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Which is the order of heirs or dreams?

 I am the eldest son of a certain Rinzai sect Kenchoji school,
Coupled with the fact that I've been bullied for a long time and the times, I want to become a lawyer.
On the other hand, parents are told that if it is after 3 years of training no matter what, they can go to law school, and if they do it first, they will break up the relationship
However, I cannot take back my physical decline or time. After 3 years of training from 22, I was 25 years old. I don't think it's possible to keep up with studying from scratch from there. On top of that, if the current chief priest dies, there is no choice but to become the chief priest no matter how he feels.
I also feel like abandoning my parents to law school, making up my mind to abandon my house, and entering, but I feel guilty, and when I think like that, I want to die
(It seems that tuition fees can be covered at the last minute with scholarships, etc.)

4 Zen Responses

Monks who are qualified as lawyers are expected to play an active role!

In a world that is undergoing drastic changes, there are monks who also work with various different qualifications, but if you become a monk qualified as a lawyer, your social credibility will increase, and the things you can handle will expand, and I think it's very wonderful.

I think it's better to choose whether to go to a law school after going to a monastery, or go to a law school and then go to the monasteries, depending on which one has the potential to be realized, but why are parents absolutely obsessed with the monasteries first? Moreover, the conditions were so severe that they broke ties.

I am a monk of the Myoshinji school in the same Rinzai sect, but there are also people from the Kenchoji school at the same monastery, and I think they joined a few years later, not right after they left university. You can become a monk anytime, but the challenge of becoming a lawyer is probably more likely now, in terms of age...

I think there are many cases where if the eldest son has something he wants to do, he leaves the temple in the form of taking on the challenge, and the second son takes over the temple. So is the current chief priest of our temple.

Ideally, it's a good idea to have thorough discussions with your parents about what future goals you should have, and everyone agrees in the same direction,
If that is difficult, I think it is still up to the consultant himself to choose a path they are more satisfied with.
It's the life of the consultant, isn't it?

I hope that in the future, you will be active as a monk who is qualified as a lawyer. Please change the world and continue to lead the Rinzai sect in the future.

Buddhism doesn't have enough time

I'm sorry if that was too harsh.

Abandon your parents, abandon your house
This is a word used when becoming a monk and entering the Buddhist priesthood.
My parents say they'll break up,
You won't break ties with the Buddha.
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Social workers with a lower pass rate than the bar exam were in their 30s, and certified psychologists were 48
Thanks to the experience I had since I went out into society, I was able to tackle case problems with a sense of realism.
I think the case law is probably similar.

If you want to walk the path to making your dreams come true, I recommend reviewing your capture routes.

just kidding..
If my goal isn't to pass the bar exam, and I want to get good customers as a lawyer, I will train for 3 years, value lawyer+Buddhism, and start a lawyer.
Running a business is difficult even for lawyers.
If you don't have skills, you won't be able to get customers.
If you get tired of all the fights between the shabas, then become a monk.
I can have dreams with that career plan.

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Thanks for your reply.

If I were to get a lawyer seriously, I wanted to know more information.
It seems that those who pass the preliminary exam have a high pass rate, not the law school course.
Also, it seems that there were 19 law schools that were unable to submit successful applicants.
If you want to become a lawyer prepared to protect your clients, you should first cultivate an eye for being able to invest where necessary without cutting off your path of retreat.

First, why don't you try repeatedly solving past questions from this year's preliminary exam to see how many times you can get a perfect score?

it's a long life

I read it.
Life can be long or short. How much of an impact would a few years of difference in your twenties have on your life?
In the long run, whichever comes first or later probably won't change that much.
We are all immature people, so we accumulate one by one and learn through various experiences. Then, they walk a long way to become a Buddha.
Please don't be in a hurry, calm down, and walk through the twists and turns of the Buddha path of your life while slowly staring at your feet. It's foot care, isn't it?
I support you from the bottom of my heart.
Let's work hard together.

Thank you very much for your reply. Life is full of twists and turns. Every road is halfway there. It's quite difficult to walk the middle path. You are always being watched over by the Buddha. Please take your time and walk through trial and error in your own life!

If you feel like it's going to take over

Honestly, temples aren't like people inheriting their footprints due to blood ties. If you have something you want to do, don't be tied down. Successions should be made by those who raise disciples and inherit the law.
I think the way of life as a monk is wonderful. However, I don't think that is the same as being the chief priest of a temple. Living in Buddhism is something you can do either as a monk or at home.
The way you can be saved is to do what you want to do while seriously living in Buddhism.

Recently, it seems that there is a term called harassment that has taken over. Taking the path you think may be different from your parents' ideals. However, parents also wish for this happiness. At the end of the day, if the child lives a happy life, that alone makes the parents happy.