I wrestled sumo wrestled with my old students and was puzzled by the unexpected results

This is the person who asked the following question before.
https://hasunoha.jp/questions/66841
As you answered, I won sumo wrestling with my students (this is a regular ring inside a sports facility).
I'm a 47 year old, 170 cm, 102 kg giant. He is 20 years old, 168 cm, and 53 kg slender.
The result was 10 wins and 5 losses... he won over.

The reason for this result was that my physical strength had declined too much.
Excessive smoking was added to my lack of exercise on a daily basis, and I quickly became short of breath.
Also, even though I don't have leg strength, I only have body weight, so I couldn't support my huge body, and my knees were always stretched and I stood on a pole.
Most of the content was that I sneaked into his arms while my legs and hips were unstable, I forgave him double hands without being able to turn it around, and I, the giant, was knocked right over by my slender guy.
The final effort was also this way of losing, but when they were driven into the ring, they were so much pain that they voiced “I can't get the turnaround.”
I thought I might lose to him because of the age difference, but I never anticipated that I would be knocked right over and over again.
Yumo, when I tightened my wheels beforehand, I was ashamed and put on shorts underneath, but he stuck out his butt, saying, “It's a game between man and man, so I want to fight fairly and honestly.” At this point, I may have lost to him because of my feelings.

After the confrontation was over, I felt rather refreshed when I lost.
When he was in elementary school, he was really delicate and the worst boy in his class in terms of height and weight
The fact that they grew up strong enough to challenge me head-on in sumo wrestling without being afraid of my giant body,
As a teacher, I couldn't help but be happy that he was a wimp who was often made to cry by girls, and he became mentally strong enough to pull out his butt and tighten his hands without being shy.
On the other hand, he, who should have won, had a somewhat sad and lonely expression.
They said “I didn't think I could win,” so they probably thought I was strong like a real sumo wrestler.
The real me wasn't what he had imagined. After all, 10 years are cruel, aren't they?

I'm going to give him words of encouragement by phone or letter. The fact that losers encourage winners is also a strange story, but since winning or losing in sumo wrestlers and feelings after the match were opposite, I think I'm on the encouraging side. What should I say to them?

4 Zen Responses

Ingenious nature

Thank you very much for your consultation.

I feel that the nuance seems to be blurred if it's on the phone, and there is a possibility that it will be misunderstood, so I think it's a good idea to write a letter with sentences that reflect the feelings you have posted here.
Honestly speaking, just the sentences in this post made me understand the circumstances around you, the ups and downs of your emotions that day, and up until now. It was really interesting to read.
I think it will be fully conveyed to him just by spelling it out in words that express your current feelings.

“A decade or so ago” is a common saying, isn't it? Please keep the feeling that “I was really happy that he got stronger” and clearly convey it to him. We clap hands.

I think it would be nice if it was spelled out honestly.

Attokonioyekkah
I took a look at your concerns.

Thank you for telling me such a wonderful story (^^) It warms my heart.

I think it would be a good idea to just tell you what is written here.
Even if you fix it, your opponent will notice it, and I think it would be nice if it was spelled out honestly.
In the end, honest words are the ones that reach the other person the most.

At least I was so relieved to read this consultation.

I pray that Attokonioyekkah's heart will become even a little lighter and be wrapped in warm light.
Namu Amida Buddha. We clap hands.

Tell me about your life

　Thank you for your hard work in sumo wrestling, Attokonioyekkah, please take care of yourself
I think I should tell you what life is. Don't you understand anymore? The fact that no matter how good a person is in sumo wrestlers can't beat age, injury, or illness
But I think the most important thing is the spirit of accepting yourself as you are. What do you need to do that? what to do? Isn't it important to tell students not to let them run down a bad path, think for themselves, and come up with answers?
You're not telling it; you should tell him a story that conveys to him

Let's sign up for another match

I answered your previous question. I'm glad I was able to do sumo wrestling with my students back then. I thought it would be easy to win the first game in my garden, etc., but at the sports facility, I was able to tie the wheel properly, and that was also the 15th match. It was a serious match, wasn't it? I did my best. I think it was a great experience for both you and your students. Also, I heard the impression that “it made me feel refreshed even when I lost,” and I thought it was good that they recommended sumo wrestling.
In response to the previous question, I answered, “Being in the same shape forever is an illusion, and I think it's a good opportunity for people to learn such important things that are constantly changing,” and I think you and your students have witnessed exactly that.
What made my students have a “somewhat sad and lonely expression” may have been that they were a little surprised (again disappointed) when they anticipated a last-minute game such as 8 wins and 7 losses, but the result was 10 wins and 5 losses.
As a voice call, I think it would be a good idea to go with the monk who answered earlier and express your feelings as written in this question. And he said, “I was unaware this time. I won't lose next time. I think it would be a good idea to say “Let's play the game again.” I think you've got a good opportunity yourself, so I think it's a good idea to work hard to gain strength from now on, and prepare for the next game. 47 years old is still too young. It would be nice if we could play again next time.

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