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faces

All of my relatives have well-shaped faces.
However, I'm the only one who doesn't look like anyone else, and I stuck clothespins between my nose, saying to my grandmother that she looks like a girl since she was a kid, and that her face would be popular in the Edo period.
I've been told many times that my nostrils are big, my nose is low, and my eyes are small.
I've been hit and abused so many times by my mother, and my grandparents treated me like this, so why am I the only one with bad facial modeling, is it because I'm thinking like this? Is it because I have a bad personality?
I was somewhat more rational than my grandparents, who only spoke ill of people, and my mother, who did absolutely impossible things to me as a parent, and I thought I could think objectively.
Why am I no good? Please tell me

4 Zen Responses

You're never a bad person

I read it.
I read that you are very worried about whether your facial shape is good or bad.
Until now, you've been bullied by your family and relatives about it, saying terrible things, and being caught with clothespins, and doing terrible things. I think it was really painful for you to do such a terrible thing. I don't know all of them, but I really understand your painful feelings.

You're never bad; you're so precious. You really are an irreplaceable person.

I think the minds of people who say such terrible things insensitively or do terrible things without worry are terrible and the worst.
It's not easy to be convinced, but whether it looks good or bad isn't a big deal.
It is harmful to be arrogant about oneself like that, to humiliate or shame others.
It's hard to see people who do such harm, malice, or misdeeds; they are dirty.
Even if you clean only the appearance, if the contents are hard to see and dirty, that person's path of life will get dirty, and if that mindset is bad, that person will never be able to live with a rich heart if they say stupid words or actions.

Please keep in mind that you never do such foolish things, insults, or misdeeds.

I sincerely pray that you can live through every day in a truly rich and happy way so that you can grow healthily while keeping good words and good deeds in mind, without doing anything that clears your mind and never does anything that makes you feel sorry for others.

Family isn't always the only thing that cares about you.

I also read my profile.
You've been having a hard time, haven't you? I can't believe they make fun of their appearance. There were times when they got hurt and hit on their bodies. Even so, it's home, so there's no way you can escape. That's why you've been putting up with it all this time.

How painful is it?
It was sad that they couldn't be spoiled or relied upon, and that they had no choice but to go abusive and violent.

There are times when expressions of affection arrive in different forms. Violence, of course, is no good. That's abuse. You'd better stay away from your mother.

I wonder if my grandmother says she really hates you. However, I also think they are insensitive people who don't think about people's feelings. I don't mind saying bad things, putting the other person right in front of me, and playfully saying what I thought. I wonder if they are people who are disliked by friends around them.

This kind of person doesn't notice at all, even when we endure it in silence, and they don't intend to do that! It's probably going to go ahead and say that.

It would be nice if you too could tell them that you are “hurt by the words you have been told and what has been done.”
It's not that you're bad; your mother and grandparents are rude and arrogant.

Appearance has nothing to do with caring for and loving someone. (I've nursed many children in the garden, and although they don't all look the same, they were adorable and cute. (They are still precious children)

It's probably a natural feeling to want to be loved by family the most, but there are various expressions of affection from family members. Family isn't always the only thing that cares about you.
Also, it is true that there are people who place importance on appearance, but people have various tastes. After all, it is personality and compatibility that makes people attracted to or fall in love with that person, and that is the appeal that people have.

Please don't be the kind of person who looks down on people or makes a fool of them and laughs like your mother or grandparents. I'm sure you have an appeal that makes you different from those people. That's not what it looks like.
That's because there are people who look at you properly, people who understand you, and people who acknowledge your goodness. I met someone like that. Please build an important relationship with someone like that. Your surroundings will support you rather than your family.

We are alive because we are necessary

You are living in this universe right now because the universe needs you.
Also, your facial features are inherited characteristics necessary for humans.
For example, the characteristics of Mongoloids, which have small eyes and square faces, seem to be suitable for protecting eyeballs etc. from the cold.
In order for humanity to survive, we need people who are resistant to the cold, right?
Like that, whether or not you are beautiful is an absurd thing that changes depending on the country, era, and fashion, and in reality, each face has a meaning (function).
Even if it's a car, it's a problem if it's just sports cars. Both mini cars and trucks are great cars.
Your parents seem to have a wrong idea, not understanding that there are other great cars besides sports cars.
Don't be brainwashed by such parents, be confident, and praise yourself.
Also, let's think that the universe needs me, so I'm allowed to exist.

You're not bad.

though
Situations where you feel like you're no good
I feel like I understand.

Excuse me
Your family is a “rock from another mountain.”
Please keep improving yourself.