Neighborhood issues, dog voices, and my own projection

I heard on the internet that there is surgery to make dogs less loud.
Why don't you try to negotiate with your neighbor to see if they can do such surgery, even if you split the cost of surgery?
If your neighbor doesn't like surgery, say, “Then keep them indoors and spend less time putting them out in the garden.”
Psychologically, a big request is made first, and if you turn it down, the other party feels burdened by saying no, so it seems easier to accept small requests.
Also, on the other hand, it seems that when a simple light request is OK at the beginning, it may be easier to accept it the next time a larger request is made.
So, let's plan a strategy to advance the negotiation pieces by dividing them into several phases.
In terms of Buddhism, any sound is nothing more than a vibration of the air, so it may be a mental problem on the part of us humans (recipients) that make us feel angry or sad by assigning meaning to the vibrations of the air.
So the “projection” you mentioned is probably correct.
Well, when we don't understand, we just give meaning to sounds and we feel joy, anger, sorrow, and joy.
Even so, it might be a good idea to be aware that “I wasn't hit because of the vibrations of the air, so it's not painful or itchy.”
Also, if you think “vocal cord surgery is a pity for dogs” or “keeping them indoors is a pity,”
It's your own choice, so it may be easier to convince yourself.

I read your worries.

Frankly speaking, it seems that there is no such thing as a completely satisfying solution. When my son also lived in a condominium※, I experienced problems with neighbors. I've always been worried that my son is also being naughty and bothered by the noisy nature of our house. (※Living in a condominium even though he's a monk may sound unusual for a moment, but please listen lightly that there are many things (laughs)) However, when I asked for greetings when I moved, far from feeling negative, the people in both rooms seemed happy with my son's growth, and I felt that it was true from his facial expressions and words.
When it comes to a house, there's no way we can move in, and there are places where we get extra nervous about each other. I think it's strange that either one of them feels bad or is forced to put up with unreasonable patience, but it would be extremely difficult to resolve that unfairness in relationships with people (neighbors) who have different basic values and ways of thinking as people.

There is only one piece of advice that seems extremely obvious, but why don't you look at it in an attitude of untying a broken string? Human relationships are more troublesome than strings, and if you try to resolve them by forcibly pulling them, they won't unravel excessively.
Even dogs that are noisy now may eventually become quiet when they get old, and their neighbors may be compassionate to us at some point. Let's be patient patiently and leisurely like creatures that welcome spring and wait for the snow to melt without being too hasty or too hopeful.
When it's fall and you want to open the window and feel the natural breeze, be sure to take a walk. Walking in the natural wind will have many benefits such as health promotion, muscle strength improvement, and mental stability.
Wouldn't it be best if you didn't take it too seriously and just relax?

Sowaka Gassho

I've also read past questions. The BBQ house also has a dog, doesn't it? Everything affects you is nothing but pain, right?
It's probably a state where damage is directed towards your home side, even in terms of dog discipline, room outlook (dogs are easy to notice), and neighbors' values. There is probably a perception that there are no problems, so there isn't much to hope for improvements... Communicating directly also means you can't say it because you don't want to cause trouble.

It seems like a situation we have no choice but to endure, but in order not to worry about it as much as possible, I think we will spend more time outside than at home. By moving from home to another location, such as work during the day, you can get away from your neighbor's case. Anything is fine, whether it's work, a sports club, or the library, but wouldn't it be easier to get distracted when you're away from home?
Also, you want to take measures such as soundproof curtains on the windows, etc., and make the inside of the house as comfortable as possible and not be affected by the outside. Why don't you search for something different in your own way?

Thanks to such connections, such as work, exercise, other activities, volunteering, etc., I am able to direct my feelings towards that. Just thinking about the house makes me breathless, doesn't it?

I read it.
It's about people in the neighborhood I've been consulting with before... I think you're having a very hard time. I don't know the details about you or those people, but I really understand your painful feelings.
The sound of a pet dog probably resonates quite a bit with people around them, and I think everyone is bothered. Other than that, they may not be following the rules.
So let's ask those people to work together with everyone in the community to make improvements. Let's talk to team leaders, town presidents, civil affairs committee members, local government environmental improvement section personnel, and city councilors to ask for improvements.
As soon as those people start yelling at you with a grudge, call 110. If your opponent is abusive or violent, don't hesitate to call 110 and ask the police station to respond. Let's clearly tell them that they are very bothersome to local residents and ask them to make improvements.
If dogs are properly trained, they won't bark unnecessarily to some extent. It depends on the breed and personality of the dog, but if you look it up, I think there are probably places nearby that can teach you. We should let those people train themselves. They do it for themselves, and above all for their dogs.
When living together in a community, it is important for everyone to respect each other, be compassionate and help each other, and abide by the rules.
I sincerely pray to the Buddha, gods, and ancestors that those people will improve quickly, respect everyone and each other, follow the rules, and that you and everyone can live every day with peace of mind. We wholeheartedly agree