What were you born for?

　Yue-san, this is a rebellious period. Conflicts of opinion can happen to any person during this teenage period. You've taken the first step towards adulthood. This is when your life is about to change. There is nothing that resonates with your parents' words right now, even if it is correct from a third person's point of view. Let's go through our own will. Whether or not the parents' opinions are correct will be understood later, so let's just rely on the parents' feelings.
What you can do right now isn't something you don't hate doing (being told) yourself. Don't speak ill of people and look for good points. I don't commit a crime. Don't tell lies as much as possible. I won't hurt my parents, friends, teachers, or myself. This is all you can do as a teenager. First, why not start here?
　

Yue-san

Nice to meet you, I'm Hirofumi Inoue from Hasunoha.

You were raised by strict parents, and being a “good kid” is exhausting, isn't it?

I think I've grown myself and acquired various values and ways of thinking, and recently I've realized that only my parents' opinions are correct is an illusion.

That's right.

Parents aren't perfect, and they aren't always right.

Furthermore, when there is a conflict with parents' opinions, if they try to screw them down with power or authority, then that is not an accumulation. Being denied my existence by my parents is very, very painful.

Now, I'm going to present the following words to Yue.

“Guardianship Breakup (Shuhari)”

This is one of the ways in Japanese teacher-pupil relationships in tea ceremony, martial arts, arts, etc.
I think the parent-child relationship also seems like a teacher-pupil relationship, so I think it will be helpful.

The first one is “protect”
Here, it means sticking closely to what your parents say.
Judging from how you are, I think Yue-san has protected you enough.
It's about continuing to be a “good kid.”

Then, the next one is “breaking”
Breaking with what you've protected. Breaking the mold.
This may be where Yue-san is right now.
That's because I have my own opinions other than my parents' opinions.

And finally, “leaving”
It's about moving away from the mold you've been taught and given until now.
It refers to physical and psychological independence from parents.
This is the stage that Yue-san will be entering from now on.

It's “protecting” → “breaking” → “leaving.”

What these words teach us is that protecting all the time is not the right thing to do.

It's the first time I've eaten for one person since breaking away from it.
Then, when you break up and leave, look back and look at your parents again.

I don't think it's too late to think about the meaning of being born again at that time.

Good morning, Yue-san.
I was also worried about “why do we live” when I was a teenager.
Why don't you try reading a book or manga like this?
Tezuka Osamu “Black Jack”
Tezuka Osamu “Astro Boy”
Tezuka Osamu “Buddha”
Inamori Kazuo “Inamori Kazuo's Philosophy”
Inamori Kazuo “Way of Life”

Parents just demand a convenient child for their children.
There are also parents who think that they ❝ won ❞ by defeating their kids against Kotenpan.
What you are looking for from your parents is a measure that will acknowledge you as you are, and the ability to accept you. Even if I wanted people to understand my delicate feelings, they probably wouldn't be able to easily convey them.
Learn more words so you can express your feelings well without getting emotional either. Or transcribe what you should say from the beginning.
One effective method for getting in trouble with parents.
Even if you are completely defeated in A's argument, take exactly what your parents are saying.
I'm going to beat you. If it's just a backlash or rebellion, it's crazy.
Parents, like you, have arguments.
Let me throw out all of those claims first, then take them seriously, reflect on them, and take them carefully.
“I understand that very well. I will be careful in the future and try not to do it again. 🙍 I'm so sorry.
... well, I'll finish this story once here. “There's something I want people to listen to and accept my story apart from what I'm talking about now...” and your talk is about redividing the partition.
It is only in families that parents also curse their children with taunts or harsh words in an attempt to restrain them.
There is no need to be a convenient child for parents, but parents expect obedience and filial piety from their children. Parents aren't professionals in how to communicate, and they aren't ideal moms and dads like those in dramas. That means you don't require a high level either.
Your parents will also recognize you as an adult because you are generous.
To that end, I first need room to dare to accept my parents' small words as love.
Get emotional and say, “Why are you saying such a terrible thing!” If it explodes like that, you lose to yourself.
I think you haven't been able to have a calm discussion with Chan.
You should never throw another ball from your side when you should accept catch. There is only one ball.
If your opponent throws Panathi, the first thing to do is throw and let them throw until they get tired.
They are good children who are flexible when they can be convenient children, children who understand things well, good children who are good at being themselves, good children who are cooperative, and good children.

Yue-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

We have received many questions about the reason and meaning of being born until now, and the meaning and value of life.

http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/cat_318924.html
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/tag/生きる意味
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/tag/生きる価値

Looking back, I had a lot of trouble with these questions when I was in my teens and twenties. Of course, it's not completely gone away even now, but I think that as I learned and progressed in Buddhism, I think my worries about these questions have decreased quite a bit.

Also, of course, I suffered from my relationships with my parents and family in the same way as Yue-sama. Of course, it's not completely gone away yet either. However, there were many things I thought about in terms of Buddhism, including what exactly was right and what was wrong.

Eventually, the question of right and wrong, and right and wrong is also an issue of honest, relative value judgment, and at the end of the day, neither is possible as an entity; they are “empty,” and since they are only made up for the time being due to “good fortune,” I came to understand that they are something that can't be helped even if they are too caught up, obsessed, biased, and obsessed.

Of course, that doesn't mean we overlook the actual problem; it means that we can better understand how we can move towards solving that problem.

However, I think this is something I was able to understand to some extent only because I faced it without running away due to worries and suffering.

I hope Yue-sama is also worried and thought about it until she gains her own satisfaction and confidence while facing current problems without running away. However, please be careful not to miss the road as Oitetsu said. Also, if you don't mind, I would be grateful if you could take this opportunity to take a little interest in Buddhism as well.

I pray for good deeds.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho