How to strengthen your mind

I want to cure the stress that immediately shows up in my physical condition.
I haven't been very mentally strong since ancient times, and when I feel stressed, it's painful for physical disorders, mainly gastrointestinal, to occur.
I'm working at my new workplace starting next month, and even though I haven't even started yet, I'm thinking a lot about what to do if I go wrong at work.
Also, I'm thinking of taking 1 year to get a qualification at a university with a correspondence system (I've applied), but since I'm not a very smart person, I'm full of anxiety about whether I can get the qualification now. I know in my head that I have no choice but to do that.
My lessons when I was a student were piano and school, and I was only active in a brass band for 3 years when I was in junior high school, so I regret that I should have experienced club activities and lessons where I could train my mind even more.
I'm turning 25 this year, and my career isn't stable, I don't have a lover, and I feel sorry for my mentally unstable self.
I want to be a person like a big tree who is unwavering no matter what happens, but what should I start with in order to get even a little closer to that kind of person?
Any way of thinking or living is fine, so I would appreciate it if you could give me some advice,
Thank you for your support.

4 Zen Responses

You can't do anything about it by forcibly training your mind like strength training

Shall I answer this for the second time? Thank you for contacting us.
Ahead of the milestone of 25, I had a hard time with mental and physical disorders and anxiety about the future.

The first thing I want to tell you is that there are no “mentally strong people from the beginning” in the world. It's just that I don't care if people around me see it that way. Therefore, there is absolutely no need to blame yourself for regretting past club activities and lessons.

You are being humiliated by saying “your career is not stable, and you have no lover,” but your career is something you will build one step at a time, and there will come a time when your partner will eventually be bound by a strange “relationship.” You can't do anything about your mind by forcibly training it like strength training.

They aim for large trees that won't shake no matter what happens, but large trees can also break quickly due to strong winds. The suppleness of a willow that easily catches the wind may be the real strength for living a healthy life.

A new job starting next month, and a decision to challenge my qualifications at a correspondence university. These are admirably positive steps. Never feel “pathetic,” and please be proud of your ambition and challenge. The Buddha is gently watching over you as you work hard while struggling.

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Please take a good rest

I read it.
I read that you want to keep your heart strong. I don't know the details of you, but I accept your thoughts wholeheartedly.
I think the feeling that you want to strengthen your heart even stronger as you study at work is very wonderful. Your future is about to expand even further. The state of your mind is probably very important as you gain experience in various encounters in the future. I would like you to do your best.
We humans have finite mental and physical abilities. Every person's mind and body are limited, and in other words, there are limits. If you're going to try various things in the future, try making time to relax and rest both mentally and physically as much as possible.
I think I often get stressed when I can't afford it. It's extra easy to become that way when you're worried, anxious, or tired.
So I think it's very important for me to rest and heal my mind and body as much as possible. Also, please relax and feel refreshed both mentally and physically.
I sincerely pray that you will be able to live a fulfilling life both mentally and physically so that you can have a peaceful and rich heart in the future, be blessed with wonderful encounters and relationships, and grow healthily. And I wholeheartedly support you.

Recommendations for mindfulness meditation

To train your mind, there is something called mindfulness meditation.
People usually get caught up in boring thoughts and often torment themselves.
At that time, focus your attention on breathing and practice not thinking about anything else.
Please focus on the way you inhale and exhale.
If you do this meditation several times a day, you will feel at ease.
Walk slowly or eat slowly while doing this breathing meditation
There are walking meditations and eating meditations.

If you do this meditation when you can't calm your mind, you can control your feelings
You'll be able to do it
　　

Consciousness that “nothing is perfect.” Accumulate your experiences and cherish your relationships.

New workplace starting next month. This is a fresh start, isn't it? congratulations. There are also nervousness and anxiety. But it's what you asked for, isn't it? Expectations, encounters, experiences, and growth await in the “future.” It would be nice if it was exciting and exciting.

One way to train your mind is to have an awareness that “nothing is perfect.” Unexpected things will happen, differences will occur, and there will also be failures. In such cases, I see it as “being able to notice,” “learning,” and “an opportunity for growth.”

Please experience it over and over again. Your mental state becomes more and more stable, and you gain peace of mind and strength based on rules of thumb.
I also think that when I was a child, I was exposed to various environments and people with students and working adults, increasing my experience, and growing broadly and strongly in my way of thinking and mentality.

You should walk like this without being impatient. Also, cherish relationships so that you can touch many things. That relationship will support you.

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