I'm tired of relationships so much that I don't want to get involved with people
Being involved with someone more than necessary is also heavy for me now
However, there are times when I feel lonely, so what should I do in that case?
You can decide the distance between you and your partner.
In order to protect yourself, you should say “I'm sorry now” without putting up with it.
Whenever you feel alone, visit Hasunoha. Here, while responding to your question, we're not going to approach it from here. Even with such a sense of distance, it's comfortable and safe, isn't it?
You are always connected according to your convenience.
You've gotten tired of relationships, haven't you? First, please forgive yourself for that heartfelt voice saying “I don't want to be interfered with by anyone.” Now that I have closed the door to my heart and am in a quiet period of protection, there is no need to force myself to get involved with people.
Still, “feeling lonely once in a while” is proof that you're still deep in your heart and looking for a warm connection with the world. It seems contradictory, and this is a very normal function of the mind. What should I do when I feel that loneliness? My suggestion is to “get involved with things that aren't people.”
Humans inevitably interfere with each other with words and emotions, but nature and Buddha are different. The moon in the sky, the roadside flowers, or the serenity of a Buddhist altar. They don't demand anything from you, they don't evaluate anything, they just “stay” there. In Buddhism, this is called a “silent sermon.” By focusing on beings that are beyond words, loneliness can be transformed into peace called “silence” without the hassle of being interfered with.
When you're lonely, don't force yourself to find someone; just drink tea quietly or look up at the sky. “I'm alone, but I'm not cut off from the world.” It's enough just to feel that way. Like Amida's light, the warmth of watching you silently is always there, even if you can't see it with your eyes.
Worship
Engiji Temple Shakujo
I read it.
I read that you are tired of relationships and don't want to get involved with people, and that you feel alone in the midst of that. I don't know the details about you or your relationships with the people around you, but I sincerely accept your feelings.
In our lives, there are difficult and troublesome things in our relationships with people, and there are times when we are swayed by people and we get so exhausted. I feel like I can understand how you feel.
Nonetheless, I think there is also a sense of loneliness that you feel. It's quite difficult to get involved with people.
I'm also not very good at dealing with people. No matter what, they are very influenced and swayed by the positions and actions of various people, and they often go right and left at that time.
So if I think I can't do it, I try to stay away as much as possible. There are times when we keep as much distance as possible or intentionally move away from the place.
Where I live is in the countryside, so if you drive a little while, you can see the mountains of Nikko, Mount Asama, and Mount Fuji far beyond the sky. Now I can see the beautiful ridgelines of the mountains covered with snow. As I did that, my feelings cleared up a bit. Little by little, you can clear your mind by taking distance from relationships with people. I don't feel very alone there.
You can face nature in a relaxed manner.
If you don't mind, why don't you take a break from your surroundings and get in touch with nature such as beautiful mountains. The mountains and nature will treat you kindly.
I sincerely pray that you will be freed from the hassle and that you will be able to live every day healthily, richly, and peacefully from the bottom of your heart. And I wholeheartedly support you.
It's a very simple question, but I feel that it really conveys my thoughts.
Where is “more than necessary”? I'm sure you can see that line clearly now. If so, what is necessary is to properly express it, isn't it? That's because we can't see “that line” for others.
“Sorry, I'm tired now, so I can't listen to them properly,” or “Excuse me, could you leave me alone for a while?”
And when you feel lonely, you can express it. “I wonder if you can listen to the story.”
Express the distance you want from your partner. We control the distance. I'll try that. Stopping and asking is an expression of your intention.
I wonder if that's fine.