Is it necessary to make an effort to not be loved?

As I mentioned earlier

I don't need love from anyone.
No one needs my love.

Of course, from a public perspective
If you were told that no, you probably have someone to love, you would answer that's true.

It's superficial.
Instead, what underlies each other is respect.

There are times when we don't like each other.
But the relationship between that person and me
There is respect and respect at the root of that.

Something that goes out of your way to call it love
There's almost none.

What kind of people are underpinned by respect and respect?

I think these are people living with sorrow.

There are people who just cry when they think about a situation like Little Finger's.
That's why they're actually here.

People with similar circumstances
I'm crying somewhere.

But despite those circumstances, I
Remember respect and respect.
I yearn for such a way of life.

That's why there are people who live like that.

Remember respect and respect.
Start with yourself.
Then against people.

If I could do that.

Let's call this love.

Whether it is needed
Next to two.
I think there's something more important.

I want you to believe that.

Namu Shakyamuni Buddha Gassho

Thank you very much for the consultation, Little Finger.

It may be strange to answer even though I've already answered, but please forgive me.

In my opinion, when I try to love someone, when I try to receive love, or when I try to love each other, and when I want to love myself, I think bad memories, painful memories, and memories of not being loved by my mother come out as a set at the same time.

If you repeat, repeat, and accumulate experiences of “healing, comforting, soothing, and heart-warming,” that came out of painful memories from an early age, such as assumptions, beliefs such as lack of courage, etc., and feelings like blocks of mind, I think you will be able to control the emotions that come out of the set.

After all, I think it's good to borrow the help of experts such as therapists and counselors for the experience of “healing, comforting, soothing, and warming the heart.”

Find and receive therapy that doesn't blame yourself, doesn't criticize yourself, doesn't judge right and wrong, recognizes and accepts your own suffering, and shows compassion for yourself.
I think there's still more you can do. There will also be hopes and dreams.
No matter what happened in the past, people can walk towards their goals and objectives. Of course I think you can do it too. You can rely on people when walking. You can borrow some help. Please be happy by receiving therapy etc. for yourself so that you feel warm so that you don't feel alone.
Please refer to it. One bow

I think you're feeling deep pain and loneliness. Questions and anguish about relationships and love with others are feelings experienced by people in any position. It can be difficult to love others and feel happy when you're feeling hurt and alone yourself. However, in order to love others and feel happy, it is necessary to first accept and heal yourself.
You may think it is important to “work hard” in order to be loved by others, but not denying yourself and taking care of yourself leads to love. By accepting and loving yourself, your relationships with others will change, and you may be able to gain peace of mind and a sense of happiness. Before seeking love for others, the first step is to feel love and importance for yourself.
Also, in order to love people without being jealous, it is important to understand and have compassion for others. It is necessary to cultivate compassion for others and ourselves, and to confront self-centered feelings and behaviors. Also, in order to be happy, it is important to think about the form of happiness you want and take care of yourself.
I want you to not irritate yourself, listen to your heart, and move forward little by little. I'm rooting for you. Gassho

Little finger
I took a look at your concerns.

It painfully conveys that I'm always constantly in constant conflict with myself.
“You don't have to work hard anymore.” As I told you last time, “do your best” is probably at the root no matter what.

I guess they've worked so hard until now because they wanted to be loved and to be happy,
I think they're continuing to work hard even now.
I've really worked hard so far.

If it's difficult for Little Finger to face herself, I don't think it's okay to borrow someone's help. I thought it would be a good idea to try it out if someone could really listen to it.

It's a task of finding thoughts and assumptions entangled in one's head, healing them, and solving them. This is pretty difficult on my own. I also borrow the help of people when I feel like it.

Life is really strange, but the more you let go, the more you love you.

When you stop trying so hard, stop making an effort, and exist in this world just the way you are, I think many people will love you.

I think everyone has love, so
It may be hard to see now with a lot of armor on, but I think the root of Little Finger is also love.

I pray that Little Finger's heart will become even a little lighter and be enveloped in warm light.
Namu Amida Buddha. We clapped hands.