It's fuzzy

My boyfriend's father passed away today. It became critical, and I received a phone call from my boyfriend last night, and I was listening to the story, and they said, “When I asked a friend who can see spirits, they said, “When I asked my friend who can see spirits, they are picking me up for about 3 days, and I can't live for 1 week.”
That's where my feelings of “anger” developed.
Even if you can't do spiritual vision, it's enough for anyone to imagine a period that wouldn't be long if you hear that it's critical. I think it would be taboo to say words that predict a person's life or death, if they can really see it if they can see it.
Maybe he contacted that person because he wanted help. Your father's fate may have already been decided.
But I couldn't forgive myself for saying such words to a family that was probably on the edge of despair.
The feeling of being close to grief and anger at that “self-proclaimed” person who can do spiritual vision cannot subside.
It wasn't that person's fault that passed away, but I've heard words that foresee “the death of a person” and statements to the effect that “you have ghosts attached to you,” so I can't help but feel that person's “unsuitability.”

He seems to trust him, so I can't say it very strongly, but I don't want him to continue his connections with such people in the future, and I'm worried that he will step on a bad path.

I don't even know what I'm trying to say, but I posted it with all my heart wanting someone to listen to this mess. Now is the time to have a sense of condolence and a sense of memorial service, but when I hear that person's story from him in the same way in the future, I feel so disgusted that I can't bear it.

And actually, before, that person (woman) had her own love counseling for my boyfriend, and I also have a sense of distrust, “Can you see others even though you can't see yourself?” I think my personal sense of distrust has fueled my feelings this time around, but isn't appealing to him someday to stop being in a relationship? When I think about it, I also feel somewhat frustrated.

3 Zen Responses

I think you should talk to him about love too.
For example, “Can you listen to my love counseling too? My boyfriend is addicted to spiritual vision and I'm uneasy. I'm worried that if that spiritual person is told by him that they will be unhappy if they don't break up with me, they'll be shaken. I'm worried that even if I marry him, he'll have an affair with that spiritual person. How can I stop dating that spiritual person?” It's like that.
If you stop going out straight with that person with an angry face, you might get into a fight, so it's better to talk about it with a smile in the form of a consultation.

That's really important, isn't it?

　Hello. I've also re-read the previous question. After that, how about with your kids...
I read this consultation and see, “Oh, this person really matters to him, but since he's in his position as a boyfriend, my teeth are itchy, so I guess it's a place that can only be described as fuzzy.”
Something like this... it's fine if it's fuzzy, bread, or surprise, but there are times when emotions respond before words. Then, a siren sounds, and something is in emergency mode. It's a battle-ready system.
This is an announcement that “my feelings and heart seem to be in danger.” It's a defensive response we have, like pain running through when we injure our fingers.
In the case of the body, immediate action is necessary, such as “involuntarily retracting your hand.” However, in the case of the mind, “① what are your feelings about?” and “② Why is the mind in an alarm state?” It is necessary to observe. In a sense, I'm in a hurry, so I need to calm down for a while.
This time, ① is that “self-proclaimed prophet woman” or “that word.” And what about ②? It's not something I can guess; it's something you think for yourself.
From here on, as an assumption, I'll proceed with “because you're that important to your boyfriend” as ②.
I believe that actions based on wishes will lead to growth for humans. No matter what the outcome is. However, actions based on anger are different. There are no goals here. It's easy to become a wish to hurt someone.
So that's it.
If I hear about that person from him in the future... “Yes. I don't know, though. So, is there anything I can do for you?” I think it's best to go through it. If you guess “it will snow tomorrow,” what is important is someone who says “that's why they act like this.”
There may be men who like to see women who seem jealous of other women, but they don't go out with them. “Are you jealous?” When I was told, “Yes, it's frustrating. I recommend a quick affirmation, saying, “Show me what I can't do for you.”

First of all, I would like to pray from the bottom of my heart

I read it.
I read your thoughts on him and on those who can see him. I feel like I can understand what you're saying and how you feel angry. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
I think it's possible for you to get confused. I think it's also plausible that the feeling of “don't say such ridiculous things” usually springs up.

But now his father has passed away, hasn't he? I think the important thing is that your father passed away and you are having a very painful and sad feeling.

First of all, people who have relationships with their late father really care about their hearts. And it's about sending it to me firmly and peacefully.

I sincerely pray that your father will be at ease. We wholeheartedly agree

Please pray with all your heart that your father will be at ease from the bottom of your heart. We wholeheartedly agree

Also, please be compassionate and snuggle up to support those who are feeling sad, sad, and difficult. Also, please hold a memorial service for your father while helping each other.

Your father will surely be guided by the Buddha or God, and your close people and ancestors who have gone there will kindly welcome you. They are also saved from any hesitation and suffering, and they are able to attain Buddhism peacefully, and they will continue to gently watch over their families and those they have relationships with.

What that person says applies to everyone. Humans will die one day, right? His heart was so uneasy that I think I wanted to ask that person.
The human mind is weak, and it is also plagued by anxiety. I hope you too will continue to support him while reconciling your thoughts with him from now on.

If you do that, what that person says will seem very trivial.

I sincerely pray to the Buddha, God, your ancestors, and your father so that you can continue to live a healthy and healthy life with him and those you have a relationship with, and that you can live every day in a healthy way with peace of mind and peace of mind. We wholeheartedly agree

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