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I fell in love with the co-founder.

While taking a leave of absence from university, I proceeded with my business alone for a year and a half, and started a student business this year.

There is a woman in the same circle who asked for a one-off job when starting a company. That person was attracted to his own vision and the company's vision, and they continued to help.

After the meetings we do every day, we got excited with unfriendly stories, and gradually we started talking about the worries and personal things we had at home. Then, they found multiple commonalities that were too mischievous to call them coincidental, such as minor hobbies, childhood home environment, parents' age, class structure when they died, etc., and they gradually fell asleep late at night and made phone calls.

The train station is also nearby, and we meet face to face once a week.

When I fell asleep one day on the phone after the meeting, I was told that they were happy even though they didn't feel happy when they held hands, that they enjoyed the face-to-face meeting for some reason, that they enjoyed playing together, and that for some reason they were curious since we first met. You were the first to truly sympathize with the family environment issues, and I was even told that you might have been looking for someone like that somewhere.

However, she has a partner she has been in a relationship with for over 5 years since high school, and it seems that they decided to get engaged after being proposed the other day. Every time an issue that seems likely to break up occurs, they discuss it, and it seems that they have built a strong bond up until now. Even though I said I wanted to increase the number of times I met in person in the past, I was turned down because I was worried about my partner.

Her partner seemed skeptical about her business commitments and her company's vision, but she went ahead and now they seem to be supported.

I had the experience of disbanding teams many times over a year and a half of business activities, and it was the first time she felt this level of commitment and intention.

I have confessed before because I couldn't hold back my feelings. I have very mixed feelings when they say, “There are other people I like, but I want to stay with them all the time as a business partner.” This is because I had never met members who were passionate about the business enough to show their intention to expand overseas, and there were no women who had such a lot in common as people and had essentially close feelings.

It would be nice if I could honestly wish for her happiness and fulfill my mission as a manager, but my palpitations don't stop and I can't get my hands on the business. There are fluctuations between the manager and one student, and I'm terribly lost. What should I do about it?

4 Zen Responses

Thank you for your question.
She's also engaged, so I think I have no choice but to give up on being my lover.
Let's hope she is happy.
You should refrain from making more personal phone calls than necessary in the future, concentrate on your business, expand your network of contacts, and cherish new encounters in the future.
I think that's my true love for her.

Let's thank you for a wonderful relationship

I read it.
I was able to read the inside of your heartbreak carefully. I really understand your feelings.
Meeting that person and being able to deepen your relationship is really irreplaceable, and I think it's probably fair to say that it's a miracle.
The range of businesses you and that person are working on will expand, and so will various possibilities.

That person's partner is also probably there, so I think the priority is for you and that person to work hard on the business first.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for the relationship you met, and from now on, let's get that person's help and spread your wings while receiving your partner's understanding.

There will be many challenges and failures in the future as you proceed with your business, but you are by no means alone. There are people who understand and cooperate. Please walk the path you seek in a positive way.

Let's watch the situation for a while and leave it in the corner of our heart when it comes to love and affection. Eventually, different situations will come up, and there will also be other encounters.

Please believe in yourself and try out new fields for yourself. I sincerely pray that you and you will expand your business from now on and that you will be able to live through a rich and fulfilling everyday life while everyone is pleased. And you and that person are cheering, aren't you?

Please throw your best into what you need to do right now!

 First, above all else, how is the current state of business growth, as you say, “It would be nice if I could fulfill my mission as a manager, but my palpitations have stopped and I can't get my hands on the business”? The term “overseas expansion” has even appeared, so it's probably on track or about to get on, but I wonder what it actually is... I'm curious about that.
That's what's important... if the business doesn't go well, everything with her will come to an end. That's not enough. I think she's leaving too.
I think it's important to keep romantic feelings down a lot here, regard her as a pure “co-founder,” agree with each other, and expand the business. Far from not needing topics about personal circumstances, hobbies, family environment, parents, and pets, for meetings for that purpose, they will interfere with business.
My girlfriend, who is supposed to be the co-founder, is also involved in such a story, so from my point of view as a third party, I feel that the business itself is in danger.
First of all, let's put all our personal feelings aside and put all our energy into the business... Otherwise, I don't think starting a business will succeed in these times when everything is tough.
Please, my business has finally settled down, and I have time to think about myself and my future... I think I'll be able to make it in time enough for my girlfriend even after that. No, we should put things with her on the back burner until then.
Please throw all your energy into what you need to do right now.
The Buddha will always support you like that...

Work partners and romantic partners work better apart.

Even though I have a fiancé, I wonder what it's like to say something to make them care.
Even though you're shaking my mind even more.
Even now, that's why I can't concentrate.

Work partners and romantic partners work better when they aren't the same.
This is because private life affects work. Good times go smoothly, but when you're jittery, it makes you worry about work and your surroundings. If you can't draw the line properly, you won't be able to do a good job.

When it comes to common ground, it's easy to become close, isn't it? So, if they ask if they can understand each other, that's something else.

As a work partner, I fall in love with the other person's personality and abilities. I think that kind of relationship is the most reliable.