Isn't it difficult to accept your concerns?

I'm indebted to you. I was able to use this consultation, and I am aware that I have come out of the worst time in my life thanks to you.
I'm ruminating on the words I've received, and I'm supporting my heart. It's a valuable way to feel connected to the modern age where relationships tend to be tenuous.
That's why I'm seriously aware of unnecessary savings, but it bothers me.

Recently, we have started accepting email questionnaires and LINE consultations, etc., and although we have become more and more familiar as users, it makes me think that the burden on monks and operators has increased quite a bit.

Even though my life experience is short, I have also become emotional on both the side receiving the consultation and the side doing it. All of them take a lot of effort. I might faint if I were told to get a lot of trouble consultations starting tomorrow.
Even on a daily basis, as I took seminars etc. for job hunting, I began to wonder what kind of feelings lecturers have, and how people who listen to people's conversations as counselors take care of themselves.

I'd love to hear it. Do you face a lot of trouble consultations every day and still not be swallowed up by the counselor's worries?
Based on my past experiences, I'm not a bit bad at people, but... is this something I can do because I like people?

It is also thanks to Hasunoha that I have recovered to the point where I can focus more on others than myself.
I'm going to do my best in job hunting, motivated by the fact that I can physically support them if I earn money.

4 Zen Responses

I don't overdo it and I try not to have more than I can

The monks responding to Hasunoha should respond at their own pace, so I wonder if everyone answers in their spare time while prioritizing legal affairs.
Me too. Even so, I visited Hasunoha every day, and the time to slowly face my counselors became a daily routine, and before I knew it, it was 10 years. I've been in a relationship with all of you for a long time.

Hasunoha is a volunteer, but since they do consultation work in many fields on a daily basis, they respond by properly switching between where they face each other. For example, as a monk, as an administrative counselor, as a support worker, and as a gatekeeper. Also, there are individual responses, and there are also responses where teams are involved as support groups. No matter how much experience you have, acting in a self-oriented manner will not support the counselor. We work with a firm grasp of where to respond.

The secret to not getting swallowed up by worries is to believe in your opponent's ability to overcome them and don't go too far.
Also, training and self-care are being carried out well. Otherwise, you'll be exhausted.

I think I'm better at using my time than others. Also, I think I can change my mind quickly. It moves a lot, and by putting myself in a different place, I'm clearly switching the feeling switch.
Often, “isn't it going to be tough?” I'm asked, but I don't overdo it, I try not to have more things than I can do, and I also trust and rely on my peers. Give feedback and connect to the next. It feels like we've built up what we can do, one by one.

I'm not doing anything that precious.

789456, I think job hunting and everyday life will be difficult, but please take care of your body. Please take care of yourself.
I don't have REIT in response to your question because I'm lowering the questions I can't answer. I try not to respond when I can't handle it. I don't answer questions when I'm busy.
There is a term called empathy fatigue. It refers to a state where the mind and body are exhausted by worrying too much about people and taking care of others.
I think the feeling of listening closely to people's problems and trying to solve them is important, but please take care of yourself.
Surprisingly, I think I'm doing it at my own pace. That's all for me.

I have cause and effect in mind

　Hello. The two of them have already answered, but I thought the question from this angle was interesting, so I'll write it too.
I am a member of the Jodo sect, and about 20 years ago, the term “Buddhist counseling” was raised at the Youth Association, and lectures and study sessions were actively held. I feel that I have learned a little bit of the theories and techniques I learned there.
Also, specific ideas include “I don't answer when I can't afford it” and “even if that's not the case, I only answer what I want to answer.” I think this clarity that “you don't have to answer everything” is a factor that can continue for a long time.
The rest is to find out that the “reason for cause and effect” in Buddhism is showing up. “Things happen because of causes, relationships, and circumstances. The idea is, “That's why everything around me holds a percentage of everything around me.” No matter what happens, it's not my fault alone, and I'm not responsible for everything.
I've experienced rough exchanges a few times, but it can make me feel hungry, saying “the relationship wasn't right.”
I also read questions from people who are very distressed. However, even if it is an illness or poverty, it is also Buddhism that “the world doesn't go the way you want it in the first place, there is suffering,” and the fact that “suffering is born from misunderstandings” does not completely deny me, that if misunderstandings persist, I escape suffering, and there is even a safety net where, by any chance, I can work hard again in paradise even if it isn't completed for the rest of my life.
So, speaking without fear of misunderstandings, for me, this hasunoha is also a “place to test the hypothesis of Buddhism.” No... it may be possible to say that I believe (intend to) believe in Buddhism, and I am trying to confirm it.
We aim for answers that are in line with Buddhist values and structures as much as possible, and in order to do so, calm is essential. “Is this element included?” I'll check the analysis. It's also a concrete way to “not get caught up or get bogged down.” ... Even so, from time to time, I get caught up.

All will be accepted by the Buddha, gods, and ancestors

I read it.
Thank you for your question. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Well, I think it takes a lot of effort to listen to people's stories and concerns. That's because it can also be a heavy mental burden. I feel like I understand very well that you think that way.
Certainly, there are times when listening to your concerns makes it difficult for you too. After all, they're human, so the more they empathize, the more they stay in my heart. Therefore, there are many times when you hold it too much and it becomes painful.
I put my hands together with Buddha, gods, and ancestors every morning and night. At that time, I will tell the Buddha, God, and all of my ancestors as they are, and the Buddha, gods, and ancestors will listen to all my thoughts and what I have.
And I will try to lighten my own heart as much as possible. Even so, it gets quite heavy, and if it's hard, I'll put my hands together with the Buddha, gods, and ancestors anytime, anywhere and tell them about your painful feelings and suffering.
There are also times when it comes up in dreams and makes people nod. In that case, even in dreams, they will put their hands together with the Buddha, gods, and ancestors to offer sutras and nembutsu, and all will be accepted by the Buddha, gods, and ancestors.
There are also people who have passed away. If there are people who are suffering, I sincerely ask the Buddha, gods, and ancestors to save them.
So I think it varies from person to person.

I sincerely pray to the Buddha, gods, and ancestors that you can share your thoughts with many people and that the Buddha, gods, and ancestors will always kindly watch over you, and that you can live a healthy and happy life with all of you. We wholeheartedly agree
And I will support you from the bottom of my heart.

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