The love story was so sudden...

Thank you so much... just wake up. Please indulge me.

There's blood on my head, and it's probably just that I can't stand in sight, so please do it even if you're in the water, and stay refreshed.
“And I'll be a father.”

And hello, father-san.

Having a wife and having a child in a few months.
First off, congratulations.

And don't fall in love with your wife, but with another woman. What's more, when they have both feelings...
You understand it in your head, but you can't go against your own feelings no matter what, and you're suffering.

I'm going to say something a bit harsh.
First, I'd like to ask, “Do you really think you have [mutual feelings] with that 'other woman'?”

You can probably do it when you can get married and have children.
There are things that can be done with various emotions and momentum, and there are also things that can be done with logic and planning.

However, [mutual feelings] are not that easy. Love stories can't be sudden.
I sometimes say, “It's a good relationship,” but I don't say it to you.

The definitely happy conclusion is breaking up with that “other woman.” Of course, it's all bad for your wife and kids. The things we discussed here are also secret, and you should forget about yourself. You made up your mind to break up. That's the solution.

Something you're worried about. It's just you who suffer. If you are aware of this suffering, then you are fine. We can break up.
It's a test. You are supposed to “and be a father.”

And above all, I would like to congratulate you that your child will be born in a few months.

Nice to meet you, I'm Ohashi.
I have read your consultation. Would it be good to say a word?
Big idiot! That's it.

And good morning to becoming a father.
How many marriage hunting men and women are there in the world?
How many couples can't help but want children?
Buddha is “contentment (chisoku).”
In other words, it says “know what is enough.”
Shouldn't we be more aware of the happiness we have now?

　Love stories, don't be kidding. Lovers all over the world would be outraged if you said such a thing. “When did infidelity, betrayal, and looting come to be called love stories.” and. There are plenty of people in the world who have done things like you. But after such an act, they're probably prepared to see what kind of consequences it will lead to.

Your wife will walk away from you. If children can remember, they will understand what kind of things their father did. Children may have feelings of hatred towards such fathers, but they probably won't have love.

The woman (who seems to be) falling in love with you right now will eventually walk away from you and fall for a different man. Because she knows she has a wife and is trying to stick with you, she's a woman with that level of ethics. There's a high possibility that they'll flirt with other men.

He lost his family, lost his lover, and followed the end of a lonely life. Even if it results like that, it's the seed you sowed. Don't hold a grudge against anyone. They deserved it. If you hate yourself, hate yourself.

Perhaps because of her pregnancy, you turned your back on your beloved girlfriend, who used to be your lover, becoming a mother.
Your pregnant girlfriend used to be your ❝ lover ❞, and she was always there for you.
However, due to her pregnancy, she is changing from a lover to a different existence.
The way I treat you and my dating style have changed.
(Of course)
You're a man hungry for love, so you can't be satisfied if you're not being cheated on.
I keep asking her for the same freedom of change as before.
However, since it was restricted by pregnancy, the next prey discovered to fill that self-love and pleasure is a new girlfriend.
It's okay not to make fun of it and try to justify it as a strangely love story.
There are many narcissistic men in the world who feel ❝ cooled down ❞ when their partner they used to be in a relationship with becomes a mother.
But that's because it's a childish spirit that sees things only for self-love and convenience.
I don't think I've talked much with my wife, but you should feel her unspoken love that doesn't come to the surface. What you're lacking is that sensor.
As long as you don't draw out that power, you'll be a self-loving bastard for the rest of your life.
What if that affair? Even if you have a child with your partner, you will start looking for love from another woman again. Do you understand why?
You described it as love, but that's because it's a game for you, not love.
I want to be loved by all kinds of women, so I'm just playing a “game” to find prey that loves me. It's too early to talk about love. Love is self-love that satisfies oneself even with love.
What's important is that I'm a good adult, I notice that the emotion I've thought was “love” was not love, but a sense of desire that satisfies my desires, so I'm ashamed, and correct my trajectory.
Please worry about her body, who is having a hard time with your child, as if it were your own. Love is something that should be nurtured and cultivated little by little for people who don't understand the feeling of love. Once you can feel her love, you'll wake up to your own foolishness and start listening to the brakes.
After a few years, you should continue to express your love to the point where she will tell you that you are full of love.

　Emotions spring up naturally, but you should be able to control your own actions. What's more, I still love my wife. Then don't hesitate, and let's look forward to our soon-to-be born as a couple.

But I think it would be nice for women to fall in love with men in such a family environment. Please don't give in to sexual desire.

And like being a father
Nice to meet you, my name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an.

you.
wife.
A child that is about to be born.
An affair partner.

I don't know how far it has progressed with that affair partner, but if you've crossed the line, there's already no way for anyone to get hurt. Choose for yourself who you want to hurt.

Also, there is a saying, “You can't go against your feelings by any means,” but what has the potential to defy feelings is probably a living thing called a human being.
Please choose your own.

You've been called “and become a father,” but...

Did you know that mothers risk their lives when they give birth to children?

For 10 months, that would be a great deal to protect the child in the stomach.
I can't do anything I like during that time.
I don't think it's unusual for both mother and child to die if something goes wrong.

To a wife who is risking her life and working hard to give birth to your child
What are you up to?

Please think carefully as a person, putting your hands on your chest.

Are you willing to risk your life to protect your wife and your unborn child?

Risking your life isn't a game.

And like being a father

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

I wonder if my wife is about to enter Rengetsu... Are you attending a pregnancy checkup? When fetal movements become more intense, please talk and play with your wife so that you can communicate with your baby.

Well, it seems that we have already received words of scolding from many monks, and I really appreciate it.

Even if it is one bad act, depending on the circumstances, it is not limited to just that one bad act, and as they say, “a liar is the beginning of a thief,” it can also accumulate a number of complex bad acts, so you really need to be careful. Naturally, it is possible that the rewards for bad deeds, which are a collection of bad deeds, will eventually come to something that you will regret regardless of whether it is early or late, this life or the next.

In particular, I think most of the costs and rewards of infidelity and infidelity often come in this world.

I hope you can make a firm conversion now that you can turn back, and that as an adult, you can work in your child-rearing life with awareness and responsibility as a father.

I often hear that “happiness is something you don't notice until you've lost it,” but honestly, it's too late after you've actually lost it.

Please, I would like you to stop this time before you regret it so much later.

Of course, being a father is also free to choose the path of hardship on your own. We won't force you to stop if you are prepared to suffer a lot ahead of time. It may be arbitrary, but from the standpoint of us monks, we are well aware that there is no deception in the cause and effect of evil cause and effect, good cause, good cause, and effect, so after all, we must make a strong reprimand. I pray that you will think carefully.

Also, please refer to the details of the humble answers to each of the questions below.

http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/cat_339249.html
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/tag/不邪淫戒

I sincerely pray for a healthy and safe delivery for both mother and child.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho