if I put it in a tough way.

My child, my own
Isn't it getting harder because you think you have to make your own judgments?
Please don't blame yourself too much.
There is a difference between deciding for yourself and deciding for yourself.

Not only is it true for the other party,
I really want you to tell them about your painful feelings and worries.

Unwanted pregnancies are also one of the causes of child abuse.
Is it a desired pregnancy or an unwanted pregnancy?

If you choose to give birth,
In the future, when I meet someone I really like...
When someone who wants to raise this person's child shows up...
Are you prepared not to blame your child?
I wonder if I'll make my kids feel any more painful after appearing in Shaba with that determination,
Whether that's not the case is going to change.

Also, whether children are sacrificed or not
After that, it changed depending on how Haru Haru lived.
What is the simple sacrifice of a life ending without going out into the world
There are also cases where it is difficult for those who have experienced an abortion after a miscarriage to receive it.

The difference between abortion and stillbirth is week 22.

There is a difference between making your own decisions and making your own decisions.
There is also the use of institutions such as public health nurses and female counselors.

I'm sorry for making it so hard for only women.

　There is a morning educational television program with a song called “Today's Choice.”
“Which shall I do today's breakfast”
“Which should I do today's clothes”...
“Where Will Today's Choices Take Me”
It's a song that feels like that.
Life is a series of choices like this.
Each time you met someone at work and the relationship that followed, you must have always thought about it and proceeded in the direction you thought was a “good choice.”

Of course, the fact that a new life has taken hold in your body is also a result of the various choices you have made up until now. But you're not solely responsible for the results. You are also responsible for the choices your partner makes. Rather, I think the other person is more responsible for the choices they have made. You should properly talk to the other party and get them to recognize and properly pay child support, etc.

I can't say that it's irresponsible from the standpoint of hitting a crackle keyboard in front of a computer like this, but I want you to cherish the life you've been given. If you think you won't be able to raise them, why not talk to the city hall or the like once? There must be a system to support child-rearing. There are also methods such as the foster care system and adoption. I'm sure there are people who need your stomach's life.

Haruharu-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Exactly, no matter which one you choose, you may be faced with more than a few hardships... it's really hard...

I wonder if your heart sounds have already been heard... apart from your intentions, is your new life trying to live to the fullest...

It's just my opinion, but abortion is honestly... the opposite...

Even from a Buddhist point of view, I understand that abortion is in the opposite position...

However... there are certainly various circumstances that should be taken into account. I would never say that the opposite is absolutely true.

No matter which one you decide, don't regret it, please look forward and do your best to accumulate a little bit of merit.

Even if you have an abortion, please join the Mizuko memorial service and thank you all for your support.

I pray for Haruharu's happiness.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Good evening.
I'm a woman the same age as Haru Haru.
I'm Yuki Shizuku, a female professional wrestler and counselor apprentice.

I'll start with the conclusion.
There are other options besides abortion or childbirth.
However, I'm talking about this on the premise that Haruharu really sincerely treats that child as a parent, and that even if Haruharu is not the sole responsibility of Haruharu, he won't forget what he did and that they will be firmly accepted.

It's close to the plan that has already been put forward, but it's called special adoption, and it's a system where children born are accepted as children in foster parents as they are in the family register.

It seems that it will go from a child counseling center to a family court.
It seems that there are now NPO organizations that do special adoptions.

In other words, children that are born can be taken in by foster parents without knowing that they themselves are children born of an affair.

There is no end to the life of the stomach.
A child who is born can live without knowing a child born out of an affair.

Honestly, when the special feature on special adoption was shown on TV, I got angry like a raging fire and made a complaint to the TV station.
I made a phone call saying that a special adoption would promote a pregnancy where there is no responsibility by saying anything is fine.

However, there was also support from other seniors, and I wrote it this time because I thought it would be possible to have both without getting hurt and not being hurt by talking about special adoptions.

I've seen a lot of babies abandoned by their parents due to work.
Seeing the environment surrounding those babies, I shed a lot of regret and tears.
There is absolutely no way for adults to take away the original happiness of children without permission.

If special adoption is chosen,
“Oh, now it's been written off. Do you think, “It's a blessing, it's a blessing.”
“I'm going to live my life to the fullest without wasting this.” Do you think
I think an ending with a difference between heaven and earth awaits.

I saw the news that a child had been killed and said, “If it's too late, why didn't you come to me.” There were also a lot of people crying.

To be honest, I don't think this is the best correct answer.
However, we will be sharing the voices from the field.

I gave this answer this time with expectations for Haru Haru's future as a woman of the same age.