How to live your life without being used

Were you surprised? What should I do to prevent them from being used? I'll try to think about them one by one. The total number of people invited to the wedding. You said they didn't even speak to you, but I'm happy to be invited to a seat out of nowhere and eat something delicious. It's a hassle to go to the movies alone, but I'm glad I was able to watch the movie when invited. If you were in a relationship to kill time, you can also go out with someone without thinking about in-laws, and it's nice to know that it's someone you can turn down without hesitation if it's not convenient for you. It's hard to listen to stories about emerging religions, but I'm glad I was able to catch a glimpse of that kind of world this time. It is said that it was used, but that is from the other person's point of view, and you are on the side of the relationship. If you think about it in terms of the law of cause and effect, your partner used you, minus 1 point, and you may have been successfully used, but since you are in a relationship, plus 1 point, and even with this consultation alone, you got plus 3 points. That was great. If you feel uncomfortable using it like that, plus 3 points will be negative, like 0.2 or 0.3 points. There were no gains or losses, and I answered only for those of you I had a relationship with, so that's a plus of 1 point. But I don't need points anymore. This is because just thinking about such things is an act that harms virtue. I'll leave that calculation to Mr. Enma, and I will trust Amida and take me to the Pure Land of Paradise, so I don't need it. The source of everything is yourself. If you think of Shaba Sekai as a place of life training, it's sparing your life (Fushaku Shinmyo). It means sparing no effort and doing your best. Use your body to work hard, and it's a good exercise if you use your body. Ingenuity enriches one's life as an experience. Why don't you change your way of thinking so that everything is positive, bright, and enjoyable for yourself? You'll be really happy. It's uncomfortable to think that it was used. However, if you think you had a good experience, happy you will be there. The path you walked is not the path people walked; it is the path you walked. Let's make a big flower called happiness bloom along that path. I'm thankful for life!! thank you! I learned while the humble monk also answered. I wish you happiness. Jōkō-ji
PostScript
Far from being convinced, the answer made you feel offended. I apologize. I'm sorry.

You seem to be lamenting that people just use you, but you can't change people.

If you don't change yourself, I don't think everything around you will change.

Maybe it's because you have a feeling in your own heart that you judge people based on profit and loss, that's why you look at your friends around you that way.

Instead of blaming the people around you, please take a close look at your own heart once again.

How do you look at people when judging them?

If you look directly at people, I don't think you'll feel like you're asking questions.

Before blaming others, take a look at your own heart first.

You can cut it off when you think you don't like it, and if you think you can't stand it because you've noticed the other person's courage, don't get involved thereafter

Don't you think ideals take precedence in your head and ask people to “think it should be like this, it must be like this”

There may also be a total number of people at a wedding for the purpose of a gift; you've learned one thing by experiencing it, and if it's similar next time, you can even refuse based on your experience
Experiences aren't always good for you; there are always things that aren't good for you

Wouldn't it be nice if at least the promised purpose of “watching a movie” wasn't achieved if the promised goal of “watching a movie” was achieved by being invited to go to the movies

It's a drinking party starting at 7 o'clock, but I'm free until then, so I wonder if I can invite someone to a movie before that to kill time. The other party probably thought like this, there's nothing strange about it at all
If I want to watch a movie to kill time until my next schedule, I'll line up with someone as appropriate, “Are you free at ○:00 tomorrow? Aren't you going to the movies?” and.
When asked what to do after the movie is over, they say, “I have plans for the rest of today, every day today,” isn't that fine

There's no point in getting in touch and being turned down
It's not good to think that person probably had errands, or that person is lying because they don't have them all the time; people have human circumstances

In the case of religious solicitations, if you refuse them and don't want to meet them anymore, I think it's OK not to get in touch after that, etc., and I've also experienced it, but I've tried not to get in touch since then, that's all

Whether you forgive yourself or not, that won't change your partner
What's right for you isn't always right for your partner, so why not try being a little more forgiving?
The fact that you face it seriously, so your partner should also face it seriously is a type of ego; it's just imposing on the other person a response that is convenient for you
If you are worried that “my friends are gone because I didn't forgive them,” I think it's okay to admonish them, “Maybe my heart was narrow, let's be more forgiving.”

Even if it's bad for you, it may be justice for your opponent, and there are times when you are evil from the other person's point of view

No matter what life experience you have, it is today, today, here, you, and now that you finally evaluate it.
I think that Doronuma in the past should also be thought of as a good guide, good experience, and thanks to you.
That way, your mind won't have feelings of profit or loss. Ichiro also said, “You won't know if it's good or bad until you overcome it.”
I have had a similar experience. It's like soliciting pyramid schemes from my ex-girlfriend (laughs). Ah, it's totally ridiculous. I'm not crying. (ToT) (something weird)
Humans “each other” acknowledge and forgive each other that they are living so hard that they are unfinished, undeveloped, and underdeveloped. You're not perfect either. If it's perfect, don't worry.
I feel that there are places where you have strongly drawn perfect ideals for your partner. With that way of life, you may be able to meet an ideal person, but one day there will come a day when you will be disillusioned with your partner because your ideals are too high. Buddhism is a path to improving one's own spirit rather than talking about people, and a way to hold back one's heart disturbed by people.
The sense of justice and the mile rule makes it easier for feelings of hating people you don't like or bad people to occur, and your own heart is tormented by that sense of justice.
If you don't match your own values, more and more “phantom enemies” will be born.
Even now, you are in a place where you don't have your own person, and you are being irritated by your inner phantom partner who is not yourself.
For example, there are many people who complain about Becky, but those who complain are fighting against an inner phantom partner other than Becky herself. Actually, it's someone else's problem, and there are only people who are complaining even though they haven't directly suffered damage.

Even if the other person's actions are 1% well-intentioned or 99% malicious, you must abandon your sense of justice and my rules and don't take them head-on.
It would be nice if only you were 100% well-intentioned. If you do that, you can understand the other person's human development rather than anger, and even a heart of pity boils up saying, “That's tough.” You can also refuse in good faith. It won't hurt your heart either.
It's also in the thank you section,
If the Buddha is sublime and is within yourself, then you should do it.
If you live your life according to the will of the gods and Buddhas, you will be able to cleanse the six roots, and you will be able to forgive your partner.