How should we deal with greed that makes us have high hopes?

Hello.

I didn't know how to deal with my own desires, so I consulted.

First of all, please allow me to include content that looks at yourself from above on the shelf.

Recently, I had my first girlfriend.
Luckily, they have good personality compatibility and enjoy being in a relationship every day.
However, I think the appearance is probably in the slightly poor category. (It's not that I don't like the look)

In theory, I think we should value good personality compatibility over appearance.
However, if you look better, or if you might be able to date someone who is just as compatible and good-looking, they will inevitably come up.
There is also the fact that I haven't had much experience with women, so maybe I don't have confidence in my own thoughts.

I don't want to break up with my current person,
At this rate, they will end up dating with this feeling, and even if they look good, they will probably worry about finding another person who doesn't match their ideals.

I want to come to terms with this greed in a way I'm satisfied with, but I haven't been able to find a good answer on my own.
If you have any ideas or advice for such cases, I would like to hear from you.

It's been a long sentence, but I would appreciate it if you could answer it.

4 Zen Responses

In a natural way

She's probably in a relationship with you as you look now. You can't be more demeaning than necessary. That's because a man's content is more important than his appearance.
If that still bothers you, you should get plastic surgery. I'm just wondering if she wants it or not. It seems natural for men to have plastic surgery in neighboring Korea. It's just a story about neighboring countries, so the mainstream in Japan is that men are content rather than appearance. Let's have a relationship with confidence.
I came all the way to this hasunoha site to refine my inner world, so I think it would be nice if you could follow a monk and study Buddhism. There is no doubt that human power will improve.

Greed knows no limits, but I wonder if we don't have to compromise.

Rather than greed or appearance, relationships between men and women are true if they are biased.
Bibibi was never taught by anyone; it is simply Bibibi that comes from deep within the person herself.
Because of that, Tetsuya※ has proposed 108 times. (It's 101 times) ※target
The love stage is a love stage only because it hasn't developed into marriage yet.
? Hmm, that's wrong! If you think about it, it's a good idea to break up respectfully so as not to hurt the other person's dignity rather than forcibly going out with them out of law or sympathy.

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