I can't build a good relationship with my daughter.

On my days off, I spend all day in my room... even though I'm old, this is a problem, isn't it? I don't think it's unreasonable for Renren to feel frustrated as a parent.

When people try to become independent, it is said that the independence of someone close to them helps them. At this time, why don't you try Renren becoming independent from her young lady? Being a junior college student is already 18 years old, so it's hard to call a girl even though she's a minor. She has her ideas, and she may have the idea that “it is natural to take a break from day off.”

How about it. Why don't you give up taking care of yourself refreshingly as your last job as a parent.

What makes Renren frustrated with the young lady may be a sense of déjà vu that she is similar to someone she knows very well (someone she knew), or maybe she is superimposed on herself. Anyway, the current situation is probably just stressful for both of us, so from now on, why don't overdo it and aim for Renren herself to live alone first.

“Around the clock” is a good thing.
There are many women, but when they live alone due to the loss of a partner, etc., there are people who cannot forgive themselves for being “around all day,” and become very unstable.
Humans, or rather animals, rest all the time when they don't need it.

Conversely, if necessary, we will always act.
Isn't it a smart way to be a smart parent to create such relationships?
My daughter said, “I want to live alone!” How about making a home that makes you think?
If you run away, you'll be chased, so on the contrary, try treating them like sticky kids.

It has always been said, “Let cute kids travel.”
I would recommend Thailand for the first time.
Going outside of one's own world can be an opportunity to become independent.
“Do good things in Japan. Don't do anything bad.” These values are common sense.
But it's different in Thailand.
Thai said, “I don't mind doing bad things. It's a value that says, “You should do good things for that amount.”
So Japanese people are easily deceived.
Being stimulated by culture shock like this can be an opportunity for people to change.
It is not a country with a culture that imitates Japan, such as Europe or America, and I recommend that you let them come into contact with unfamiliar Asian culture.

First of all, I think the fact that you have been raising a young lady until today, has gone through a lot of hardships behind the scenes. Thank you for your hard work.
It's fine. People change. It is precisely because there is someone who can do it for her that Miss Sloth has always been a hermit.
In one experiment, in kindergarten, when the teacher says “clean up,” the child who always takes the initiative to clean up will clean up.
With the exception of those children, when I say “clean up,” kindergarten children who weren't usually cleaning up started cleaning up this time.
With the exception of those children, when they say “clean up,” it seems that other kindergarten children will start cleaning up, and eventually everyone will clean up.
Even at Zen temples, each has its own position, but when a certain Osho, who everyone thought was Guutara-kun, was in the position of leader, he was nervous and excellently fulfilled the position of chief.
I think it will change if the person who gives them responsibility or says that they are getting married soon makes them feel necessary.
The greatest joy of volunteering is also the increased “sense of self-usefulness” of being able to help others. Let's change the purpose of the young lady, such as “developing a sense of being happy to be useful.”
You're probably unaware of it, but I'm sure your mother's way of speaking is getting harsher day by day, and your attitude and facial expressions are bad, OK? ('omega')
It's about being more positive ❝ no ❞. Even if I don't like it in words, it's superficial. There is no girl around her age who doesn't fight back. It's about making them do it until they do it.
No matter how small, I always convey a feeling of gratitude such as “thank you for doing it” and “I'm happy to be helpful to my mother.”
It changes when parents show their appreciation to their children.
Do it, say it, let me hear it, try it and praise it, people will move

Excuse me for the short sentence.
I think Renren has built a perfect relationship with her daughter.
I came home tired from relationships with society, and I think my daughter wants to maintain a “mother and daughter” relationship. Doesn't your daughter think (as a deep psychology) that relationship is made up of “love”?
Even though this relationship has been built, “mother and daughter” may be jittery if they are forced to break it.
Your daughter may also be strong in her relationships with others. Also, don't forget that the relationship between “mother and daughter” is always the same. It's going to change a little bit, so if you try to play a bad mother, your daughter might be a good person too.

Renren-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

It looks like they're a little frustrated that their daughter hasn't been able to stand on her own feet easily...

Regarding independence, I have answered the following questions before, and I know that it is one thing that couples are cooperating to devise and encourage them little by little towards independence.

Question “My son's rebellious period”
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/1002967022.html

“... For example, if you have even a little time to spare, I know that by traveling alone, living alone for a short period of time, living in a dormitory, or working part-time, etc., you may be able to understand your mother's “gratitude” so that you can take care of yourself as much as possible, and set up opportunities to learn even a little bit about what society is like I know it isn't there. ・・”

However, since I can fully understand school life, part-time work, and various difficult things on weekdays, I think it is still necessary to take a day off.

While watching for a bit, if you eventually get a job and start working as a member of society, you will naturally become independent, and if you fall in love, eventually get married, and raise children, you will inevitably be forced to become independent.

I also know that there are only a few more days left before I can be spoiled by Renren.

Of course, there may be cases where you will be spoiled forever, but at that time, I also know that it is a matter of putting them out harshly. Please also take a look at the humble answers to the questions below.

The question “What is a mother? ”
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/1003968518.html

“... I know that the true form of love is to make them aware and responsible as adults in order to live a solid moral and ethical life in society. ・・”

I pray for good deeds.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho