About being at home

I first learned about the consultation at home called Tokudo. This is a Shinshu temple, so it may be different from the Tendai sect or the Shingon sect, but tokudo means becoming a disciple of the Buddha, and it means entering Buddhism in order to be able to save people other than yourself. The method of Tokudo is to attend the Tokudo ceremony at the head temple of the sect, and there are also people who obtain approval from monks by passing the Tokudo selection examination, receiving a legal name, and obtaining approval from a monk by practicing ascetic practices under the chief priest of the temple they belong to.
However, just because you become a monk does not mean that your worries and suffering will go away. Take on other people's worries and suffering and help them solve them
This is the role of a monk, so please practice well and do the work of a monk.
By doing so, your own worries and suffering will be healed.
First, please consult with someone you know at a temple or head temple.

This is an advertised answer, but since you live in the Kanto region, I recommend Tokyo International Buddhist School, where I learned Buddhism myself.
It is a cross-sectarian specialty school consisting of an introductory Buddhist course (April to October) to learn about Buddhism in general, and a two-term, one-year specialized course (November-March), which is divided into 7 traditional denominations and deepens understanding.
Many students who have completed the mission specialty course are receiving their at-home scores under the mentors of the cram school.
I went on to the Soto sect course and went on to become a monk, but my friends on the same course received the rank of abode from Nakano Tozen sensei, who is an advisor at the cram school, and were given the kyo name.
Every year, close to 50 people in their 20s to 80s study at the cram school, and it seems that it fits your circumstances and wishes perfectly.
The recruitment of new students for next year should begin in December.
Detailed information can be obtained by searching for “Tokyo International Buddhist School” on the internet.
I'm not a master of the cram school, but without this cram school, I wouldn't have become a monk, as I had no connection or connection with Buddhism until then, so I'm still grateful.

There are various temples such as the Tendai sect and the Shingon sect.
If you keep visiting Buddhist rituals at temples, I think you'll learn little by little what you need to know before getting to the point.
Also, as you go and talk, I think you'll understand which monks are right for you and which aren't.

I think it's fine to find a mentor from there.

There are times when I feel that “Tokudo” has some special magical power, but in reality, it's just a semi-administrative procedure where you are registered as a monk belonging to each denomination.
There are plenty of opportunities to have a Buddhist relationship even if it's not a “good deal.”
In the Jodo Shinshu sect, this is a ceremony called a devotion ceremony, and in the Zen sect, a ceremony called a feudal ceremony.
In the Tendai sect and Shingon sect of esoteric Buddhism, a ceremony called Yuen Kanjo is practiced.

For example, as a recent example, Koyasan Tokyo Betsuin Temple is scheduled to have a marriage ceremony in November. It looks like applications are currently being accepted.
Please refer to it.

https://www.koyasan.or.jp/sp/news/2025/08/01/6980/