About children's names and naming

It's about naming.
Only monks reveal their names in the profile section.

I gave birth to my second daughter last year.
The name that was this ‼ ︎ was not decided until the last minute of the birth registration, and I chose one from the names my husband had put up as candidates when I was the eldest daughter, and I had the eldest daughter choose which name was better, or the name that had been used as a candidate separately from that.
The eldest daughter chose a name that was a candidate when she was the eldest daughter,
My husband also said, “I think it's a good name,” and I decided on that name.

The name includes a wish that you will have a peaceful heart and that you will have a bright future where you can be any color.

Sometimes I see names that are in the same generation as my second daughter and use the same kanji on SNS, etc., but they are still rare names, so when people around me ask me the name and answer them, they sometimes ask back, “◯◯? There are times when people ask strangely, or say that it was surprising.
When I looked it up on the internet, there were many people who made negative comments such as not using kanji for children, it's not a human name, I wouldn't name it like that, like an anime, like an otaku, etc., so I didn't add it with that kind of thought! I think, but when I saw the reactions around me, I lost confidence, and I began to feel that it was difficult to call my second daughter's name and that there was a sense of incongruity with the kanji.
To be honest, I had trouble with the second kanji, so I chose that kanji because there were no other characters.

Even though it's a name I should have been convinced of, I'm often told that, and I wonder if a different name would have been good, or if a name associated with my older child would have been better.

Even when the husband is the eldest daughter, if the parents don't have confidence in the child's name, the child will lose confidence too! I've been told that.
I think that's true.

Will the day come when I think I'm glad I gave my second daughter this name?

I'm sorry for the disorganized sentence.

4 Zen Responses

You don't need to know your parents' heart and surroundings

Hello.

I'm worried about the name.
I have responded to these similar consultations multiple times, and I think there is a certain pattern.

Husband and wife think and decide together.
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Surrounding people point out that they can't read it.
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It makes me anxious.
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I want to hear more opinions from others, so I search for opinions on the internet (or ask questions with wisdom bags etc.)
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There are no good opinions, and I feel increasingly uneasy.

This series of processes is common.

This is an attitude of asking others to evaluate my child's name no matter how far we go; in short, we entrust the evaluation to others. Everyone in the world raised their hands and agreed. There's no such thing as unrealistic.

You are the second daughter's parent.
It probably included “I want you to have a peaceful heart, and a wish that you have a bright future where you can be any color.” Why don't you stretch your heart?

“Even when my husband is the eldest daughter, if the parents don't have confidence in the child's name, the child will lose confidence too! It's said,” and you probably “think that's true.” However, at the bottom of my heart, I think I'm asking this question because I don't fully understand the meaning.

This is because, as mentioned above, others and the world have standards for judging both rabbits and horns. Isn't it because you have no standards for yourself and your husband, in other words, for your husband and wife?

If you compare it to a proverb, you don't need to know your parents' heart or surroundings.
People around me don't understand it anyway.
However, they continue to quietly do what parents should do and what pride parents should have.

I think the way out for your worries lies in clarifying your own standards and the role your parents should play.

appending
Thank you very much for your reply.
I'm glad to be able to help you.
As always, please affectionately call your child's name.
Take care.

Revisited
I would like to thank you and sincerely thank you for sharing your feelings.
Above all, I'm glad to hear that your feelings are moving forward.
Also, if you have any questions, please let us know.
Please take care of yourself.

There have been many questions and answers about names in the past, so I think it would be nice if you took a look, but I thought Shayu Suijin, who answered this time, gave a very good answer. I thought this is an answer I would like people who have been worried about names in the past and those who are worried now to read.

So I didn't think it was necessary for me to answer in particular, but I felt that both the eldest daughter and the second daughter had a very good sense of naming for the names you gave. I think it's good to have confidence. It was a good name, so I just wanted to tell you that, so I put in the answer.

Names you can remember

What are the names people call
It's almost a surname, isn't it?

Tell me the origin of my name from my parents
I like it too.
I became a monk and came up with my own name for the Dharma.
Of course I like it.

But the one that calls me by name
It's just family and relatives, right?
What is my name in the world
It's not your name, it's your last name, right?
I am a person called “Wada.”

But I think that's fine.
I've received my parents' feelings from my name
The legal name was decided based on that.

The second daughter's name is certainly unusual.
But thanks to that, it's easy to leave an impression.
I think that alone is a good name.

We've already received answers and thanks from everyone, so now, it was late to take a look, so I hope you can go through it, but in the case of the name you asked about, it's called the same way, and I'm going to pray for children with a different character. That's why the first character for Ari's child is the same as that child's mother.

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