Are there words to let go of your obsession?

Thank you for contacting us.
From the text, the difficulties of raising children in that era, and the joy of interacting with mom friends that seemed to fit into it, were slowly conveyed. I think I can clearly understand that it warms my heart when I think about it, but it makes me sad at the same time...
When I think back to when my child was young, I think of the two feelings you had.

That's why I want to tell you these two things this time.

1) Realize that “it has already come to an end”
No matter how fun and important a relationship is, the “end” will always come. It's not “because it failed” or “because the relationship deteriorated,” but because “that time played a role and reached a break.”
In Buddhism, everything happens due to chance, and ends when the relationship runs out... that is the view of “good fortune.” Acknowledging what has ended as finished is the first step in letting go of obsessions. So, when your heart is rustling, please try muttering with your heart like this.
“That is already over”
This word has the power to separate the past and present, “I was certainly happy then” and “but that's not now,” yet it does not deny either.

2) “At that time, I didn't notice it, but maybe I did something bad”
During the consultation, there was a reflection saying, “Maybe I and my child made me feel uncomfortable without noticing it.” I think that feeling is very important.
But that's my story from the past. At that time, you must have been desperate every day, and probably selflessly obsessed. So, even if something is rude, if it “went unnoticed,” then it's not something you should blame too much on right now.
“It was fun back then. I didn't notice it, but maybe I did something bad.”
Try tweeting with your heart like this. Instead of blaming myself, it's like flipping through a nostalgic album and feeling like I'm gently looking down on my old self.
From now on, touching your memories may still hurt your heart. However, it is also proof that you have sincerely cared for people. I hope that kindness will one day become another relationship and a strength to support someone else.

I read it.
You are very sorry that you have been estranged from the person who took care of you. Remembering that time makes it difficult, doesn't it? I don't know the details of your relationship or respect for you or that person, but I really understand your feelings.
There are encounters and breakups in life, aren't there? There are times when they were taken care of by being close to them at that time, and there are times when they walk away after that due to various factors and changes in feelings. In a sense, life may be a repetition of such things.
If you have a feeling of gratitude for that person, please put your hands together in your heart and express your sincere gratitude.
“I was really indebted to you at that time. Thank you very much. Please stay healthy from now on.” Please tell me with sincerity and sincerity.
You and your family are being helped, encouraged, and protected in relationships with so many people. Please take good care of that from the bottom of your heart, and if there are people around you who are upset, please reach out and raise your hand if you can help them.
And let's continue to live together with many people while helping each other.
You and your family will continue to be blessed with many wonderful encounters and relationships. I sincerely pray to the Buddha, gods, and ancestors so that we can be compassionate and help each other and live a healthy and safe life every day. We wholeheartedly agree
And I will support you from the bottom of my heart.

If you can call (name) Namu Amida Buddha (Namu Amida Butsu) and nembutsu, there is no need to be obsessed with anything else.
Honen Shonin explained that the way to spend this world (this world) is to spend time in a way that is Nembutsu.
Details can be found on the Jodo Sect Sohonzan Chion-in website. https://share.google/N4dfL7NezxKtT3EY0
If Namu Amida Buddha, Namu Amida Buddha, Namu Amidabu, and Nembutsu can be recited, it is confirmed that that person can pass away (reincarnate) in the Pure Land of Paradise.
So, with or without mom friends, you can pass away if you nembutsu.
Whether it's painful or not because of your mom's friend's memories, you can pass away if you do nembutsu.
Whether you're a good person or not, you can pass away if you do nembutsu.
As such, when we safely chant “if you do nembutsu even if it's ○○ or not ○○, you can pass away,” we are freed from that obsession with “○○,” and the happy ending of our lives has been determined regardless of the presence or absence of ○○, and I think this life is a passing life.
Gassho
Namu Amidabu Namu Amidabu
Namu Amidabu Namu Amidabu
(This nembutsu is a ticket to Osei Gokuraku! (I can do nembutsu, so now I haven't lost my happy ending ticket!)

“What's the difference?”
I can breathe, my hands move, my eyes can see, I can laugh and cry. They can eat delicious food, and there are places to live, but I know people who are full of complaints.

I can't see, and I can't hear any sound. I can't move my hands, and I can't walk. There is a disease called ALS multiple sclerosis. My cousin developed this disease, and after a few years he went back to the Pure Land. I can't even breathe on my own, and I can't eat food through my mouth. But I know patients who are surrounded by wonderful friends and laugh every day.

What's the difference?
Thank you for contacting us as a thank you.
If you don't mind, you may find a way to let go of your obsession by searching for mercy meditation on the internet and putting it into practice. If you don't understand, please contact us.

I know a woman who lost her husband early in her life but still deeply loves her late husband.
Even after becoming an old man, both his husband and wife are living well. But I know people who complain to each other every day.

What's the difference?
I know people who have electricity, water, and sewerage, and have the latest cars and big houses, but they aren't satisfied and can only think about themselves.

There was no telephone or running water, and the house was made from banana leaves myself. I know people who don't have a small amount of savings, but every morning they put their hands together and thank them when they are happy to be able to cook delicious rice for the monk in alms.

What's the difference?
Is it the sensitivity of happiness or contentment?
It's not enough if you talk to each other
There is a saying, if there is a reason, it's too much.
Isn't this what I'm lacking right now