About Kouten's new banknote

What Hanakoto-sama knew
I think my mother-in-law and sister-in-law just didn't know.

But if you know or don't know, forgiving or not forgiving is another matter, isn't it?

The special points were off in an important scene...
They weren't people with whom I could share my cherished habits.
At that point, I think a sense of division is necessary somewhere.

Incidentally, it is not uncommon for laws to keep when you serve as a mentor at a funeral include a new bill. It seems that the values of funerals and Buddhist rituals differ depending on whether they are meant to incite sadness or to surpass sorrow.

The fact that the number of unforgivable things for Nakote-sama increases every time there is a Buddhist ritual is not good for health, and in order to prevent recurrence, it is necessary to share manners and customs suitable for each family in ending notes, life meetings, etc.

Certainly, in modern Japan, using uncreased banknotes for funeral incense may be a violation of manners. However, what is more important than good manners is the feeling of mourning. Putting a crease may be an expression of the feeling of mourning. That probably made you angry that you didn't feel like mourning for your mother-in-law. But you see your mother-in-law every day, right? Did your mother-in-law smile and rejoice when she heard that your sister had passed away? Was that a dark, sorry, and pitiful expression? I think you can tell whether there is a feeling of mourning by the reaction at that time.
Also, funeral incense is the price of incense, and at the same time, it is also support for funeral expenses. I think it is necessary for the recipients to feel grateful for their support.
Be careful not to lose sight of your partner's true feelings or gratitude for their support by worrying too much about manners.
It's not limited to this time, but don't blame the other person for manners, and even when chatting about meals or something together, “Speaking of which, in my area, when I put a new bill in the incense, I put a crease in the middle, but in which region don't they put a fold?” I think it's a good idea to casually say that.

In terms of Buddhism, it can be said that obsession with conventions is also affliction (cause of worry and suffering).
Banknotes were probably made after the Meiji period.
If you look at it from the perspective of Buddhism, which has a history of 2,600 years, it's just a custom that doesn't matter.
If you become obsessed with it, your worries and suffering will increase.
Actually, you are suffering from the stress of anger.
It's still a short time since new banknotes began to be distributed, so there is a possibility that new bills will happen to come out at ATMs.
Let go of your obsession and anger, and live in peace.
The Buddha taught that anger and hatred are afflictions (they are a kind of trouble and suffering for oneself and others), even for the sake of justice.
If the older sister who passed away was also given the commandment and joined the descendants of the Buddha's disciples, don't you, the bereaved family, place more importance on the Buddha's teachings (wisdom and mercy) over local rules in Japan?

Hello. I offer my condolences.

It is said that the incense bill (bill) I received was a new bill (pin bill).
Using a new bill for incense gives the impression that “preparations were made in anticipation of misfortune,” and is said to be disrespectful, and in the case of pin bills, it is considered good manners to fold them in half.

Last year (Reiwa 6/2024), the design of Japanese banknotes was changed, and circulation banknotes were replaced with new banknotes at an astonishing speed. Maybe because cashless payments have increased, and opportunities for banknotes to be used have decreased, or maybe because they have a nice design and are treated with care, and even now, when cash is dropped off at a bank, etc., it is often received in the form of a pin bill.

Now, since there are generally a lot of pin bills on the market, I think it is more difficult to search for banknotes that are “not pin bills.” In other words, currently, isn't it conceivable that preparing banknotes that are not pin bills would lead to “anticipating misfortune and preparing”?
I think there were times when they were really in a hurry, got confused, had only pin bills, and didn't even think of “going out of their way” to make creases.

Not long ago, there was also an announcement of tondemo manners such as “putting Shibusawa Eiichi in a wedding gift is a violation of manners.” Don't be swayed by manners too much. What is important is not manners, but feelings.

An auspicious occasion is a new bill, and a condolence is creased
It's natural manners, isn't it!
You should put your heart into the shape!

I think I'm saying the right thing
If you look it up on the internet, it's information that comes up right away

But there are people who don't care
Quite a lot, that's reality

Also, wouldn't it clash if you insist on your own correctness
That's reality isn't it

Well then, what should I do
If you think about it, it's probably “not being attached”

without bending my own correctness
Misaligned with the other person's actions and values
Why don't you try not to get attached