About the commandment names and dharma names

Kaima and Dharma names are names you get when you become a disciple of the Buddha, and they are originally given when you are alive. We, the monks, received it when we received a degree. There are quite a few ordinary householders who received the commandment during their lifetime. It depends on the denomination, but it seems that there are many cases where people participate in classes and ceremonies for one or several days. Please ask at a temple you have a connection with, such as a family temple. There are places where events are held every year or once every few years. Also, it seems that there are sects that give the commandments from time to time.
Giving a kajime after death is an afterthought for someone they had no relationship with during their lifetime, and it seems that it has been around for over a thousand years in Japan.

Kaimyo is originally a name given when you became a monk after becoming a monk during your lifetime.
It's a monk's certificate.
Also, people who have become monks aim for enlightenment through ascetic practices.

Like the Jodo sect during the Kamakura period, etc., even if you were a monk during your lifetime and did not come to your senses, you can ask Amida Buddha to take you to the Pure Land of Paradise.
Aim for enlightenment by practicing with the Buddha and your ancestors in the Pure Land of Paradise.
The teaching spread, and it seems that ceremonies of becoming a monk were performed after death, and the kakana came to be given.
After death, they become monks and aim for enlightenment in the Pure Land of Paradise.

However, the founder of the Jodo sect, Honen Shonin, taught that the Buddhist scriptures indicate that the way to get to the Pure Land of Paradise is to ask Amida Buddha, who created the Pure Land of Paradise.
In other words, to ask is to say Namu Amitabha Buddha.
It's probably also sung in the Jodo Shinshu sect.
(Most likely, in the Jodo Shinshu sect, people sing nembutsu in gratitude for being saved by Amida Buddha.)
So, even if you don't have a kaimyo, you can go to the Pure Land of Paradise if you say Namu Amida Buddha.
If you go to the Pure Land of Paradise, there will be many Buddha statues, so you can also enter the Buddhist priesthood there and receive the commandment name.
With that in mind, it might be okay to force yourself not to have a commandment during your lifetime.

I think there are many other ways of thinking.
Please find a way of thinking that you are satisfied with.
Let's study together.

　As the name suggests, a “commandment” is given a commandment to become a disciple of the Buddha (disciple of the Buddha) and is attached as proof that you have become a disciple of the Buddha. In other words, it was originally something that living people would wear when they became a monk.

Becoming a monk means throwing away everything up until now and practicing ascetic practices in a new place where no one knows anything. It's a life reset, isn't it? It's like when he just passed away. The funeral of the Soto sect is about giving commandments and commandments to those who have died and making them disciples of the Buddha.

What if you wanted to throw away all of your life up until now, reset everything, and try a little harder so that no one finds you in a new world? After all, you want a new name for your new self, right? It's a new world, and you get a clean name. I think that's a commandment.

Even if your will says don't do a funeral, don't pick up bones, and don't give it a legal name,
I'd like to do something for them at the memorial service as a feeling on the sender's side.
I also understand the senders' feelings,
Is it a will after understanding the sender's feelings?
Rather than saying which one is better, if you think you are good, I think both will work.
I think feeling is more important than shape.

While we monks are all alive, we are living by the commandment names while we are alive.
In my case, “〇? “Kakugen” is a commandment name.
However, no matter who you are, I'll say that if you just get a kakana, you're still half a serving as a person.
This is because in Buddhism, it is not OK to receive a commandment.
If you have received a commandment name and haven't lived a “way of life suited to the Buddha's path,” it's a false label. Disguised Labels
You can't name the Buddha even though he's not a “good person.”
Now that they are attached, they live as if they were a “good person.”
In the case of a deceased person, of course, the bereaved families are an issue.
There are also people who say “donations are expensive.” You can also do it cheaply.
More than that, when will the life you love yourself end? There are no commandments or holy names without asking the question.
A way of life that is not suited to the Buddha's path is an egocentric way of life. Ego, self love, my thoughts.
If you live that way of life, you will always suffer.
I don't think the world needs to get better because it's all about me.
People who think that's not going to happen will awaken Bodhicitta. I want to make the world better, so I throw away my ego, improve my spirit, and do things that benefit the world.
To that end, first of all, it is important to have one's own spirit.
I received the commandment, and here I am explaining to you the best way to be as a human being.
It's too late after death.
This is because if we don't have a vow to become that kind of person while we are alive, all humans will die as irreligious people.
It's like being unreligious = living only for yourself.
Of course, even if they are not religious, there are people who unknowingly leave their ego and live linked and overlapping with the Buddhist way of life. The substance is more important than the label. If you get a great label, live up to it.

The question “what about the kaima and dharma names” is half way off. This is because the main body is the main body of the law (sukyo) where you receive commandments such as the commandment of immortality and immorality and become a monk, and the name is not the main body. (However, the Jodo Shinshu is an exception since it is a special sect where there are no commandments in the first place. I won't even mention it in this answer)

I don't understand this, so the multimedia view of funerals is an amateur theory. Please don't take that kind of thing in between. Even in editorials in Buddhist newspapers, aside from tourism-related articles, “programs and articles that are even slightly social” have been criticized as “low quality” and “lacking basic knowledge.”
http://www.chugainippoh.co.jp/editorial/2016/0316.html

Well, adhering to the precepts is common all over the world in Buddhism. Actually, it seems that even in India, people receive the precepts at funerals after death. Or rather, if you read the link below, it seems that although the shape is different, it essentially does the same thing as a Japanese funeral. At least Zen Buddhism.
http://www7a.biglobe.ne.jp/~zen9you/pada/syokus.htm
I practiced ascetic practices in Laos, and monks also have funerals in Laotian Buddhism (the genealogy of Thai Buddhism). Who said that monks only have funerals in Japan! that's a terrible big lie!

I am of the same opinion that it is preferable to take the commandments during life. Even a day earlier is better.
However, becoming a monk does not mean that you gain an identity as a monk; it is a state where I have left out the selfishness that I am. That's why it works so quickly when you finish who you are as a person and return to nature. Including the memorial service for the bereaved families.
Through sending out close people, those left behind think about their own way of life. In Thai Buddhism, children receive the precepts at the parent's funeral. Whichever subject you receive the precepts is fine, but in the end, I want everyone who comes into contact with those precepts to think about a way of life with Buddhism.

Therefore, I would like you to refrain as much as possible from making your own requests that “I don't want you to do a funeral for me.” No matter how many books you read or watch TV shows or movies about life, you can't learn what's really important. There is no choice but to experience it as an actual experience. Therefore, opportunities for anyone to learn are a series of events that continue from funerals to memorial services, and it is Buddhism that gives that learning a good direction. The essence of a funeral is not a name, but a cocchi.