About marriage to an affair partner and husband

Currently a married woman, 2 years of marriage without children,
We've been having an affair since about six months ago.
My partner is single and around 30 years old, about 1 year before marriage
This is my ex boyfriend that I was in a relationship with. I was originally in a relationship with my current husband for about 3 years, but I got to know my affair partner's boyfriend at work, broke up with my current husband, and went out with my affair partner. I was also thinking about getting married, but I felt uneasy about getting married due to the fact that we had known each other for a long time. I was reunited with Naka Geno, and after many years of relationship, they knew each other everything, and there was a sense of security, so I was quite uncertain about which one to take with my affair partner and married my current husband. After that, six months ago, I accidentally got in touch with my ex again, and my love for him was rekindled, and it became an adulterous relationship. I met my affair partner 3 times and we also had a physical relationship. I don't think my husband found out yet. Incidentally, my affair partner moved to the same prefecture as me due to a transfer, and we are now able to meet more easily than when we were in a relationship before.
I have a sense of security that my husband will accept whatever I am. We've been in a relationship for a long time, so we managed to get along even after fighting. The affair partner has a calm personality and similar hobbies, and it's fun just to talk. They also have good physical and sexual compatibility, have a wealth of knowledge, and are very much just talking
It's fun and has intelligence that my husband doesn't have.
Confide your past insecurities etc. with your affair partner,
They fully considered that and now I don't have any anxiety
I have no qualms about marrying him.
My affair partner still wants to marry me
They think about it, and after being aware of the adulterous relationship
I want to get married, take responsibility even if my affair is discovered
They tell me they are prepared.
My feeling is that I want to marry my affair partner, but I don't have the courage to abandon my husband.
I also thought about times when I was lost in the past,
Since I have a very deep and close relationship with my affair partner now, I am also confident that I can get along even if I remarry. However, my husband also loves me deeply, and once I get divorced, I was told that I would fix the bad points and that I didn't want to get divorced
I have a feeling that I won't regret getting divorced
It's shaking. My husband is close to family love,
It's not that I don't like it and I don't want to throw it
It's not there. But with an affair partner who gave up once
I just can't stop feeling that I want to have a married life and that I love you.
I'm sorry for the rather random text. I trampled on my husband's feelings and did something terrible
I am seriously aware that they are doing it. I would appreciate your advice and guidance.

4 Zen Responses

Mr. Freedom

Be proud of what you both loved
I apologize to both of them and recommend breaking up with both of them.
I think it's an act of indulging in greed contrary to morals
After being alone and experiencing loneliness,
I can now think carefully about what true love is and make judgments
Please act modestly.

Please refer to it.

Even if you lose what you've had in your hands, will you run into a new love? You need to be prepared

I feel like they're both hard to throw away, and I feel like they're enjoying a free romance that takes pretty good places.

However, this kind of relationship will not last forever.

I was quite hesitant, chose a partner, and got married...

It has reignited again.
It's not about playmates, but about whether to get divorced and remarry.

There's nothing you can do about it...

You only live once, so I think it would be nice if you stick to the love you really seek.

It just bothers the people involved. Your husband, your parents, your parents, each other's relatives. Be proper and sincere.

When it comes to divorce, discussions will have to be repeated, such as property division, housing, luggage, and various procedures.

Since your infidelity is the cause, alimony claims (for the other party too) are unavoidable. Even if you lose what you've had until now, will you run into a new love? You'll need to be prepared.

Isn't it good to be alone?

　There are responses from both parties already.
As you have experienced, people's feelings change. I'm still making secrets for people who “know everything.” You seem to like looking at the grass next door.
Of course, these may be human habits, and they are also your personality. So I'm not saying anything about “both of them,” but there's no denying the possibility that a third man will appear.
Since they get married, they are also called infidelity, and since they are married, they cause trouble to relatives. Marriage is legal, but it can also be used to regulate oneself. It just doesn't seem right for you.
Looking ahead to the future, we recommend “one person.”

Adultery isn't good, is it? Let's go out with our ex-boyfriend after a proper divorce.

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