Temple heir

Hello.

After reading it, I have the impression that only thoughts take precedence.
First, why don't you start by solidifying your essential footing.
That is regardless of whether they become “heirs of the temple” or not.

You still look like you're a teenager and a college student in your profile.
It seems like a university “related to Buddhism,” so it's probably at the stage where you will learn the basics of Buddhism, build up your studies, and become a monk. A “chief priest” is an example among those monks, and you still have a long way to talk about that stage in terms of time and step by step.

Also, you wrote, “If I had a child, I wouldn't want that child to carry this burden.” I'm also thinking a long way ahead of me.

In other words, I'm thinking about 5 or 10 years or more out of reach, but what is your immediate reality?

I wrote that I “became truant” in high school, and that I “don't feel like going to college even once.” It seems that the reason for this is “I don't want to follow in the footsteps.” There are probably various circumstances that bother you in your own way, but is the reason you “don't want to take over” the only reason that has created the current situation?

I feel the instability of communication with parents, affection, and desire for approval not being satisfied from your sentences.

It says, “I told them that I didn't want to take over, but they weren't convinced, and they were scolded and said appropriate things.” There was an action of “telling” in your own way. However, you accept that “you have been discouraged or said something appropriate.” I think this is because my words and thoughts keep passing through with my parents.

“Truancy” or not being able to go to college is not a superficial issue called “succession,” and I think the essence is the problem that your parents haven't fully faced you (and your parents). I feel that it is necessary to have a third party, such as a counselor, join in and discuss in an equal and calm environment first.

Aiming for communication skills and mental independence so that you can stand on your own feet before the problem of not becoming an “heir” is an immediate challenge for you.

Nice to meet you.
I entered the monk's path from my home. In my case, I was told many things at work and at home about why I chose a difficult path after quitting my stable job, but in the end, I chose the path I chose. What I saw when I went in was the various problems of “hereditary” people.
When I'm reading your sentences, a “shaky feeling” comes up, and it still seems like they're making an escape by searching for negative elements before they make up their mind that they absolutely don't like it or become ○○. In the coming era, I think it will be quite difficult for monks to live alone. I recommend that you go out into society in some way and then take a look at your own life from there.
If you look at it objectively, there may be things you haven't noticed until now. After that, why don't you think about how you're going to live your life as yourself?
It would be nice if you could talk clearly to your parents and tell them that you want to experience society first, including the future of the temple. Please get excited about that and have a discussion. Temples are also entering a period of social change. There are also people who are looking for work to support the temple. Broaden your horizons, don't think too far into the future, and first let's do what we can do at this time of year.
Destroying a temple might be easy in a sense. However, since it is irretrievable, it requires a great deal of preparation, responsibility, and satisfaction. It seems to me that it would be reckless to make a judgment based on current experience points.

Oh thank you

It is a good idea to consult with an administrative scrivener, judicial scrivener, or lawyer about legal procedures for the dissolution, abolition, or liquidation of a religious corporation.

It is necessary to proceed in accordance with the Religious Corporations Act, the articles, rules, etc. of the Comprehensive Religious Corporation and the Inclusive Religious Corporation.

In addition to discussing future succession at general meetings, responsible board meetings, etc., it is also a good idea to first consult with the head temple and apply for succession if it is under the jurisdiction of a comprehensive religious corporation (head temple).

In recent years, the door to acquiring monk status has been opened for retirees, etc., and there are cases where those who have a monk's registration, are motivated to practice Buddhism, and those who have a sense of bodhi are waiting for vacant temples.

You can also adjust it so that it can be left to someone who is motivated.

The temple that Jusei has been paying attention to recently is Honbutsu-ji Temple in Kyushu.

Efforts are being made to protect Buddhism, protect temples, and revitalize temples by establishing a system of devotees, apprenticeship, and hereditary systems.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUZtWL-WL1aAlZQT9-UB5QQ

Of course, if you look for such temples, there are plenty of them all over the country.

There were also many such temples at the Future Chief Priest School (← if you search the internet, you can get information on the many temples that participated).

It's also a good idea to learn from scratch in order to review the way temples should be and the future. (Of course, there are cases where revitalizing a temple and reviving a temple are equal, and sentient beings cannot be solved according to Buddhism)

However, after all, there are many things that cannot be done without ambition, and in particular Bodhi.

If you don't seem to be able to develop Bodhicitta no matter what, please move towards securing a successor as soon as possible.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

There are many troubled people like you.

If you don't mind, the one below
From 21:30 on Friday, July 9, 2021
Please join the online MTG for monks only.
・Limited to those under 30 (born after Heisei 3)
・Heirs who are not qualified as monks are welcome

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdqqvzEuBmSYMXL7dm9st5OosE10rlSMbwnVDEwx3DfOZ105Q/viewform

I took over the temple of the Jodo Shinshu Honganji school in Yamaguchi prefecture 30 years ago, and 5 years later, I became interested in early Buddhism, held a meditation session for the elder Sumanasara, and since then I have been working hard on the Jodo Shinshu sect as Buddhism.
Fifteen years later, they were disliked by neighboring temple groups, and they almost got kicked out of the temple (if it is part of the Motoyama branch temple system, the temple and precincts are owned by the head temple even if a Buddhist family establishes it).
They said, “You must not practice ascetic practices in the Jodo Shinshu sect,” and since parishioners are also a nuisance to the chief priest steeped in such sects, they said they would report it to the head temple and have the chief priest replaced.
I talked to the parishioners, and they said, “Well, let's become independent and prevent the temple or precincts from being taken by the head temple, and let's do the same as before,” and the temple continues even now.
I don't think it's possible, but isn't your situation due to coordination pressure unique to Yamaguchi prefecture that doesn't make you say whether there is or not?
Thanks to the internet, it's now easy to know anything. If you have time to retreat, incidentally, why don't you research what a temple is, what kind of laws bind a temple, what kind of laws bind a temple, what kind of relationship is going on with the head temple branch temple, etc., until you are satisfied.
While feeling the kindness of your parents and the kindness of your parishioners, you have your own life, so please search for lost places.