When children cry, they panic.

If you know why children cry and how to stop them, you'll feel better about crying.

Children also don't want to annoy their mom; they can't communicate their feelings and demands well, and they cry in frustration.
When one person cries, they get caught and they cry together.

If you turn your attention elsewhere, huh? It makes me change my mind. For example, when you're crying, “Look, look at that? If you point in a completely unrelated direction and smile, “That's interesting!”, huh? what?? I was able to divert my attention, and since my mom smiles, I was caught and sad things blew away.

Also, crying is tough because it uses physical strength. So, if you prepare tea by saying, “Let's drink some tea!”, they drink it and take a break. why was she crying?? It calms me down.

Then, while hugging him, he said, “What happened? Tell me?” When I say it, they talk slowly and try to teach me with gestures and gaze.

Try it once. As you repeat it, you'll recognize that your mom will listen properly even if you don't cry.
It's alright, try it.
It would be nice if little by little, you would feel more relaxed.

Thank you for raising children every day.

I'm taking care of my two small children by myself, so I can't help but panic.
You've worked hard until today.
However, once in a while, I need a break.
For example, why not talk to the government office and use temporary storage or family support centers every week.
Even if it's one or two and a half days a week, if you take care of your child and have time to calm down, shopping or going to the hairdresser, you should be able to take a break.
Also, there are tips (techniques) for raising children.
If you talk to public health nurses etc. at the government office, there may be courses where you can learn techniques to control children well.
Don't try to get through it alone with guts alone, and borrow someone else's power and brainpower (know-how).
You're paying taxes, so let's use public services.
Of course, don't hesitate to borrow help from your relatives.
In order to do that, it is also necessary to put up with a bit of pride and commitment, but once you get used to it, there's nothing wrong with that.
If you're in trouble, call “189” and talk about it anonymously.
The mind is impermanent.
Feelings and emotions such as panic, anger, and sadness will always pass away.
Let's make good use of the calm moments when the emotions have passed.

My family has 3 children and the youngest child has a developmental disability.
Every day was hell. I really understand how you feel.
My face was scratched at the obstetrics and gynecology department at the same time as giving birth, and I was lied to say “😎 this is common,” and it was certified as a developmental disability if the medicine applied right after delivery damaged the brain. Every day, when I have a little thing, I make a loud noise in the middle of the night, and even though I'm in elementary school starting this year, Oms just came off at last. Support level decided. If something happened to our parents, this child wouldn't be able to live. It would be “unthinkable” for a family blessed with healthy children, but every day really is hell. It's tough. The reality is that even in the position of a Zen monk, religious person, and husband who intends to practice mental training, I seem to go insane without a joke. My wife is several times more burdened than that. I think there will be many moms who will be watching this in the future. First, the couple, parents, and children look at the difficulty of raising children from the bottom up, and appreciate the preciousness of life and the fact that they have lived until today, and that they are in a thankful environment where they can still live in Japan, their parents, DNA, and now, and they all share their suffering. Let's all share our wisdom without suffering alone and fly to the sky of hope and light for life, salvation, and hope. Now it's time. 🛬 Kirahun ✨
An able-bodied person, please say thank you for just being born.
There's no comparison, but the mother of a child with a severe disability is really a living hell greater than us. It also often puts a burden on the other siblings.
Okay! I can't just say hell hell.
A story about salvation from here on out. Comparisons are not possible, but situations and reactions occur in the human mind where “pain” is painful. No matter what kind of situation it is, the essence of the “heartache” response is a negative reaction and multiple mental booking trouble, even though there are differences in degree and number of times. The status of the Asura statue. It seems that a lot of screams and troubles similar to the children's 9/11 attacks are happening, but the people themselves are just making all the claims of trouble at that timing. 👶 AH
That's why “here” won't be swallowed up. First, turn off the TV. Let go of the cooking utensils. Let go of my smartphone too. Clean up your desk and room, too. We build a clean runway inside and outside of our mind where there are no obligatory things that “must be done.” Even airplanes can't fly if something is on the runway when they fly.
Today, in order to build a completely safe runway, “clean up!” Please try it. I can respond to a child's crying calmly “here it is ♡ hi hi” and ❝ exclusive ❞.

They've been working so hard on everything, and it makes me lose my head.
Apart from myself, I think it's a situation where they continue to work hard to raise their children, and the more they work hard without depending on the people around them, they lose more and more room in their hearts and are being driven.

I'll change the story a bit, but “What kind of person do you want to be for students and children in the future?” Most of the answers to this question are “I want to be useful to others.” This isn't just for students and children; in fact, many people think so. If someone can rely on them and do something for them, that person can feel that much happiness.

It's not easy to rely on others, but when you're relied upon, you're quite happy, saying, “This person trusts me and relies on me.”

I think being spoiled and relied upon by others is something that serious, firm people like counselors are not good at, but why don't you gather courage from small things at first?

Each person you can rely on has different capacity and allowances, so of course you should be careful about making requests that exceed those, but by all means, rely on them while devising ways so that people around you, including those close to you, can feel happier and happier.