My adult daughter went on to college

Thank you very much for your consultation.

The fact that my daughter was able to say “I want to learn again”
I think that's a big step for the family.
Overcoming a long period of time and difficult times,
At last, “words for the future” have come out, haven't they?
It really conveys the feeling that I want to cherish those buds.

and at the same time,
Is it really possible to continue, and is the household budget OK
This kind of anxiety about reality is natural only because you are a parent.

That's why today,
Let me share one important point of view.

What is important now is not “evaluation,” but “accompaniment.”

“Can we really continue?” “Are you ready enough?”
If you face it as if you were to “try it out,”
Your daughter may lose her confidence again.

More than that,
“How can I make it into a form that can be continued?”
“Let's fix it together”
That kind of stance helps my daughter.

At that moment when my daughter said “I want to walk,”
This is an image of gently adjusting the stride length on the side.

More specifically...
Little by little, I'm changing my current rhythm of life to school specifications
Let's decide study time twice a week together
Let's go to an open campus together
Research scholarships and support systems together with yourself

This doesn't “make you prove it,”
It's the warmth of “preparing together.”

The reason Mimi gets lost is not because she made a mistake.
Because there is love, we are careful.

My daughter now has a heart that has finally begun to move,
Maybe they're still trying to look ahead while feeling uneasy.

Please take care of that sprout
It's not even about pushing it out
Don't stop it, choose to raise them by your side together
Please forgive me.

“Let's prepare slowly together”
That one word should support your daughter's future.

I don't know if it will work, but if you were moved by thinking about your daughter, that's a precious act.

Also, if you have something to say, please write it here.

If your daughter is finally able to find something she wants to learn, parents will be relieved to have some kind of support. Of course, there are concerns about whether you will be able to reach graduation by continuing your tuition fees and studies. However, I want my daughter to cherish her desire to learn on her own. The desire to learn strengthens one's ability to live.
Also, learned experiences are a great source of strength to support subsequent lives.
To that end, let's set up a scrum with the daughter and parents and overcome it. After that, if the daughter grows up, she will surely be appreciated by her parents.
Also, the daughter will grow up to be a supporter who supports her parents.
Advice from a former high school teacher who provided career guidance for many students.

There's something I want to do. I have who I want to be. I want to learn for that. I'm so happy that you conveyed that feeling.
Of course I want to support them. I'd like to draw together.

Let's take sides by saying, “Let's think concretely for the future we envision.” Also, let them have a specific image of how to prepare the environment for what they want to do, such as commuting to school, lifestyle rhythm, tuition fees, etc. This is not an element of anxiety; it is preparation for working on it with peace of mind. If you want to transfer to a university, you also need tuition fees for a vocational school and university.

The legal world also has many qualifications. If you get a qualification, your confidence and place to work will expand regardless of age, and it will become reassuring knowledge for your life. If you're particular about your educational background, you probably also want to have confidence.
So why don't you tell them that you want to support them by making the expected preparations?
I think my daughter will also be able to think carefully.

It is said that her daughter, who lost her confidence due to dropping out of a vocational school and was even hospitalized in a psychiatrist, is now well enough to go to a part-time job twice a week after 5 years.
If you are a mother, please don't compare your daughter to women of the same age, but kindly watch as your daughter grows slowly but surely.
The fact that my daughter once again said she wanted to go to a four-year law vocational school can be said to be proof of such growth.
However, as you've pointed out, the hurdles seem pretty high.
I'm not interested in the law, and I'm also concerned that my daughter is particular about her educational background and is attracted only by the possibility that she can transfer to the university she admires.
Even for regular high school graduates, it would be difficult to realize that potential without a great deal of motivation and hard work.
What I'm most worried about is that your daughter will be frustrated again and lose her confidence.
If your daughter really wants to enroll in a vocational school, take it as a bold challenge.
It's a challenge, so of course, there are times when you fail (rather, it's more likely that it won't go well).
If you pay all of your tuition fees, the opposite might be pressure for your daughter.
Like your husband, I think it's fine for you to have an attitude of “if you want to do it, try it at your own risk.”
Even if your daughter gets frustrated along the way, you don't feel disappointed, and if you can convince yourself that “I did my best,” that's the best thing.
There are many choices in life other than education.
Sooner or later, your daughter will realize that.
The answer was like showering me with cold water, but please forgive me.