An old man I don't know said it with a disgusting feeling

I don't know if it will be conveyed well, but...
When I was riding a train on the Higashiyama Line on my way home from the ikebana practice and the international center study session, the middle-aged man next to me said, “It's disturbing! That's good!” I was told that with a disgusting feeling. I was so surprised that I got off and cried in an empty place on the station platform. I cried. I was so sad. I didn't mean to do that, but I said, “That's disturbing! That's good!” I was saddened to be told that with a bad feeling.
What made me sad was not only that I was scared to be told, but I was also sad to be told such a thing by Susuki arranged in ikebana.

3 Zen Responses

That is also a form of communication

For example, when someone says, “That's disturbing, that soot,”
There is also a possibility that you can change the position of Susukino holding it by saying “Oh, I'm sorry.”
If the soot is close to the height of a person's face, it should not get in the way just by lowering it downward and holding it.
In other words, being pointed out by others, and apologizing or improving for it is normal communication between humans.
However, the speed of our emotions is fast.
If it's pointed out all of a sudden, you'll get an emotional shock, such as being upset, surprised, or sad.
It can't be helped, but it doesn't end with being shocked,
“If you think about it carefully, that is also normal communication between humans.
I was reflexively shocked, but it really wasn't that surprising.
If something similar happens next time, you should smile and calmly communicate with each other.”
It's fine even later, so let's overwrite the memories of the shocking event with “actually, it was a normal event.”

I'm also allergic to miscanthus. Let's be careful to wrap it up and take it home

It was said with a disgusting feeling, wasn't it? That was sad, wasn't it?
Miscanthus are perfect for fall. You were able to feel the seasons, and they were able to make the most of it. I wanted to take it home and live again.

You must have been surprised, and you were so sad that you didn't know what to do, so you broke it... Actually, I didn't want to do that.

That's because there are all kinds of people in the world. There are people who don't like flowers, and there are also people who are allergic to miscanthus. Be careful to hold the tip of the miscanthus tree so that it doesn't get in the way of others.

I also used flower arrangement when I was a student. I was bringing back fresh flowers by train, so I wrapped them up and brought them home while being careful not to disturb other people and that the flower heads would not fall or the branches would break.

The old man you met. I think there are ways to say it, but when I told them to tell them “it's disturbing,” I was also able to warn them, “I'm sorry, I'll be careful.”

I hope you will continue to enjoy ikebana.

Please live a life full of moisture

I read it.
You would be really shocked if you were told that way. It's going to be very painful and sad, isn't it? I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
Certainly, you don't have to say it so harshly. I think there are a few more ways to say it.
There are certainly people in the world who say such abusive things. I don't think all people are like that.
Maybe that person's mind doesn't have enough room, and they don't have kindness or consideration for the people around them.
What do you think of that person?

From my personal point of view, I think they have a poor heart and can't afford it. Also, if you always behave like that to people, I think you'll be less able to get better at anyone, so I think I'll live a lonely life.

How about it?

I sincerely pray that you will sincerely be compassionate and helpful to the people around you and each other in the future, and that you will be able to live a life rich and full of moisture from the bottom of your heart.
And I will support you from the bottom of my heart. We wholeheartedly agree

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