Self-harm

It can be stopped. I know those who stopped it.

I've heard that when you self-harm, substances in your brain help calm your mind.

It's all because your body is working hard to want you to live without dying.
I'm hiding it because I don't like pain.

I think I'm in a difficult state because I've lost my place of support for my heart.
The Buddha said that you should not use others as a base for your heart.

I'll say it again.
Your body doesn't want you to die. I'm on your side.
But don't be too spoiled by it and try to recover your mind little by little.

tonight.
I read your question.

Self-harm cannot be stopped.
Also, it is said that doing that act calms the mind.

As you can guess from your previous questions, etc., you are probably confused by self-harming the suffering that overflows from the many heartbreaks you have suffered until now...

They've probably experienced so much stress that it made them run into that act...

I think it was very painful...

Since it is said that feelings will “calm down” due to self-harm, there must always be a cause hidden and lurking in the heart.

Self-harm
It is an expression of a signal that your heart “will collapse” to you.

If you were in a normal state of mind, this is an action you would never take. I want to stop but I can't, and I don't have anyone to talk to.
Then I recommend that you go to the hospital as soon as possible before your heart breaks down and escalates.
Ryusuke Gassho

Emi
Nice to meet you, my name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an.
Thank you for your support.

I also read past questions and answers.
You've been in a very difficult situation for a long time. When I thought about Emi's feelings, who simply clenched her teeth and endured that period of time, I felt like I had no place to do anything.
It makes me bow my head when I've endured so well until now.

They are also self-harming, aren't they?
It said “I'm embarrassed even though I'm a good age,” but age doesn't matter. There's nothing to be ashamed of. What is embarrassing is the people who chased Emi. I think self-harm was necessary for Emi to live her day to day.

If people around you know about it, I think they'll try to stop it because they're worried or impatient, but please don't force yourself to stop it. However, I'm worried that it will hurt too deeply, so I hope you can be careful about that.

When was the first time Emi self-harmed?
Also, do you have any idea for yourself what triggered it?

At the end of the question, “Can it be stopped?” There was, but it may be possible to force it to stop. But it's just symptomatic treatment. It's like suppressing it by administering medicine since it has become a lifestyle disease.

However, if we do not change lifestyle habits that cause illness, we will not reach a fundamental solution. So I'm asking about when did self-harm start and what triggered it.

It may take some time, but let's think about it carefully.

　Cutting your own body hurts, doesn't it? Blood comes out, doesn't it?
Have you treated the wound properly? Let's apply an adhesive bandage or the like. Now there are also plasters (like “scratch power pads” or “care leaves”) that can be used for wet treatment. Wet treatment makes it easier for scars to disappear.

Self-harm is the mind's SOS signal. I've read the questions from the past, but I see, it's tough.
Actually, I just want to snuggle up to you and make sure it's okay, but I'm sorry I couldn't do it. I feel the limitations of online consultations.
Can I go to the doctor? Internal medicine is fine. Please talk about “I can't stop cutting like this.” You can reduce your feelings with medicine.

And one more piece of advice.
Don't think “don't cut it.”
Do you know there is a program called “Don't Laugh” at the end of the year? Downtown is out.
That makes me feel like I want to laugh even more because I think “don't laugh.”
So, it's better not to think “don't cut.”
But it hurts when you cut it, doesn't it? It's hard if you get to a place with thick nerves or blood vessels, isn't it? For example, why don't you try hitting the one with the knife that won't break? For example, how about on nails or where they are strong? For example, if you have a knife, why not cut a pencil with that knife? It would be nice if I could find a way to calm myself without getting hurt.

I had one too.

I was deceived, betrayed, and that was the only option I could find.

Well, you've been able to endure it until now.

Let's stop for a moment.

There is a difference between trying hard and overdoing it.

It's no good if you overdo it.

If you feel like that, please come here with a smartphone, not a knife.

It's fine