Claims after the third anniversary

The memorial service for the 3rd anniversary was held at home, and an offering of 10,000 yen, a car fee of 5,000 yen, and a meal of 5,000 yen was given to the monk. On the night of that day, I was later billed that 20,000 yen was not enough for the donation.
Is that normal?

Originally, I didn't ask how much the donation was, and when I looked it up on Google in my own way, it was written that the amount could be lowered from the first anniversary, so this time I set it to 10,000 yen. (There are no words or putras that concern me at all, and they just finish the sutras, so originally I didn't feel good about this either)

At the time of my first anniversary, I was allowed to take pictures at the temple, and I was given an offering of 30,000 yen and a meal fee of 10,000 yen, but even at that time, I was later billed by phone by phone that 20,000 yen was not enough for the temple usage fee. I borrowed it for the first time, but I hadn't asked about usage fees beforehand.

I think the usage fee for the first anniversary is unavoidable, but isn't the offering the feeling of a parishioner?
If there is a 30,000 yen rule, shouldn't we tell them in advance?

Am I being insane and too ignorant?

4 Zen Responses

Think about the object of your “feelings”

Hello.

I don't think you're “insane and ignorant.”
Also, I think the temple side should have properly explained “usage fees beforehand.” The saying “offering is the feeling of being a parishioner” is also true. It's also unfortunate that “there are no words or rituals to worry about, and it's over as soon as I say the sutras.”

However, if you want to do Buddhist rituals comfortably in the future and have appropriate “feelings,” I think it would be a good idea to request another temple of the same denomination.

Here, I don't think it makes much sense to listen to answers that assume that each denomination, region, and temple situation is different, such as whether “10,000 yen” is “normal,” or “30,000 yen” is “common sense.” What's more, it's not for “Google” to decide. Even if the amount of money is here, and there is an answer saying how much is appropriate, in any case, you will be getting along with mixed feelings.

In short, finding a temple where you can judge for yourself that your “feelings” are appropriate is probably the fundamental problem.

An offering is also called a gift.
This monk would be happy, and it was an opportunity to search for people who thought so, so why not take it as such.

I'm sorry.

There is also no shortage of monks like that
I think it's our responsibility as companions.

What are the main hall usage fees and train fees
There are cases where a fixed price is set
There is no fixed price for what is called an offering.
There is also such a thing as regional market prices
What does it mean to be billed later just because it's not enough
No matter what the circumstances are, this is unforgivable.

Please don't hesitate
Please look for other temples.

The wonder of charity that you won't tell if you don't listen ⁉️

　Thank you for your hard work at the memorial service for the 3rd anniversary, Ro. In addition to putting up with compassion for the deceased, one of the memorial services is to reflect on daily actions and offer prayers for peace. Please put it into practice by all means.
Well, the temple's response wasn't good. The question is that I don't know the price of the offering, but I'm sorry to have met such a monk. Monks also have an obligation to explain. There has been a lot of noise in the world for decades if you don't know the price of gifts, but even now, I wouldn't be bothered if I didn't tell them. drink! Right. If the client doesn't listen, I won't tell you. Even if I ask, they will answer with their feelings. In the end, people think it's the same as the water business. So, from now on, I'll start by saying, “Excuse me. I've discussed it with various relatives and acquaintances, but how about this (amount) yen this time?” Let me ask you a question.
There were times when I received more gifts than the market price. There were also few things. There were times when it was empty. But that doesn't mean I won't complain later. We accept your feelings honestly, offer them to the main hall, read sutras, and receive them as hand-me-downs. Therefore, an offering is first offered to the Buddha, and it is an offering. So I can't even complain from the monks. This complaint is the Buddha's complaint and lowers one's dignity.

Is there a monetary arrangement among the parishioners

If the amount of money is arranged at a general meeting of parishioners, etc., there may be circumstances where unfairness with other parishioners does not occur.
In the case of a religious corporation, donations are temple income, and the entire amount does not necessarily go to the salary of the individual chief priest.
There may also be cases where we cannot help but point out special treatment leading to a decrease in income at “Minna no Temple.”
So why don't you ask the head of the parishioner (executive) if there is an agreement about the amount of the offering, and other parishioners are aware of it.
Incidentally, in the case of our temple, there are items where there is an amount arrangement, but there may also be economic reasons for the family, so if the amount is small or payment is delayed, the chief priest makes up for it with pocket money.

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