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About the life of a hungry child

After searching on the internet, I arrived at this point, and I was so excited to ask a question...

I live in a family of 3 with a 1 year old daughter and a husband suffering from depression.

I just found out that I have a 5-week-old baby in my stomach.
I was happy and excited when I found out about my pregnancy, but my husband's treatment for depression was unsatisfactory and I had to give up giving birth due to financial reasons.

We had discussions with both families every day to see if we could do something about it, but it was difficult, and I couldn't stop my regrets and tears over the worst results.

The abortion is scheduled to be performed on 7/1, but when I think about the small life that will grow rapidly during this time,
It's pathetic, sad, and painful, and it's such a terrible feeling that I want to die both as a person and as a single parent.

I'm a murderer, right?
What should I do about my future life?

4 Zen Responses

Use of various systems to avoid abortions is also an option

 Hello. It's hard.

It may have already been considered, but there is a special adoption and foster care system as a system to avoid abortions. Of course, this is a physical, daily, and financial burden until delivery. However, I have a feeling that I want you to cherish that life, and if it is difficult to raise it with your own hands, I thought it would be OK to use such a system as an option. When I looked it up now, it seems that Steve Jobs, the founder of Apple, is also an adopted child. You don't have time, but why don't you talk to the hospital or municipal office where you have taken it once.

You still have options

Hello.

Since it is said that they “live in a family of 3 with a 1-year-old daughter and her husband suffering from depression,” I'm guessing that there are hardships and concerns.

However, I may not be able to answer your expectations or expectations. If you don't want those answers, you don't need to read the following.

I must have known from the beginning that “the treatment process for my husband's depression was unsatisfactory and that it was an economic reason.” Pregnancy was established based on the clear actions of the couple.

You described it as a “murderer.”
I don't take that expression. However, there is no doubt that it will surely take lives to become people. You're already worried about your life after an abortion, saying, “What should I do with my future life?” I have an abortion and I'm asking, “What should I do?”

There are probably unavoidable circumstances.
If the third party says that I don't understand it, that's all.

However, this is before the situation of “what should I do about my future life?”
We can still hold back our lives.

Until now, there have been many consultations where suffering after an abortion was written.
It is such suffering that those involved will continue to endure for the rest of their lives.
Before that happens, you still have options.

You are the one who can save a “small life that grows rapidly,” and it is none other than your husband and wife. Why don't you choose the option of nurturing? Isn't that an option for happiness?

Isn't this an opportunity to teach that a child's life is irreplaceable as a “single parent” in front of a “one-year-old daughter” who has already been born? Isn't now the time to tell them that life is always cherished “as a human being”?

Even if it goes as planned,

What about Buddha
Snuggle up to you
They will support you.
your husband and daughter too
They will help me.
Kids too
They will save you.

Don't carry everything on your own
To the Buddha and people related to the surroundings
Please rely on it.

Both are Buddhism

I'm not promoting abortion, but I think that is one path.
Even if you make that decision, you're not a murderer.
It means I chose it because that was the only way.
If you can give birth, you can't raise them even if you want to give birth. When I give birth, I want to raise them myself. But I can't do that.
I'm also a parent with children. I fully understand how you feel.

Whichever one you choose, you're probably going to regret it...

If we say goodbye on 7/1, please give your daughter a lot of love now. Also, if one day you have a relationship and you receive a new life at the right time, please take good care of it and nurture them.

I'm sorry for being irresponsible, but whichever one you choose, that is the path of truth. There are no “ifs” in life. There is no choice but to accept it and thoroughly deal with that decision from then on.