I'm having trouble with relationships at work

My name is Kameyama Junshi.
If you care too much about your partner, then of course they care about you too, don't they? If that is the case, I don't think there will be an environment where I can honestly say that. In other words, if you break your stomach and don't speak to you, it's not because the other person doesn't like you, it's because your environment makes them do that.
But isn't that fine?
Being able to speak honestly doesn't necessarily make people happy. That's because we always have an egocentric view of things. There is a saying “the grass next door is blue (translation of The Grass is Always Greener on the Other Side of the Fence)”. The fact that people can see things well means that if you turn them over, you have a feeling that you want your own things to be better than your partner's. Therefore, it would not be an exaggeration to say that if we said 100% of the conversation with real intentions, we would just be unhappy.
I think the only important thing in communicating with the other party is treating the other person with sincerity rather than whether or not you can say it with real intentions.
These are my answers. I hope it helps even a little bit.

I'm sure you're a very serious person.
Also, they have various thoughts about their surroundings, and I feel that they care too much and care too much about the other person.

Thoughts like breaking your stomach and not being able to talk = being disliked by that person is probably
They probably worry about people like that because they bind their hearts with a “rope called paranoia” peculiar to people who care too much and care too much...
Furthermore, it's probably painful because my heart is caught in a “spider web called demand”...

First, it's important to untie the rope tied to that heart and get rid of the cobwebs.

Anxiety about your person due to delusions about “maybe...” or “what should I do if...” and the feeling of asking “I want to do more...” and “I want them to do more...” saying “it would be nice if it was...”
If you try to change to a rough feeling where black and white isn't clearly attached, isn't it possible to interact with people somewhat “easily”?

I have been in a relationship with two men at work for about a year... All humans have areas where it is OK for others to get involved, and areas where they are not.

Also, it should vary depending on compatibility with the other person, social people, unsocial people, and individual characteristics.

What's more, you're older than the two of them... they themselves may take care of you.

In other words, it's not that I don't like you; it's just that it's relatively difficult to build a relationship where you can break up and talk right away for a year or so.

Rather, I don't think it's necessary to break your stomach and talk to everyone you are involved with.

Wouldn't it be enough to have 1 or 2 people who can talk to “the truth”?

That kind of presence for you... who comes to mind...?

It could be family.
Maybe it's my friend.

Maybe
Maybe it's my pet.

Please cherish the existence of being able to split your stomach and be able to talk right now before you ask for it from others.

If even so, you are looking for someone you can talk to with your stomach, don't be impatient, and it will come naturally by slowly building relationships.
Let's surrender to the flow of a river called human relationships.

My name is Shizuku Yuki, a female professional wrestler and counselor apprentice.
It's very painful, isn't it?
I had a similar experience, so I understand how you feel.

I think there is a lot of anxiety that they won't talk to you out of their stomach, but just as or more, “what should I do if they don't like me.” I feel like I'm about to be crushed by that anxiety.

Why do we feel crushed by anxiety? Let's think about it together (^^)

Worries are made from “past regrets” and “anxiety about the future.”
Self-employed S.S., doesn't seem to talk to me with his stomach broken, and I think he really doesn't like it... in other words, I'm worried about the future.
Is there a heart here and now?
You're caught up in not knowing if it's going to happen or not.

So why are they getting caught up?
I think [myself] taught the self-employed S.S. The reason I can't help but feel uneasy even though it wasn't said by the other party.
I also meant remorse.
I'm not a Buddha either, so I don't create perfect relationships with everyone.
But that doesn't mean they speak face to face with people they haven't created a perfect relationship with every time; they “ostensibly return greetings when they are greeted,” and “they also have conversations when they talk to them.” Even for people who don't like it.
But if I replace it with my own position, I'm worried that that person actually doesn't like me...
Why are you scared?
I know that negative feeling very well because I don't like people, because I'm on good terms with them and don't like it in my stomach.

☆ It's an emotion that every human being has
☆ Things that make you more afraid because you do it yourself

Why don't you keep it in your head?
And that's not all bad.
It's very dangerous if you fight with each other the moment you think you don't like it. That's why I'm in pro wrestling every day when I say “hey you” to your opponent on the microphone!
It also has a good side.

Please take a look at your heart right now.
I think people can be kind to others at that time.

Incidentally, when I set up an opportunity for my favorite pro wrestler senior who still couldn't grasp a sense of distance and wrote my true thoughts in a letter, my senior gave me a costume hand-me-down at a later date.
I think we were able to have a relationship that will last a long time.

It's also a good idea to set up an opportunity to express your feelings!

It's ok, it will definitely work.

Hello.

I read your question.
Everyone has different reasons for getting a job,
The reason for leaving a job is often human relationships.
There are many people who have anxiety similar to S.S.
However, in such an environment, they were self-employed and worked for a long time.

What is S.S.'s workplace style?
A style where individuals achieve company results by appealing and competing.
In this case, true intentions and self-disclosure threaten one's whereabouts, and guards become tough.

or
We achieve results as a team by complementing each other where individuals are unable to reach.
In this case, don't use individual likes and dislikes as a yardstick for judgment,
By communicating and sharing what we value to each other, it's a form of developing a team.

So, the question “What should I do?”
Please use the following if it is helpful.

Please cherish your attitude of being considerate of your opponent.
Please want to share what you value with “each person” rather than a “group of two.”

I don't define my true intentions as negative. I can't decide if it's one.

It's not based on whether you're disliked or not.
It's easy to get lost in a world where likes and dislikes and things don't go the way you want
If you take a peek at values from different worlds once in a while, you won't have to be swayed.
The true intention of the air, the real intention of light. The true meaning of a tree. Do you understand?
I don't understand.
But even if I don't know, regardless of my likes or dislikes,
The air is filled and the light is pouring in. Flowers bloom.

I don't know nature's true intentions, but use nature as an intermediary
The true intentions of kindergarten children at work. I can hear the real intentions of the old lady in the neighborhood.
“Cherry blossoms are beautiful, aren't they?” “Yes.” “It's spring.” “Yes.”
I don't know, it doesn't matter,
A sign of the real intention that you can play catch for conversation.
Even if you don't disclose yourself separately, you can have a conversation by looking at the same scenery.

For casual everyday greetings, for example
“I don't know what you think of me,
I'm glad we were able to work together until yesterday.
It adds a feeling of best regards today”
How about we go from there?
Honestly, I think it's OK to always have a negative side.

worries and stress.
It doesn't matter if you crush or get crushed, it's a seed for making allies.
Namandabutsu.