I regret naming my child.

I regret naming my 8-month-old child now.

I decided my name was my husband when I was 7 months pregnant.

My husband was happy to receive 1 kanji for the name from my husband's grandfather, so it was suggested that the child being born would also receive 1 kanji for the name of the grandfather (father-in-law from my point of view) for this child in the same way.
I had heard that getting a name from my immediate family wouldn't bring good luck (although it is said to be a superstition), and I was a little worried, but I accepted my husband's proposal.

※Your name is on your profile.

When I gave birth safely and announced my name, people around me

“If you don't have a surname, it's likely you'll be able to read 00, right?”
“An unusual and unusual way to read it”
There was a response such as, and although it is pronounced as a kanji, I feel sorry for my son that he may have given a peculiar name.
I talked to my husband about whether it would be better to change my name
Wouldn't it be nice to raise children who can argue even if misread? Then the story ends.

My son risked his life to raise him carefully before and after delivery.
When I was feeling uncomfortable getting the name of my immediate family, I clearly declined my husband's proposal, and I regret that it would have been different if I had been able to choose from more different kanji without any kanji restrictions.

Also, feelings of hatred have arisen against my father-in-law, who was given his name.

Regrets always go round and round in my head and I don't stop thinking. Let's raise children who can assert themselves positively, as my husband says. Also, communication with people increases by having one conversation conveying the pronunciation of the name. I'm trying to think positively, but my regrets don't go away.

4 Zen Responses

That's a good name ^_^

Hello. I read your concerns. In our long lives, when we make particularly important choices, we often stop, think, and sometimes regret.
First of all, the fact that you care about your son and that you are raising him with care overflows from the sentences. Your heart as a mother is so precious and radiant because of how deep that love is. The fact that I'm having trouble with my name right now is all proof that I care about my son. I hope you can stay close to that feeling and feel even a little peace of mind.
Names are certainly important. However, what is more important than that is the heart of the person who bears that name. I think it's important how you look at that name and how you love it so that your son can take pride in his name in the future. There are certainly times when you misread it, but new dialogues, encounters, and bonds may also be born from there.
Also, there's a point in your husband's words. By having more opportunities to explain the origin of your name to others, you may be able to know your roots and feel proud. As your son grows up, by knowing the meaning and background of his name, his understanding of his existence and family history will deepen.
However, please also cherish the regrets and conflicts you feel. It's definitely not a meaningless feeling. By valuing your own feelings, understanding and accepting those thoughts, peace may come to your heart. Sometimes, through repeated dialogues with family members, mutual understanding will deepen, and new paths may come into view.
Above all, don't forget that this regret you have right now also includes your great love for your son. That love will eventually become a great strength for my son, and no matter what name he has, it will help him live with confidence and pride.
I wish you peace of mind and healthy growth for your son. Your love as a mother is more precious to your son than anything else. Even in the midst of your worries, please remember that love envelops your son.

By the way, things in the profile can't be viewed from a monk's perspective, so I can't touch on the content, but I think it's a good name, don't worry. Gassho

Thank you for your question.
I think it's a great name.
I haven't even been read correctly by my school teacher at first sight, so don't worry if it's read in a different way. It might be rather rare and easy for people to remember.
I hope they grow up bright, energetic, and healthy.

It's the correct way to read

There are kanji phonetic readings such as kanji sounds and Wu sounds, and “sound” is also read as “on” or “in.”
If a monk from the Jodo sect sees your child's name, it will read it with a Wu sound, so I think it will be the correct way to pronounce it.
Also, it's a wonderful kanji that isn't strange even if you're actually a monk.
There is no 100 point scale for the name.
If you start being stingy, there's no point.
It's a good name, so please keep up your heart.

The name is also related. Let's take good care of the things we have a connection with.

I saw your concerns.

I also feel that other temples are saying it too.
In addition to that, I've heard
The fact that getting a name from an immediate family member is unlucky is a story without any basis.
As proof of that, it is said that your husband feels happy.

Maybe it's because you left a feeling you weren't satisfied with, or maybe because you were disappointed with other people's reactions.

However, since children's names are almost always given with parents' feelings and family feelings, there is a connection between the readings, kanji, and meanings.

I'm sure your child had something to do with this name.
If you take good care of the things you have a connection with, your luck will improve, so it's fine.

If the mother's feelings are negative, the child will also lose confidence in themselves (name).

If you raise them with a name full of love and sincerity from their parents, I think children with this name will shine brilliantly, and please raise them that way.

I thought it was a cool name. Gassho

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