I'm in the process of changing jobs due to relationships.

Thank you very much for your consultation.

It has endured well for 3 years. Even though I have the attitude, words, and actions of those who are at the core of it, and the pain that breaks the strings of my heart, I have made so much effort at work, and there is no need to blame myself in the slightest speck.

The first thing I want to tell you is that the fact that Fumi didn't fit into her workplace was “not anyone's fault, it just didn't fit.”
This is a matter of relationship, and Fumi's abilities and personality have by no means been denied. There is something called “cause and effect” in Buddhist terms, but people and environments all have timing and compatibility when they meet. I'm sure Fumi is waiting for a chance to shine in another place.

Also, it is natural for you to be hurt by the fact that the core person gets angry in front of everyone or takes a cold attitude. However, I think there are many possibilities that people who take such an attitude don't have room in their own minds and are trying to resolve their own anxiety and impatience by hitting others. There is no need to be at the mercy of such people and overly blame yourself or lose sight of your worth.

It is said that they are looking for a new job, but please don't be impatient.
Little by little, I would like you to take a fresh look at what kind of workplace is right for you.
In Buddhism, there is a term for “taking care of the foot (foot of care)”. This is, “Watch your feet! It means “confirm where you stand.” Once again, set aside time to think carefully about what you want to value and what kind of environment you want to work in. That is the first step leading to a new relationship.

Also, thinking back on bad things during the holidays is a natural function of the human mind. However, instead of being held captive by that disgusting event, please firmly acknowledge “yourself who has worked so hard” and take care of them. Your heart, which has endured the pain, already has great strength.

Lastly, please take care of yourself.
Instead of being influenced by others' evaluations and attitudes, believe in your own worth and take a new step forward.
I sincerely pray that Fumi will find the right place for her.

Nice to meet you.
Thank you for your support.
It's really awful to get mad at me for showing off in front of everyone!
I wonder if he's kind of childish? I thought so.

What I felt was that Fumi was a threat to the core of it? I thought so.

The reason is that I remember my job quickly and I make few mistakes. They are trying to see the personality and essence in the profile.

From the core point of view,
It's hard to understand what Fumi is thinking, and maybe her position will be taken away? There may have been uneasy things like that.

People like this use the popularity of their peers at work as a barometer, so it's not interesting if someone praises Fumi a little bit. That's why they do things that lower Fumi's reputation in front of everyone. To make my existence known, “I'm superior.”

So I think it's okay to leave saying “that's stupid,” and I think it's also good to split up and continue while smiling.

However, it would be better for Fumi to find a place where she can shine with Fumi's colors!

If you're going to change jobs, I think it's better to take a thorough look back at your current workplace so you don't fail from day one. It's about studying communication and understanding oneself.
As you probably know, if you study Johari's window and be aware of “open windows,” communication is much smoother.

It's a really strange story, but I get jealous just because I can do my job. It's like watching the situation for a while at a new workplace (like watching from a higher place)

Also, to one of its core people
If there are “similar people,” they might be “scary” or “not good at it.” At that time, we recommend that you receive counseling and do trauma care.

It would be nice if I could design my career well without being impatient!
I will continue to support you.
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Thank you very much for your kind reply. I will continue to support you! Please take good care of your body.

Since relationships are often unrelated to work work itself, time spent thinking about relationships in your head becomes time taken away by delusional distractions, and concentration is lost during that time, so there is a possibility that work will slow down.
People who don't care about relationships at all can focus on their work.
If you don't worry about relationships, and even if you don't like them, you think it would be nice if you were disliked and just get paid, then your current job, which has been going on for 3 years, may be the right job for you.
Middle-aged newcomers are easily ridiculed in any workplace, so if you worry about relationships, it becomes difficult to continue working.
Also, there is a possibility that they are not being scolded because they are disliked, but only because they happen to be scolded because they happen to be scolded (once you think he's a guy who can't do his job, it's easy for people to think “is it you again” even if it's a small mistake).
So, if the colleagues around you are all young and bright, middle-aged people who seem dark are likely to become extra angry targets.
Actually, staying in your current workplace for a long time may lead to creating a workplace that suits you (if you stay for a long time, you will become a necessary person).
Even if I throw away what I've built up for 3 years, change jobs, and start again as a middle-aged rookie, I don't know if that would be more comfortable than it is now.
Whether you change jobs or not, the important thing is that even if your seniors and colleagues dislike them, you don't dislike them and fall in love with them.
If you do that, work will be fun, and since delusional distractions related to relationships will be reduced, it will also lead to an increase in work efficiency.
Any workplace would be fun if you could work innocently like a puppy that loves its owner.
For example, blindly pledging loyalty to your boss like a samurai or ninja seems old-fashioned, but I think it has the effect of making work more enjoyable. (A vassal who doesn't hate his idiot)

I read it.
I read that you are having a very difficult time being treated harshly by your boss at work. I don't know the detailed situation at work or about you or that person, but I sincerely understand your painful feelings.
We have already received responses from Master Furukawa, Master Kimi, and Master Gan, so I'll just say one thing.
If that boss harshly yells or gets angry at you in front of everyone at work and says and acts in a way that denies your personality, that is power harassment.
Why don't you talk to your company's HR department or harassment consultation desk? Or why don't you contact a public labor consultation desk for a consultation?
https://www.gov-online.go.jp/useful/article/201304/1.html
https://www.houterasu.or.jp/lp/roudou2020/?utm_source=ysa&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=r6_01kenzai_roudou2020
https://www.mhlw.go.jp/general/seido/chihou/kaiketu/soudan.html
For now, please feel free to contact us. Also, if it's power harassment after all, let's seek appropriate responses.
I sincerely pray that you will have peace of mind and live a peaceful life every day, and that you will be able to face your work satisfactorily. And I wholeheartedly support you. We wholeheartedly agree