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Damage from foreign travelers

I would like to consult with you for the first time.
When my family kindly guided a white English man who was able to travel to Japan, I was sexually victimized outdoors.
The family that was an English traveler and could never forgive the sex offender as a family member of the victim, and the family that became the victim became mentally ill.
I was mentally ill too.
After that incident, I watched my relatives who were mentally ill and had gone crazy, and every day was so scary, painful, and so painful that I couldn't believe people.
It's too bad, and it's too sad.
I want to ask you to return everything that was so destroyed.
Every day, I live with anger, resentment, aggravation, and a feeling of unforgiveness towards the English man who is the perpetrator. I'm going to the hospital. please help me.

4 Zen Responses

Sexual victimization involves the pain of living with fear or trauma. Support consultation

That's terrible... unforgivable.
Victims will continue to be afraid and traumatized, and will be accompanied by the pain of living. This is a crime.

Have you filed a damage report with the police?
・Police consultation dedicated dial #9110
・Law Terrace Crime Victim Support Dial
・Women's Counseling Support Center #8778

Please also contact the support desk listed above. Also, it's important to take care of your mind. Hasunoha is anonymous, and there are individual consultations, so let's protect your family together.

The Buddha, gods, and ancestors will watch over and save you

I read it.
Your family was sexually victimized by an English traveler that you and your family treated kindly, and you and everyone were very shocked and distressed. The mental illness continues even now due to that suffering, and you don't think that Englishman can be forgiven. I don't know the details about you, your family, and that British person, but it really conveys the suffering of you and everyone. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
Such a thing is a serious crime, a crime, and a serious criminal act. I don't know the details after that, but the Englishman is a criminal. Therefore, we must sincerely reflect on the crimes we have committed ourselves, repent, and apologize to you and everyone.
Those who have committed a crime will continue to be able to pay for it. Therefore, that person will have to continue to receive compensation for the crimes they have committed themselves and make amends.
The Buddha, gods, and ancestors are watching that person, you, and everyone closely. Therefore, that person cannot escape the sins they have committed from the Buddha, gods, and ancestors.
First of all, please take care of you and everyone from the bottom of your heart and try to live every day peacefully, even a little bit. Rest assured, recuperate, and let's all help each other heal.
You and all of you are so precious. The Buddha, gods, and ancestors will gently watch over you and everyone anytime, anywhere, and whatever the circumstances, and the Buddha, gods, and ancestors will continue to gently snuggle up and save you so that you and everyone can live a safe and healthy life.
Please feel at ease and spend every day with all of you.
I sincerely pray to Buddha, gods, and ancestors so that you and everyone can move away from such misdeeds and disasters, and that you can live every day richly and with peace of mind from the bottom of your heart, and that you can share your happiness healthily and live through an important life. And I wholeheartedly support you and everyone. Close to the Heart m (__) m

Separate facts and thoughts

In terms of Buddhism, it can be said that most of the causes of worry and suffering are delusional thoughts about the past, future, oneself, and others.
There is no need to forget about past incidents or the fact that perpetrators exist.
Even so, in everyday life, reducing the number and duration of delusional thoughts about the past, future, and oneself and others, including things related to incidents, leads to a peaceful life.
For example, it's a good idea to try Vipassana meditation or mindfulness.
Using the power of enlightenment (wisdom) discovered by the Buddha, the key is to return the consciousness of “not thinking now about what you don't need to think about now” to the physical reality of “here and now.”
There is also a possibility that people think “the bad one is the perpetrator, and why do we, the victims, have to meditate or something,” but that is also “delusional distraction about the past, future, ourselves, and others.”
You “return” your consciousness to the reality in front of you, breathing, or simply bending and stretching your body.
“Returning” consciousness, which tends to go out into delusional distractions, to the present and here will lead to a peaceful everyday life, so I would be happy if you could try it out.
I hope it will be a good (slightly better) year for your family.

Have the courage and determination to live a strong life.

※I will respond in terms of personal feelings.

That's unforgivable. I sympathize with you.
I think sexual crimes should be felonies equivalent to life imprisonment or the death penalty no matter who says anything. ※I have received advice from several acquaintances about sexual offenses. it looked really pitiful. There was nothing I could do about it.

Sexual crimes are also called murders of women's souls, and even though they are really terrible, sexual crimes still don't go away all over the world. The fact that this situation continues itself probably means that women's human rights are not being protected. Don't you think that's strange?
I feel uncomfortable, angry, and itchy.
※Readers who have seen this are also invited to “reconsider their thoughts.”

Simply put, sexual violence against women is equivalent to or worth the death penalty. I think there are too many people who don't understand this.

In the first place, as long as it is the “heaviest crime” for the dignity, safety, human rights, and respect of women, there will be no such thing as taking risks to commit sexual crimes. I believe (personally) that such laws should be made in each country as soon as possible to respect women.

In today's world, there are many cases where people cry and fall asleep against criminals, but that is also strange. Sex offenders are the enemy of all human women. Since it is the worst social harm that derails women's lives, they should be arrested regardless of nationality and receive heavy judgment, and spread the word about how outrageous sexual crimes are through the media on a daily basis. Depending on the country, women's dignity is not even recognized in some countries. I have to say it's crazy.

Even if women are victims, in the case of sexual crimes, they are drawn into situations where it is difficult to raise their voices. Let's raise our voice “as a separate case” from the older sister in order to change the system. If such voices become louder through SNS and public opinion, we should be able to change the rules of the world as well. In order not to increase the number of victims any further, apart from the action “from a different angle, as a separate case,” apart from the older sister, there is also an aspect where you and your readers raise your voice and take action on SNS, so you will not succumb to unfair acts, crimes, or crimes, and develop a stronger heart.

Incidentally, it is said that the Mainichi Newspapers are also greatly influenced by foreigners when they take Japanese women lightly.
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