Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Why is the perception that you will become a Buddhist if you get a kakana wrong?

I'm indebted to you. This is Shibata Aki. Previously, I asked the question that I didn't want them to have a funeral here. I mentioned the reason why I didn't want to become a Buddhist when I received the commandment, but it was pointed out that this was an error. Kaima is a Dharma name,...

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I'd like to forgive you, though. How do you deal with conflict?

My husband and parents-in-law, who were kind, changed drastically after they got married. I was forced to live a difficult life together, with money demands from my parents-in-law and rants, so much so that I thought about suicide every day. My husband was on my side until halfway through, but my...

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I can't make an effort.

I have a goal, and I'm getting closer. However, since I haven't worked very hard until now, my sense of guilt and impatience worsened. When I did the entrance exam, I somehow passed it, and somehow I ended up doing everything. I don't have any hobbies or anything that I genuinely enjoy. Moved...

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I don't know if my paintings are worth anything

Recently, drawing illustrations has become difficult. Drawing used to be fun, but as I watched the works of SNS and others I feel that “my paintings have no value,” and my energy to draw has dropped. I also tried exhibiting at SKIMA, etc., but there was no response, and it became difficult...

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Is it a crime to commit suicide

To put it bluntly, I want to die. I have a bad personality and I can't stand it They honestly tell the truth (even if it's disgusting to the other person) That personality has continued since I was a kid, and at one point When I see the word ADHD and search for it I learned that the problem...

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Mindset for raising children

This is my first time asking a question. My daughter started going to kindergarten in April. Since I was raised in a nongbili family with 2 years of daycare, there are things I can't do compared to the children around me. I'll come back saying it was fun, so that's at least a relief... Also,...

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Relationships are bothersome and painful

I've always been bad at getting involved with people. I couldn't even get along well with my family, and I lived my life feeling stressed by my parents every day. It was my first time living alone as a member of society, and I was able to live an open and fulfilling life, but now I feel stressed...

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If I made a mistake and prayed to the devil

While praying to God, I thought of the devil in my head, so I prayed. Regardless of what I prayed for, the devil thinks I made a deal and if I die, will I fall into hell? Or is that not the case in particular since I just thought of it with my brain? I'm uneasy

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I want to be able to search for things I need to do

There are times when I can't see what's around me. If it's inside the house, not only do you forget to immediately replace the contents of your bag after you get home, forget to put away the clothes you have taken off and dried before going to bed, or forgetting to close the window even though...

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Things to put in a coffin

My grandfather's funeral was held the other day. When I put it in the coffin, I put it in the coffin so that I would hang my grandfather's black crest, but is this common? I felt like it wasn't there when my maternal grandfather passed away... I didn't fold it up and put it in, and I was...

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It's been 2 years since I changed jobs

It's been 2 years since I changed jobs We have consulted here before. After all, the corporate culture doesn't match? Since it is an office with a small number of people, relationships tend to be close no matter what. Even while I'm at work, we occasionally chat, so what are we going to do...

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It's painful just denying myself

I'm a college student who entered the university of my first choice this spring. I've managed to get through my university life so far, but I'm always struck by a sense of anxiety and emptiness. I'm depressed every day because I compare myself to others. Whether it's thinking about something...

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It's Shinitai

I think I want to die even though I don't have the courage or tools to die. He's just a normal person. What about the exterior I can't tell my parents everything about how melancholy and happy come alternately during the day and that they cry every day Is there any point in me being alive? You...

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How to restore a marital relationship

I'm having trouble with my relationship with my husband and would like some advice. We've been married for about 5 years. My husband seems to be thinking about an affair or divorce recently, and every day is so uneasy that I wake up with palpitations every day. What made me notice was that...

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Will training make you able to handle souls?

When the tomb was built, they were asked to do something like an initiation ceremony. Is it OK to be able to handle souls after practicing ascetic practices? Does it mean that monks practice ascetic practices to acquire such special abilities?

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I haven't stopped being frustrated since I worked

I joined the company as a new graduate, but every day I just got scolded for my failure. Maybe that was the cause, and after working, I began to feel angry at trivial things. I feel angry about things I didn't care about before, such as the person in front of me walking slowly, and the LINE I...

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My own failure

When I was in the 5th grade of elementary school, when the kids in my class stepped on both ends of the broom while cleaning, I was hanging a rag, and my finger was stepped on by that broom. They didn't apologize even when I said it was painful, and I didn't like that kid anymore. After that,...

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Are there exchanges between monks and priests?

I'm curious, so let me ask you a question. Do Japanese monks ever gather with monks from temples around the world to hold exchange meetings? (online or something) One more thing, are there exchanges between Shinto priests and monks at each shrine? I think it depends on the temple or shrine,...

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What is a good way to have a good relationship with your family.

Nice to meet you. We are in our 30s. I live with my older wife, daughter who will be 1 year old this year, and 1 cat. I changed jobs and moved just recently because my income and living expenses aren't commensurate. The background is like this. My problem is how to deal with my wife and...

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Every day is painful

I just changed jobs and it's hard every day. It's closer than my previous job, but commuting was terribly exhausting due to transfers and congestion, making it harder than before. There weren't many jobs in my previous job, and my employment quota changed, and I changed jobs to make more useful...

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