My ex got married and it's hard

Hello.

I'm sorry for your heartbreak.

I'm asking about “ways of thinking that can make you feel positive.”
“Forward-looking” can also be paraphrased as future-oriented. In other words, I think it's about using the past as a lesson, breaking up with the past, and searching for what to do in order to seize success that you think was good.

There must have been some disappointment, even though they thought “I would turn down a matchmaking partner and they will definitely come back.” However, what does this fact mean that “he who hated matchmaking until the end” eventually got married?

“We were in a relationship until six months ago” means he probably broke up with you “six months ago” because of “matchmaking.” He initially “hated” matchmaking. However, even if the entrance to “matchmaking” was unintentional, I think it is a fact of “marriage” where they have determined their partner over the past six months and peacefully determined a place to live with parents who value the value of “family status.”

Speaking of what was realistic for him, it was probably realistic.

However, if I were to express it critically, it would mean that I couldn't resist my parents' values of “family status.” It can also be said that it is someone who was unable to protect the relationship you should have with your partner for life.

People who wouldn't be able to protect their partner and family with all their might in times of emergency.
Isn't it necessary to take the plunge?

Also, I'm glad I didn't have a wife in a family where parents and children were not separated.
I think it's also necessary to take the plunge.

I've seen similar cases about 2 times in past consultations.
Problems occurred during marriage, and all of them were cases at the doctor's house (although the difference is that my ex-boyfriend wasn't a doctor). At first, he intended to welcome her as a companion against his parents' intentions, so he didn't take over the clinic at his parents' house and worked at a hospital. We swore a firm oath to each other. However, when the situation changed, he returned his palm, assimilated to her parents' values before she knew it, and it was a case where she was thrown out.

This isn't a story where that house is limited to the doctor's family.
Are you someone who can stand up and protect people close to you in times of emergency?
This is an important factor as a marriage partner.

It was a lesson for me to be with someone like this who sincerely protects important relationships.
I think that way of looking at it will create a “positive” today and tomorrow (character limit)

Well, but
There are people whose values are that family status is important
It's just that my ex-boyfriend's house was like that.
What are the personalities of people who are caught up in a family
Let's think that's about it after all.

Look for people who match your values.

What is “more than him”
What do you use to judge that
Let's think about that too.

Even if you get married, hell awaits you due to differences in lifestyle habits. There are families where hell starts with breakfast.
I am a member of the Hakuhan sect miso soup group, and I married my wife from the coffee faction of the wheat sect. As a citizen of Sayama, where Sayama tea is produced, if I want to drink coffee in the morning, I will be punished by crucifixion, beheading, and extradition in the city and saying, “You traitor!” and the whole house is covered with powdered tea. (Honmakai) I also tried getting married, and I came across a truth that can only be understood since I got married. I later learned about the fact that they are mostly international marriages even though they are Japanese. Well, the customs we've all been accustomed to at home are different. Even though men and women are simply different. People who used to be different people live together. There is also an aspect where there is no problem at first, but gradually it starts to creep in. In that sense, I wonder if it's a story about family status or social status. It comes after two. There are no disparities or divisions in human nature, yet in the real world, there are many people who are concerned about it.
For example, there are cases where the public rebels against royal marriages that the public is interested in. It is also a real fact of reality that people around them fight back even though they are good with each other.
There have probably been tens of billions and hundreds of billions of unrequited love affairs, disagreements, shambles, divorces, and tragedies between men and women in the history of the world. Even in the human world, there is a high probability that no matter what kind of lovey-dovey man or woman they are, they will break up. Is that early or late? I am keenly aware this year that it is more important to abandon the romantic perspective between men and women and be homely or fit perfectly. An old lady who has experienced divorce also said that it is better to marry the same partner for everything. I thought differences would be a learning experience, but as we get older, that's not the case, so that's great. It's font.
In that sense, there are times when we break up and the results are OK.
Well, there are precepts in Buddhism.
The fifth commandment of the Ten Commandments of Zen Buddhism is unscrupulous. It's a commandment and teaching not to have anything you are dependent on, not just alcohol or medicine.
No matter how many men or women you are, don't be dependent.
you are you. What was it like when that person wasn't there?
They should have been free, independent, self-reliant, carefree, and just themselves.
Taking care of a broken heart is another opportunity, but first of all, I would like you to remember who you were before you met that person in order to let go of yourself.
Encounters are also given, freedom to break up, and new options.