I'm going to let go of my parents' house. I'm sorry for my late parents

My father and mother have both passed away, and my parents' house has become vacant. I left home and got married, and I'm not going back to live at my parents' house anymore. I occasionally return home, but I am also busy every day, and my garden is getting more and more rough.
I discussed it with my sister and decided to sell my parents' house, but when I think about my late parents, it becomes very difficult. The house and garden that my parents worked so hard to build are now in disrepair
I think my parents want me to be happy more than anything else, rather than overdoing it to maintain my parents' house, but even so, it makes me feel sorry.
How will the late father and mother forgive their daughter, who let go of her final home, spend her time?

3 Zen Responses

Thank you for your question.
My parents' house is for my parents, so I don't think they'll get mad at me even if I let go.
Your parents are probably living in a new house in the Pure Land (heaven).
However, you sisters have many memories and I think they are lonely, so I think it would be a good idea to take pictures of your parents' house and garden and put them in an album or decorate them in your room. Also, if it's a keepsake for your parents at your parents' house, I think it's a good idea to take a little bit home and decorate it.

There is no doubt that important things are passed down from parents to children.

That makes me feel lonely, doesn't it?
Even though the sisters are living now, I feel very sorry that their parents' house is gone. It's a house where my parents spent their lives and were raised by us. That's why I feel like I'm losing even the most important things, and I don't feel well.

It's probably a decision that the sisters discussed over and over and over again, and thought through a lot of trouble.
It's a world where every act is impermanent, but it makes me wonder how good it would be if we could keep it like this.

Even if the location and shape change, you won't lose your precious memories and memories. Your treasure will always be in your heart.

There is no doubt that important things are passed down from parents to children.
Let's protect our precious relationship with our heart.

Please continue to cherish your relationship

I read it.
I read that you are very worried about selling your parents' house that you no longer live in. You feel sorry for your parents for letting go of your parents, you, and your parents' house full of thoughts. I don't know the details about you or everyone, but I really understand your feelings.

I think it's unavoidable that you have to sell your parents' house. You and your older sister both have their own futures and ways to live. So it would be difficult for both you and your older sister to leave a place where you don't live for a long time.

Even if you sell your parents' house, that doesn't mean that your parents raised you and your older sister with care and various memories will never go away. The fact that they worked so hard to survive in that place is very precious, and it will remain in the hearts of each person. And your parents will continue to take good care of you, your older sister, and everyone from now on.

Please continue to cherish your relationship with your parents and live your life.

I sincerely pray for the Buddha, gods, ancestors, and parents so that you and your older sister can continue to cherish your relationship with your parents and live a healthy life with a feeling of gratitude, and that you can sincerely share rich happiness with everyone and survive. We wholeheartedly agree

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