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I want to know the correct way to live

Thanks for watching.
Let me introduce myself briefly.
A 27-year-old male who lives at home and has no relationship history.
I'm currently working as a filmmaker, but he hasn't followed Roku since before and his income is low... well, he is a person called an underdog man.
I don't want to use it as an excuse, but I'm suffering from various things such as developmental disabilities and depression.

Speaking of monks, I thought they might know the correct answers to life, etc., so I posted it.
Next, I'll talk about my past, which is an assumption.

Looking back on all aspects of my life, such as work and hobbies, I strongly feel that I was incompetent.
Fortunately, I am fortunate to have a mother who makes me, who is 27, live at home for around 40,000 yen, but I feel terribly sorry.
My parents are kind, but at work and school, words like “you're really no good,” “stupid,” and “unreliable” are thrown around, and they just apologize or flinch.

And it's a common pattern where when you get home, you remember and want to end your life due to self-loathing...

Even for me, I converted my work into data to improve my efficiency, and recently I've finally been able to work one step ahead like a normal person.
However, due to the recent handling of data, I have strong doubts as I break down the feeling of wanting to die and investigate it.

Are there actions in life that are correct? It's been a long time, but this is my question.
This doesn't mean I want instructions down to the details of eating this every day and doing this work...
For example, I'm asking if there are any correct actions common to humanity, such as to be as kind to others as possible if we are alive, and to aim for this.
However, I'm sorry that taking a life is the correct answer, and even if you are told to raise all of your salary, you can't do it.

I would be happy if you could tell me if there are any correct actions that even I am incompetent can understand.
Please save me because I am not worth living for.
please.

4 Zen Responses

The four principles (I want to do) are the basis of Buddhism

It is said that the first teachings (truths) that the Buddha preached after being enlightened were the Four Nobles and the Eightfold Path (Hasshodou).
See Wikipedia.
https://ja.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E5%9B%9B%E8%AB%A6
Buddha discovered a causal relationship where suffering disappears if the cause of suffering is erased.
Also, in everyday life, after knowing suffering, impermanence, and selfishness (emptiness), be aware that the cause of worry and suffering is anguish (greed, anger, laziness, pride, etc.).
Also, be careful about delusional distractions derived from worry, especially when bothering about the past, future, yourself, or others causes trouble, suffering, and stress.
After understanding the above for the time being, it would be a good idea to become aware of the Five Commandments or try Vipassana meditation, etc.
Also, it's a good idea to be aware of the Four Infinite Hearts of Mercy and Kishitsuri.
In short, “right” in Buddhism is a way of life useful for reducing the worries and suffering of oneself and others, and Buddhism takes it as “good,” and the opposite way of life is taken as “evil.”

Let's aim in the direction that's probably the right answer

This is a very deep and serious question, isn't it? Thank you for relying on Hasunoha to ask such questions.

First off, you're by no means “incompetent” or “not worth living.” I think you've looked deeply at yourself, and while suffering, you've continued to make efforts to somehow improve the situation. Utilizing data in the work of a video professional, improving efficiency, and being able to work one step ahead like a human is no ordinary effort. That tenacity and inquisitive mind is probably rather a precious talent.

As for the “behavior that is the correct answer in life,” which is the core of the question, in conclusion, it is a Buddhist teaching that unfortunately does not exist, and this is my opinion.

This is because each person's way of life, environment, origin, and conditions are all made up of different conditions. The truth of the world is that it changes depending on relationships with other things.

Your current suffering and the illness you are suffering from are also caused by various relationships in the past and relationships with your heart, so there is no single path where “everything will be solved this way,” which is a pity.

So someone's correct answer isn't your correct answer, and your correct answer isn't someone else's right answer, right?

So I think being able to work hard for you is the “correct answer.”
Wouldn't it be okay to “aim” in the direction you think would be the correct answer?

Under such circumstances, if you are told to “show me the correct answer” no matter what,
First of all, please praise your “hard work.” Also, please take good care of your “hard working self.” Praise your “growing self.”

Second, please express your gratitude to your mother.
When you say you put it into shape, you're not buying something.
Please put the feeling of “thank you” into your words.
Please think about what makes your mother happy and act.
First of all, making the people closest to you happy is the first step of “correct action.”

And, thirdly, I think it means doing our best to work on what is right in front of us.

Humans are the ones who grow little by little.
Don't compare yourself to others, don't be swayed by other people's words, and spend your time slowly and at your own pace without being impatient. I'm sure that's the way to arrive at the correct answer.

What is the right thing

I read it.
I read that you are wondering what the correct answer is for you to live your life. I think it's very precious that you think so. I think it is very meaningful to seek the meaning, purpose, and correctness of life in a life that goes by casually. I accept your feelings from the bottom of my heart.

I think Buddhism is about seeking the correctness of living in that way and putting it into practice. Please be sure to sincerely learn and believe what you think is right and put it into practice in your future life. I will support you from the bottom of my heart.
There are many teachings of Buddhism, so there are places where it's hard to say unequivocally that this is it.

I know that's impossible, and to put it simply, there is a very short sutra called “The Seven Butsu Tsuji.”
I think it's the essence of proper teaching.
Moraakumakusa (Shoakumakusa)
Shuzenbugyō (Shuzenbugyō)
Self-purification (awesome)
Koremori Buddhism (seshobukkyo)

What does it mean
Try not to do all evil
Be willing to do every good thing
Let's clear our mind
That is another teaching of the Buddha, the teaching of Buddhism
It means.

I think it's a bit abstract, but it's a very easy teaching to understand, and it's correct. That's because it's a teaching that even children are nervous about. However, putting it into practice is very difficult and not easy. Therefore, it is very important to spend your life moving forward, and it really becomes the value, meaning, and purpose of living.
How about it?
Please keep in mind little by little while putting it into practice. We wholeheartedly agree

There is a right way to live

There is a right way to live.
Shakyamuni (Buddha) said the following.
“Don't do anything bad, do good things, and purify your own heart — this is the teaching of the Buddha (Shobutsu).”
This teaching is known in the Buddhist world as Shichibu Tsutsukaige (Shichibu Tsutsukaige, the six Buddhas before Shakyamuni), and it is also said to be a summary of Buddhist thought.
There is an anecdote like this about the Shichibutsu Dori.
Bai Juyi, a famous poet from the Tang Dynasty, asks his mentor Dao Lin about the significance of Buddhism, and Dolin teaches him this Seven Buddha Dao Yi.
When Bai Ji-ju says, “A three-year-old child would be able to say such a thing,” Dorim answers like this.
“Even if a three-year-old can say it, it's difficult to do it even when it becomes an eighty year old man.”
Since I became a monk and learned the Shichibutsu Dharma, I have been trying to put this teaching into practice every day.
Not only is it a correct way to live, but I am convinced that it is a shortcut to happiness.
I don't know exactly what kind of work you do, but if it benefits society and makes someone happy, then you're living the right way of life.
If you get angry and don't hurt anyone even if you say bad words are thrown at work, and you're not hurting anyone, that's the right thing to do.
I hope this teaching will hold your heart.