Please tell me about sifting through choices that will make you happy.

(^'^)
First, there is a matchmaking site dedicated to Oteraminsan.
We both have supply and demand, so there's a big possibility that we'll find a good person.
(°°°) It's better to stop it. This is definitely the only time I'm hot. It burns because it is opposed. 🔥 Lifelong relationships with parents. Your relationship with someone you originally didn't know will lose balance one day. Just now. The road that is generally safe is the safest. It's better to hang out with other people.
(*'▽') Even though I'm with him now, when I had children, it's really difficult to live now due to high prices. It's better to stop being a girl who marries a poor handsome host.
(T_T) I'm living separate lives now, so I can only see my opponent's good points. Men change when they live together.
('-ω-`) Let's calm down for a moment. It's really better to marry a proper person than to suffer for the rest of your life due to sympathy or mercy.
No matter how much you love someone, your partner is your partner. Your life is your life.
(>_<) The mentality of wanting to get married is pretty sloppy. It is based on loneliness or a basic desire as a simple creature or life to be in a relationship with the opposite sex.
('-`) Please take a look at the other pages here. It's time to burn 🔥 it's overflowing with people who got married, but they say bad things about their husband, want to get divorced, and regret why they married someone like that. (Laughter) It's really hard to notice reality late. It's rude in your case too, but it's Aladdin even if that's not likely to happen at any time.
(._.) In 2012, the number of marriages was 48,5063, and the number of divorces was 180,5895. The ratio of the number of divorces to the number of marriages is approximately 38.3% (about 1 in 3 groups).
(°°°) A's desire vision to get married are different things between me and Atashi C, who is psychologically and financially difficult because my relationship with my parents has become somewhat complicated and is psychologically and financially difficult. First, what you should ask yourself is that my current self prioritizes only A, and the mentality of not looking at other harsh realities should be activated. Don't face it, are you really happy with that? Maybe it's just me and my current boyfriend who are happy.
('-`) I'm sure we'll break up in a few years. You can decide after that. But if I have a child with him now, it's hard to welcome my new boyfriend who will take over the temple.
('-ω-`) Say this to your parents. Please give me half a year. We don't make children. They said they'll probably come back. Therefore, it is enough to derive the next conclusion and response.

I read your question.
I thought about various ways to keep living in a temple without abandoning my family, being with people I like, and not being disowned.
It depends on the denomination you belong to, but I think one way is for Pisa-san himself to become a monk.
Of course, you definitely need to be prepared for that.
When I was reading your question, what I thought was, if I were to make an effort anyway, what should I do to make everyone think it was good.
Instead of seeking a successor from a marriage partner, I can also tell everyone that you, who was born in a temple and have been close to the teachings of the Buddha, have overcome the worries and suffering you have experienced by becoming a priest yourself.
The most important thing is for you to be happy yourself,
Not only is it a family where you were born and raised, but it can also be considered a great opportunity for you to return the favor to everyone, as you have lived with the support of believers who gather at the temple.
I think managing and managing a temple is also quite difficult, but I think it will also be possible to have kind people by your side and support you.
I thought it would be great if you could show everyone how they live while supporting each other while making an effort rather than seeking happiness where someone else is sacrificed.
I thought it didn't apply to the Buddha's teachings that if you don't throw something away, you can't be happy, that there is someone there who will always cry.
I would be happy to help you in something.

This is a very difficult consultation.
I don't know the denomination or the size of the temple, but since the occupation of the person (hereafter, boyfriend) you wish to marry has become an issue, the number of parishioners is not that large, and it seems difficult to live only by working as a chief priest.
The only answer that will make everyone happy is that your boyfriend takes over the temple.
My father opposed it, and my boyfriend changed his attitude by looking at his father's response while showing his intention to take over at least once, so the only way to solve the problem is to have my father rethink it.
Without a temple heir, my mother and older sister would lose their home after my father died.
Also, there is the question of who will take care of the older sister from now on.
If you think about it calmly, you'll notice that when your boyfriend agrees to enter the temple, it's something you never hoped for.
It is said that they were misled because they continued to persuade them to get married, but let's leave a cooling period for a while here.
(The mother's story did not come up in the consultation, but it seems that she is the one who has the greatest anxiety about the future. (By all means, let's ask your mother to be on your side)
If your father is concerned about your boyfriend's educational background, etc., there is also a way to put off the marriage itself for the time being and have your boyfriend begin training to become a monk.
Seeing her boyfriend seriously working on ascetic practices, her father may also change his mind.
Of course, in order to do that, my boyfriend's understanding and cooperation is essential.
I often hear stories about how difficult it is for the heir daughter of a temple, and you seem to be just the epitome of that.
I wish you, your boyfriend, and your family happiness.

I think it would be a good idea for you to qualify as a monk, become a deputy chief priest, and eventually take over.
Also, if it's impossible due to circumstances such as you don't want to become a monk or your father is against it, I think it's a good idea to leave the temple and live as close to the temple as possible to where you and him work.
If you can live together for a while and develop love, you should get married, and if there is a rift, you can break up and go back to your parents' house.
How you look at him is more important than whether your parents are against him. Does he value you, respects your opinions, and cares about your happiness, don't you think?
Also, when they see their grandson's face, there are occasional cases where parents who were very opposed to marriage turn their hands and be kind, so you don't know what's ahead. Don't regret not doing anything after thinking too much about the future.
No one knows what choices will make you happy. However, if it is the result of my own thoughts and choices, I think it will be a life where I can be satisfied with whether I am happy or unhappy.

Thank you so much for your response.
There are a lot of parishioners, so it was said that you can't do it alone, but even if you can't do it alone, I think it's a good idea to ask nearby temples of the same denomination to cooperate. I also ask a temple of the same denomination in the prefecture to act on my behalf when the schedule cannot be adjusted due to overlapping memorial services and funerals. Whether it's praying, the content of the memorial service, or the maintenance and management of a temple, I think it's possible to devise and simplify things in various ways.
By the way, does dad simply dislike his boyfriend's personality, or is he testing the seriousness of boyfriends from the Showa era?
If it were the former, it would be nice if the two of them left the temple and lived freely together.
If it's the latter, talk about the fact that you have no educational background but are working seriously, that there are no problems with living expenses after marriage, and that you are prepared to make your daughter happy no matter what happens, and if you bow your head over and over again and ask for it, they may acknowledge it. (In the Showa period, it was common for fathers to initially oppose their daughter's marriage. Also, I've heard stories about people asking for requests over and over and sitting in front of the front door for days when they become disciples of a master or monk. (Being an apprentice is about life and life, so it tests your preparedness.)