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I want to break up with a welfare supporter

I was abused by supporters of disability welfare.
The intestines have been simmering over and over again.

Honestly, I have the limit of patience, and I don't want to break up and get involved again.
However, in order to solve a realistic problem, it is not a case of breaking up, and there is an obligation to continue receiving support even after crying and falling asleep, and to maintain the overall happiness of supporters and current workplaces.

It might not be good to draw an emotional conclusion. The supporters are involved with me as a job, even though they don't like it.

But I'm human. It's strange that you shouldn't be furious if you're mentally ill, hurt yourself, made a fool of yourself, and have words, actions, and suspicious attitudes that insistently question your preparedness while provoking them, right?

Not only do I have the two choices of breaking relationships with my supporters or not, but I also have a deep-seated idea of whether I will still live until I have repeated such miserable painful feelings.

I'm really confused right now about what I should do or not do, and what kind of feelings I should have.

Sorry for the incoherent.

supplement. That supporter does the basic work for me to receive welfare, and there is a situation where I cannot use any welfare support without that person's role.

4 Zen Responses

It is mandatory that a “Disability Rights Advocacy Center” be established

That's frustrating, isn't it? They may be people who play an important role, but it is an act contrary to what and for whom they work, and it is violence that deeply hurts supporters.
It's strange that even if violence is used, you have to put up with it because it's necessary support, and it's related to dignity, isn't it?

Welfare for people with disabilities is providing support so that they can live the lives they want. It's okay to hope for such a way of life with peace of mind and a rich heart, and it's a natural right.
You don't want to deal with people who rant, do you? It's really frustrating and sad, isn't it?

It is mandatory that a “disability rights advocacy center” is always established in each prefecture, city, and village. That's because there is a consultation desk to prevent abuse. Even if it's anonymous, reporting can be a deterrent. Please don't put up with painful things and talk to us.

I saw your consultation
I think advice from primary care physicians, psychologists, etc. can be helpful on how to have feelings, but the cause of pain is not how you feel, but the presence of people who go on rants, isn't it?
I think changing the relationship with that person will lead to stability

Please record your rants

“What kind of things were said by whom in what place on January 0

It made me feel tough because of this

But I can't receive welfare without that person, so I have no choice but to put up with it

My heart is so broken that I don't know where to put my own feelings

I want to know how they can continue to receive support even if they don't get abused.”

Rights Advocacy Center where Master Nakata shows the content
https://www.mhlw.go.jp/file/06-Seisakujouhou-12200000-Shakaiengokyokushougaihokenfukushibu/PDF_18.pdf

Or if it's about facility staff
I think consultation with the operation optimization committee of the social welfare councils in each prefecture can also be used

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I read the postscript.
I think the person at the counter is likely to say it, and I understand that feeling.
But regardless of whether it's common or not, it's also true that it's a painful feeling and is in a tough state.
It becomes a question of how to communicate it, so if you don't feel comfortable being alone, you can do an interview and document it if you have time online.
Alternatively, why not use the free legal consultation time to make an appointment with an attorney and have a strategy meeting about how to communicate it.

Let's have a thorough consultation and ask for an apology or improvement

I read it.
I read that you were very angry and very sad when a welfare supporter said something so terrible. I don't know the details of your interactions with that person or the words you were told, but I really understand that you are so shocked and that you feel that even being alive is painful.
Such terrible words are bad words uttered from malice. Let's promptly contact related welfare facilities, social welfare councils, and consultation desks and seek immediate responses.
You will be able to continue living in relationships with many people. It is important first and foremost that your own human rights and dignity are protected. Such abusive remarks and abuses are by no means forgivable, so please be careful immediately, make a sincere apology to you, and promise not to do such misdeeds in the future.
If facilities etc. don't agree, it's a human rights violation, so please also consult “Everyone's Human Rights 110” TEL: 0570-003-110.
https://www.moj.go.jp/JINKEN/jinken20.html
I sincerely pray that you will never receive such malice, insults, or misdeeds, and that you will be able to live every day with peace of mind, and that you can live with trust with everyone. We wholeheartedly agree

I don't know the details, but it's probably true that something terrible was said. It's a violation of human rights. I think you can consult and ask for an apology or improvement. Please feel free to contact us.

Consciousness of mercy

Anger causes stress, so forgetting anger makes everyday life more comfortable.
So, if you stop repeatedly thinking about the staff member's rants and try to forget them, your daily life will be a pleasure and paradise.
It's easy to stop getting angry if you're conscious of compassion, saying, “There are cute places even for guys like this if you look closely.”
You may think, “Why do I have to forget or forgive when it's my partner who is bad,” but in order to realistically reduce the stress in your daily life, changing your own mind (thoughts and feelings) is a shortcut.
Therefore, try to reduce the frequency and time of delusional distractions about the past, the future, yourself, and others (thoughts that are far from the phenomenon of the present and here), and the courageous flow of thoughts (exhausting thinking about the same content over and over).
The mind is impermanent.
Every moment, a new heart, a new self.