I'm thinking about graveyard damage about my father, but I've heard that souls don't dwell in the remains.
My parents are divorced, and we haven't been together for a long time.
My mother built a tomb with her in-laws, but she didn't even do an eye opening memorial service during the ossuary, so she just paid for her remains.
If souls don't dwell in the remains, aren't prayers or graves necessary?
I read your consultation.
Even if it is called a tomb scavenger, it is actually a reburial (removal of bones), and it is necessary to store the bones somewhere. I think it is possible to first determine whether reburial is necessary in terms of physical aspects by checking the current maintenance costs etc. of graves, etc.
It probably depends on faith when it comes to praying, but there are many aspects that cannot be judged here. This is because he is your father, and the most important thing is whether or not you want to pray. I don't feel like praying at all, but since the soul dwells in our bones, isn't it necessary to repose for a soul? If you're worried, it's a belief you've learned somewhere, so I think it's better to pray as long as you have that feeling. This is to avoid feeling because of your father (= reward for not visiting graves) when something bad happens to you (even though that's not actually the case).
Visiting graves is a conversation with someone who has died. It's actually a conversation with myself, but I can have a deep conversation with myself that wouldn't have been born without the presence of the deceased. The fact that you are here now is also thanks to your relationship with your father, so even if that's not the case now, there will probably come a moment when you want to put your hands together.
There are no dead people in graves. Nor does soul dwell in your bones. Nevertheless, for people who want to put their hands together, I think the symbolic location of the deceased is the tomb where the bones were buried.
Living humans live by being caught up in visible forms. The deceased probably left their homes already, but since we are living people who don't know where to put our hands together then, I think we still need a symbolic place.
I think the remains, tomb marks, pagodas, and portraits are a medium for remembering and worshiping those who have died.
In terms of how easy it is to empathize, the remains still have a special feeling.
Buddha explained that worshiping a pagoda called a stupa (stupa) containing the remains of a Buddha or a great king would cleanse the hearts of those who worship it.
I think the true meaning is that if we remember and admire the personalities of people who are morally respectable, and if we feel like we follow great people, a positive effect (merit, makes it easier to understand) will occur on our minds.
The objects themselves, such as remains or tombstones, are not important, and it is precious to remember great people to emulate.
However, in Japanese Buddhism, everyone thinks that one day they can become a Buddha (personality perfected person to be apprenticed), so even if they were villains and sinners during their lifetime, I think they will worship them as if they were members of the Buddha who died.
Simply put,
It's fine if Mari wants to pray or visit graves, and if she feels like she doesn't want to, you don't need to do it.
Then, Moshimari prayed and held a memorial service
“I don't want to be this guy! I wonder if I need to do or...?”
If you feel like it, there must always be a reason for it (in Buddhism, I think everything has a cause and effect)
In other words
Are prayers and graveyard visits necessary or unnecessary?
Rather than thinking
Why do I feel that way?
If you can think about it, maybe you'll naturally find the answer? 👍
I thought ^^)