Mindset and wisdom for life

I think what you're looking for is exactly what you're looking for.
However, it would not be appropriate to solicit people into Buddhism or specific denominations at this point.
Therefore, I recommend a book that I myself, as a monk, have reread over and over again as my motto.
“Dhammapada” (the name of the Chinese Buddhist scripture is “Dharma Sutra”).
“Dhammapada,” which is estimated to have been established in the 3rd to 2nd century BC, along with “Suttanipata,” is the oldest Buddhist scripture that can be traced back philologically, and is said to most faithfully convey the Buddha's own words and thoughts.
Many translations have also been published in Europe and America, and in fact, they are more popular than in Japan.
As a Japanese translation, you should buy either “Words of Truth/Words of Inspiration” (translated by Nakamura Hajime, Iwanami Bunko) or “Dhammapada Buddha: Words of Mari” (translated by Yuro Imaeda, Kobunsha Classics New Translation Bunko).
It's a collection of short poems, and it takes less than half a day to read through, but the content is interspersed with deep reflections on humans themselves and guidelines for life, and the content is truly a “textbook of life” (depending on the person, you may be surprised to see if this is the original teaching of Buddhism).
You can see how practical a practical thinker was Gautama Siddatta, the Buddha, who lived about 2,500 years ago from now.
I'll try to extract some phrases from “Dhammapada.”

“Things are based on the heart, centered around the mind, and created by the heart. If they talk and go with an unclean heart, suffering follows that person.”
“Actually, in this world, if you use grudge to repay your grudge, your grudge will never stop. It's only when you let go of your grudge that you can stop. This is an eternal truth.”
“Don't look at someone else's fault. Don't look at what others did and didn't do. Just look at what you did and didn't do.”
“If someone does something bad, don't repeat it. Don't try to do evil. When evil collides with each other, it is suffering.”
“Even if someone has done bad deeds before, if they are later defeated by good, that person will illuminate this world. -As if the Moon had left the clouds”
“Overcome anger by not getting angry. Win over bad things by doing good things. Regretfully share and win with us. Win against the person who lied according to the truth”

Try picking it up, thinking you've been deceived.

The Buddha explained that everything was a pain.
Suffering will not go away from living things, and coping with momentary suffering (homework for every moment) will not go away.
The suffering will not go away. It just changes its shape.
If that's the case, no matter how big or small the suffering (homework) is, you just have to keep dealing with the suffering (homework) in front of you.
It's a life where you can only do what you can do anyway, so don't worry if you do what you can now to the extent you can, it's a successful life.
There's not much difference between walking towards the funeral hall and the step towards the duo, and the one-step homework of moving your legs.
If you cut out only 1 second of life in front of you, no matter how complicated the homework seems, doing it in this 1 second is surprisingly simple work.
Why don't you think so?

For now, I recommend that you set your questions to be open only to monks, confess your mistakes so far, and reflect on them. To the extent that no individual is identified.
People make mistakes, reflect on them, and grow by not repeating the same mistakes.
That's because the accumulation of that growth becomes one of the wisdom and attitudes for living.
Also, in response to what is going to happen, imagine what you would do if you were an ideal person or what you would do if you were a Hasunoha monk, and use it as a reference for your judgment.

“I want to know the attitude and wisdom to calmly deal with what is about to happen.”
Let me tell you the specific method.

First,
There are no settings for the human body from the beginning.
I'm not even prepared.
They are there without knowing it.
However, this is how it is done.
They exist, they are alive, they are living, they are spending their time.
However, I'm sitting here for a while. I'm doing it.
I was born into this world without knowing it, and today I'm doing this, there, here, now.
“Here and now I am talking about this”
This won't change forever no matter where you go.
Something is happening right now where you are.
Airplanes fly over the sky, cars and motorbikes sound, birds make sounds, I'm hungry, watch TV, and things I don't understand happen, but it's not about me. They say you have to meet someone, when you meet someone, something unexpected happens, something unexpected happens, or something unexpected.
A lot of things have happened up until now. However, they penetrate as if water were being poured through a colander.
I'm going through everything I don't care about that isn't about me.
However, even if there are 10,000 events in a day, when I'm doing 1 thing, when I'm particular, I'm letting go of the remaining 999 things. It has been freed from its own accord. You really can't do things at the same time.
What happens when you try to do one thing?
I'm meeting, facing, and touching that.
At that time, how is the heart “doing” in response to it? “How” is it going?
It looks like they have stepped forward from the beginning, and there is no way out.
Even though they are being provoked, they are quiet and unresponsive. I'm not even fazed. There aren't any ripples.
There's an answer there.
No matter what you encounter, the first thing is “just that.”
There was no backlash, rejection, acceptance, or acceptance from the beginning, and there was no such thing as ~ ♪ accept ~ ♪ as is.
There is no action.
It just equates to that. There's no backlash there. There will also be no rejection.
Good people control their own rampage like riders and horse racing jockeys.
It's not about trying to keep the mind from rippling, and there's no confusion from the beginning.
Since I don't have a heart or my own rules to try to do what I want, my own pride (ego, selfishness) doesn't take center stage.
The event becomes the main and main one.
From now on, let's experience this reason there.